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Thanks Rbeck911 for your response. So sending a letter explaining the situation you think is equally effective as meeting them in person? My perception is that explaining something to someone in person shows more of character, emotion and etc. Just my thought. I have a legal letter from my lawyer to give to them already when I go meet them. I could certainly give them the letter but I tend to like to explain things in person. Like I ever have deep convos through text or email I like to call the person. !! Or have lunch to talk.

What can I email the recruiter I interviewed with? Help me with your input of what you would do please. So, I interviewed, and they sent me the first step which is background/reference check. I have charges, pending since 2013. Im getting a vibe to meet with them before the check comes back. I want to email them about setting up the meeting, Im just not sure how to mention it, without being so direct. I want to give them some idea, but not a full 100%. How can I address them? If I waited till the check came back, I feel like it might throw them off. I just rather meet with them before so when they come across it they have background on it. Your inputs on what you will do please?

Blessing

Have Bern a nurse for almost 2 yrs , left my previous job. I know I did a great job but what scarred me most was the few ungrateful pts I had. Part of other reasons of course. I was called into the office for or complaint of not looking happy holding a urinal for him to pee. It's all good, really. I just choose to not be degraded. Nursing has lost it. I enjoy working with the old lady's with manners, every other patient was there for pills pills pills. Docs gave up and just prescribed it to avoid their nagging. Her I am every 2 hrs pushing morphine for someone there with a headache. It became so unethical. I had to take a break. Wow. I went into nursing because I come from a family of "be successful" nursing has wiped me out if any even find the energy to do my everyday things. Smh

I wish you the most luck, that you find a job soon.

I was lost. Here I am, 23 years old, with almost 2,000 dollars in 2 weeks. WOW! What do I go and do now, ? after paying bills, I still felt rich, do I spend it recklessly? .....oh no. my mom taught me better than that. but after almost 2 years of working, I feel like we don't get paid enough for the **** we deal with

will do. when I gave my notice to manager, whether it was sincere, or not,(although I felt it was) he expressed how happy he is for me to make that decision, and decide to take care of me first and tthat it is a lost for them, but he wished me well and hoped I come back in the future. I will definitely update you guys, with a hope that it inspires someone, because I never make moves without a plan B and this is a first without,

2 1/2 more weeks and i too will be leaving a job that has made me angry and frustrated. Woking night shift. Can't wait to get my sleep pattern and life back. Congrats to you.

Thank you all for your words. :)

Hey QueeeenB, Do what is best for you. How ever you found this job with no experience is the same way or better way you'll find one better for you with some experience. So many people have chosen to loose their selves for this field because of money and during their older years, they wish they had done so many other things. Choose your way of life, don't let the way of life choose you. It's hard in this economy, but there are jobs out there, and hospitals need us whether they want to admit it or not. But I wouldn't kill myself over keeping a job that is hurting my health. Good luck :)

After 1 year and 7 months, I gave my notice in to human resources/ management. I am moving forward. The easiest thing about the decision was that I knew it was right. The hardest thing about the decision was that I didnt know what was next. Whether nursing is for me or not, i do not know, but I do know that my year and 7 months at this hospital/state/environment/night shift has caused a great deal of anger, frustration, depression, anxiety,loss of hope and sadness in me. Don't loose yourself for money, only and only if you dont have any value on yourself, in which I think everyone should. I mean well, by leaving. Fear of the future? nope...Ive learned alot about people, and life. I just hope to find my passion soon, whatever that is. Till them. Ill be home reconstructing myself....... looking forward to it. Thanks for reading.

NYC requires 2 years-3 years exp. I have about 5 more months to make 2 years, not sure if Id be alive by that time seriously. With the way I feel now. The young people here either do drugs or like going to the bar. Im not a bar club hopping person. all I need is a significant other, and im set, but that's even hard to find with the culture lack where I am, the schedule I work, the way they live here is copmpletely opposite of me. everything has become opposite. it's difficult, ill continue applying and hoping I can leave sooner than later. im dying slowly I know it.

Thank you guys. truth is I KNOW what I MUST do I guess ive always had a plan b in life, and this case, I cant have it that way. and I am just nervous. Have any of you feared the unknown but took the leap anyway. ?

Please, Insight will be appreciated. Thank you in advance. 19 MONTHS working on a medsurg unit, night shift. no sleep non whatsoever. atleast 3 hours a day, then go to work that night, sleep deprived and tired. I have come to learn that I really endure alot, even when I am suffering inside, because I deeply am. Mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually( yes), socially. Mentally, Im lost. Plain. Simple. Lost. No idea who I am now, but know for sure who I ws before, and can't get her back. Emotionally: Sleepless, no family in sight, (moved 6 hours away for experience). Huge lack of culture here. No one to come home to. Im 24.y.o. good looking, and feel like ****, because of the lack of sleep part. Physically: Night shift, 3 hours a day of sleep, work nights, sleep deprived, no energy,. (Because I endure everything, I maintained working out 5 out of those 7 days a week the whole 19month (still doing it), to continue myself in great shape) Spiritually: My church is 1.5 hours away, a church I went to when i was away at school. my 2nd home church to my actual 1st home church back at home. To get off work at 7am to try to get to church by 10, with a 1.5 hour drive, my body at this point cant carry me on such trips. Final: Im ready to quit this job of unacknowedgement, and loss of drive and go home. I. Need. To. My mental health is spiralling, I am a zombie, generic and sleep deprived. I have endured so much that I don't even give myself the much deserved credit. Everyone else has their family here, and they still complain, me, no family, no one to relate to, and I stick through. I have no job lined up yet, the thought of needing to before quitting, makes me want to decide to just not work again. I know it's best to secure a job first before leaving, is it that bad to find another job jobless. I. Just. Don't. Know. How. Much. More. I. Can .Take planned to leave in March, stuck it out for more experience, I just cant keep on here no more. my body, spirit/ soul and mind has grown weary. Help, Advice .Please.

I'll be frank with you. You will know when it's time. Everyone has a boundary or limit they reach. Some is instant, it occurs to them in the work place, in the moment and some gradually. If you feel this way now, unless anything is being done to make it better, eventually you'll get to that decision. It's sort of like being in a marriage that is very roocky and problematic, you may think about divorcing but not know when or how to initiate that journey, but if marriage counseling, couples therapy , prayer, whatever isnt being done to turn the situation around, eventually could be monthss from that moment or years, the end result will not change. Divorce will be the resort. so in your case. you can keep wearing out till you finally have none left then leave, or strengthen up and understand that the issues are on the patient care side, and that realistically isnt going to change anytime soon so you have to make decisions from your end and what you know you need. You may not be with that steady income any more, that is the truth, and you may not live as comfortably as you are now financially, but you will have your sanity back, and learn to live healthier and better. It's a matter of choosing what you need now. So many nurses I see so stressed out and worn out, being worked, instead of working, letting the money make them, instead of making the money. Best of Luck. *personal healh has no price. In the end, we are not taking all this with us. To care for others you have to simply care for yourself first.

@ toonsis sad to admit yup, but we are doing this person a favor. I wish someone would've scared me before I came into this, i wouldve been in a different situation in life. While nursing is not the worse, HMM well i guess i cant say that confidently, but hoonestly i think it's a pretty draining job. Whether you LOVVEEEE helping people, and CARRIINNG for the sick, and HEAALLLINGG. Thats all great, who doesnt want to help sick people get better. That's like doing good deeds every day you work, but the FIELD of nursing apparently has become more robotic than natural. You may love it in the beginning, but sooner or later, you'll find your self in a schizophrenic mode, just out of control who knows. Im just saying. It's something that is just.......something,no words

Don't Do It. ...plain and simple. save yourself.

I hear you hun, it's so unnatural. Ive been here for a year and some change and im leaving soon, sadly, the money is great, but my health has no price. Literally, when i start work at 11, my brain, is now ready to go to bed, so I have to fight it. it's such an unfortuante way to live. nights is stressful, but Days is more stressful, but it's natural to me, night time is for rest, not stress, and activity. I rather stress during the day and get a good nights rest than fight staying up at night, kind of stressed at work, fatigued, and get home and still NO rest. the only great thing of night shift is the shift diifferential. I rather live my life healthy and not slave through work for extra dough. Hang in there tho, it will soon pass. Get your experience, and if you can, move on to something better for you. I see alot of nurses on nights that are just at their wits end, and exhausted but stick it out because of personal stuff.I simply believe that you need to feel healthy to work well.

Night shift is the worse. If I had tips and advice, i would take them myself. I will say that I have been doing nights for a year now and i feel 20 years older. Not sure who i am going to snap at mid day or if i am going to sleep well enough today or tomorrow. It's so unstable, and it has changed alot in my life. Sleep when you can, if you can, drink lots of tea, workout and eat well, because night shift will already have a neg. effective on your metabolism, either way, so you have to do the work to keep your physical aspect in check. when you get home in the morning, don't sleep right away, spend 2-4 hours doing something, making breakfast, or watching a show, then sleep. if you sleep too early right after work, you'll wake up 3 hours later to what felt like a 12 hour rest. smh all the way.

I started having an assertive voice, when patient will call me too cute, and stuff. it annoyed me because I felt like they wouldnt take me seriously in caring for them, but my actions are more assertive than my voice, so there was no need to worry much but, I got tired of hearing how reserved, how cute, how awwww i am. Till i rage, I guess people wondered about me. im in my mid twenties, gtfoh. im not a kid.

Thank you guys so much for your feedback. crazy&cutern rn, I hear you very well.much agreed.

thank you. i have made sure that I have enough to take care of my self for a few months. I mentioned I am going into traveling nursing, would that be as difficult as applyying to positions, ?As in with traveling, the recruiter or the one i am working with calls you for a job. so...

Here's my story guys. I am ready to leave my job. I have been here for a year and some change, and for that year and change, I feel like I have sat down for that time. My life just feels so stuck. Recent encounters with patient complaints per management has led me to feel like, if a subjective statement from a person can mask the acutal work I did taking care of them, sadly I don't want to be represented by such management. The strange thing is that management here is pretty ok, from reading about other people's experience. I might be silly for expecting them to back their employees up, btu who am i kidding. I have learned what I need to learn as a new grad and just need to move on. This experience feels like its been a long stagnant one. Now my concern is that, yes i do have bills, and responsibilities, but the longer I remain here I am certain I would develop a (god forbid) bleeding brain from supressing my frustration, or mental health issues. I am going into traveling, and haven't finalized anything yet. what your thoughts on giving my notice and carrying on without securing a position yet. I just dont know how much more I can bare honestly, and this is coming from a spiritually intact person. I feel so broken with my dilemna and everything. ANyone left a job without securing one and had luck? how about with traveling?

Give notice and leave on a good note. No matter how much you want to leave a job, whether it was a job that put you through hell, let me tell you. If you know how hard you worked, and how unappreciated you felt, let them lose. Walk out right, give your notice, and smile out. No need to walk out letting everyone see that they got to you. Good luck. :)

God will bring you to the right Job. Wait for your time. Dont force or rush things. Just patiently and humbly search for a job. I have learned that when you burn for desperation, you will end up regretting what you got or not being happy. I wish you the best. Keep applying, and the right employer will notice you.