I started my first clinical this January and that was the first thing my professor spoke to us about...this was a total dose of reality.
she said being in the nursing program will determine who is genuinely there for you and who isnt!
and she's right. She said a lot of us may lose relationships out of school. She said it's common.
Whatever you do, your education is more important than your relationship. that is something you will have FOREVER. not everyone is built the same. if it's one thing we would expect, is for our partner to stick by our side, be our relief and encourage us during such a difficult time, as in the end, both of us would be benefiting from the career. If your partner cannot go through the lows with you and understand your pressure and be of support to you, he CANNOT ENJOY YOUR GLORY. If they cant go through the dirt, they cant enjoy the gold.
Right now I am in a long distance relationship. I will be moving when Im done with school. My partner has been encouraging me throughout, especially more now, as I have broken down a lot as school is as hard as it is. He pushes me to study more. When Im on a break, he flies across or I fly, so I can free my mind. He's even made the decision for us to see each other every month rather than every other month. I do not know if it will always continue like this, but Id love for it to.
But if it's one thing you don't need right now, is the extra stress....it will affect your education.
My advice: speak to him. lay your cards on the table. explain the pressure and how you feel. if he's not willing to go through it, let it go....i can guarantee you that you will find someone who deserves you and prevent you with the support you need and accept you unconditionally.
you guys are engaged. if he cant go through this hurdle with you, he's not ready to go through the rest of your life with you! #myopinion