BAD Reference

Did they tell the truth? If so you have no recourse. If they did not tell the truth, can you prove it? If not, no recourse. If the referring person gave an opinion regardless of positive or negative you cannot disprove an opinion

Hey JustBeachyNurse, thanks for the reply...I confirmed with her if she would be able to give me a good recommendation, she said "Yes"...Isn't this manipulative attitude...I mean this lack of honesty isn't unprofessional and decietful? If she was even leukwarn when I asked her, I wouldn't use her as a referee....Shouldn't she have been honest with me???....And, about the 'truth' that you mentioned, I just did fine during my work there...

What are you talking about when you use the term "referee", someone who acts in your behalf in a union action, or someone who states they will provide a reference for you (implied to be a good reference) and then badmouths you?

Hey Caliotter3, referee is a formal word for reference....In articles, the two are used interchangeably....And, thx for the reply :)

Oh, and yes she did not say good things about me...

Hey Caliotter3, referee is a formal word for reference....In articles, the two are used interchangeably....And, thx for the reply :)

While it's true that you can refer to the person providing a reference as a "referee", this is not common practice. You can still call the person a "reference", which is more common, and is therefore less likely to raise eyebrows.

Per the TOS, we can't give legal advice.

Do you know what the reference said about you that was negative?

Oh, and yes she did not say good things about me...

References are not required to say "good things" about you. If she was asked her opinion and offered it, that's fine, regardless of if it was positive or negative.

What kind of grievance would you expect you could file with your union? Is this person a current colleague/represented by the union? Even if she is, she still is not required to give you a good reference.

References are not required to say "good things" about you. If she was asked her opinion and offered it, that's fine, regardless of if it was positive or negative.

What kind of grievance would you expect you could file with your union? Is this person a current colleague/represented by the union? Even if she is, she still is not required to give you a good reference.

OK, let me clarify something here: Nurse are required to be truthful in their practice including interacting with their colleagues/staff/superviser...A reference who stated positively/clearly she would give good recommendation for you and did not, in my point of view, lacks truthfulness...They could have said "Don't use me as a reference", "No, I wouldn't be able to give you a good recommendation", etc...Even, by being leukwarm; when asked, one could see it as a red flag, hence not using them as a reference.. The reference was my supervisor.

And, I thought may be you could consult an employment attorney or your union representative in your institution to help you with this/to investigate the possibility of defamation.

Per the TOS, we can't give legal advice.

Do you know what the reference said about you that was negative?

Not exactly, I'm gonna figure it out soon thuo...I have an appointment with the prospective employer.