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I love, love, love this response! It really made me laugh! I hardly ever post any more due to concern about being recognized, so I do appreciate the OP's attempts at writing in garbled code to elicit feedback.

Hi Charms, You have my empathy!! I applied actively for at least 8 months to more than 60 positions! I had to enroll back in school just to be competitive here. Depending on your area, the market is really rough! I couldn't move either...

If I were in this situation, it would take every ounce of strength in my body not to resign, effective immediately, and write the following letter to the manager: "Dear Satan Incarnate, In light of your response after the death of my son, having me present to work two days after he died, for a write up for calling off ON THE DAY HE DIED, I would like to leave you with some parting words... First, may you sleep every night knowing your soul lies infinitely deeper than my son's remains. Second, while I hold professionalism in highest regard, this situation requires a succinct ending to our relationship: Go to ****." I would rather work flipping burgers for the rest of my life than work for this person. Now, getting back to reality because I don't know how I would actually handle the situation because I would likely be delirious considering my son's death. The rational approach would be to secure other employment first, then contact a lawyer and the news stations AND then send aforementioned letter or some variation.

Maybe I am alone here, but I simply could not say "please" to someone who had just treated me like a piece of garbage. And quite honestly, it surprises me that some posters here have minimized his ridiculous behavior, stating the reason that nurses call unprepared.

Wow, this is horrible and makes me sad, as does the OP's statement of the hospital backing the physician. "Create a hostile environment" for her? Yeah, looks like their assessment is a little too late. Just imagine if the persons involved were reversed and it was the nurse punching the doctor. Would that nurse still be around?

Thank you both for your feedback. I really appreciate it!

I would wait the full year as well. I've been in the same situation, I didn't wait and in hindsight wish I had...because the market in my area is really rough! But, at the same time, unlike you, I didn't have another job lined up. Based on another post in my interview thread, I'm guessing you did not wait?

I see your point. It may be a useful tactic, I just personally can't bring myself to say it. I prefer, "wake up and don't be an *******". Just kidding.

See? It irritates me that the idea of my calling the doctor is "bothering" them. I have overhead other nurses apologize for "bothering" the doctor when they call them, but I just don't get that. The patient is their responsibility too. I'm bothering them to do their job? (I don't mean this as a personal attack, Ruby, it is just something that has always bugged me.)

During labor, I couldn't stop watching the fetal monitor to the degree where at some point my OB was on the phone politely telling me to stop watching the monitor! Also, when I first was admitted the nurse that started my IV placed it in my wrist area (I don't remember where exactly) where it hurt every time I moved my hand. I nicely asked if she could start one in a different location and she said it would be fine. So...I ever so casually mentioned the discomfort when the charge came in and she placed a new one right away that was much better. I absolutely hating being the patient and I'm pretty sure some of them thought I was that nurse! haha! Oh, and to answer brian's question...EVERY job! :-)

Thank you, RNperdiem, In your situation, you are self scheduling where holes are in the schedule then...if you don't mind elaborating, how many shifts are available per week? (I realize this is your work place not mine) Also, did you mean you are required to work one shift per pay period? I didn't really elaborate, but I have two offers, one full time, one supplemental. I am leaning toward the supplemental because I would like to be home more with my child, but am concerned I won't pick up any hours the entire month.

This is absolutely HILARIOUS!

Congrats Future!

Update: I got the job!

I am wondering for nurses out there who have "supplemental" hospital positions with no guaranteed hours, how often are you contacted to pick up shifts? I have a supplemental offer and just not sure what to expect. Any feedback appreciated.

Hello, I am hoping for any feedback on how long you waited for a large hospital system background and reference check...I submitted my info last Friday afternoon...

Thank you both for your replies! Good luck to you too, FutureResearchRN!

Well, those of you who read my last thread, I didn't get the job. :/ But, on the flip side, I did hear from another NM at the same hospital and had another opportunity to interview...in a specialty that I wanted from the start! The interview was relatively short, only 20 minutes, so I left thinking I might have been a "quota" interview. But then HR called me on my drive home to say the manager wanted to move to the next steps with background and references! I am trying not to get too excited since I've been on 3 interviews over the past year with no offers, but the references/background step has me excited again anyway. Any insight? I know references/background doesn't necessarily mean I've got the job, but I have yet to get to this point with my last three interviews. Maybe four is my magic number because I definitely felt more confident in this one...possibly because the past three have led to no job offer I don't go in expecting much but still don't have any negativity (at least in the interview haha) Insight? ETA: If anyone remembers how long reference/background checks took in their experience with their hospital/facility, please share. The waiting is driving me crazy!

Thanks Meriwhen!

Wow, his reaction was COMPLETELY INAPPROPRIATE. IMO, you didn't owe him an apology, he owed you one. "I will beat your head." Uh, that's a threat. What a d-bag...and his professionalism earns a gold star.

Thank you all. Your comments certainly soften the lack of response after my interview. The whole process just feels so dehumanizing except for the face-to-face interview. And the fact that employers ignore you after the fact is simply frustrating and again makes the process feel dehumanizing...especially when you did not bomb the interview.

And...not a word in response.

Kel, I contacted HR and was told that it is the manager who notifies. So far my email from Friday was never answered, so I called today and left a the NM a voicemail...asking for update regarding decision timeframe. And I'm stopping there. HR said as far as she knows the position hasn't been filled.

Thank you for your reply, jadelpn.

Oftentimes if I don't get the job, I'm left wondering why. I am asking hiring managers out there why you didn't hire someone or why you chose one candidate over another. Is extreme nervousness a deal breaker? What if the person stumbled over a few answers due to nerves of course, but basically managed to present themselves clearly? I dressed and behaved professionally, arrived 20 minutes early, answered questions appropriately, displayed excitement about the position and have experience in the area you're hiring. How many candidates normally make it to the interview stage(not new grad)? How much is your decision based on "chemistry"? What I'm really looking for is real answers as to why candidates didn't get chosen. Honesty much appreciated.