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I agree. I would not suck it up and ignore the behavior. The text was childish and mean and whoever sent it needs to have his or her behavior checked or it will continue. I would research the number to possibly find the perpetrator and forward it to your manager. I would keep records. I would not approach the person myself. Otherwise keep your cool, as others said nurture friendships with good colleagues and continue being the good nurse that I'm sure you are. I've never in over 40 years of nursing met one who had never made a mistake. I've been in a couple of jobs where one or two people have made my life miserable. One position I eventually had to leave but waited until I had a near mental breakdown because the place had become so toxic. If you don't get the support you need, don't hesitate to move on. Don't stay in a job in which you dread going in for your shifts. There are better people and places out there. Life is short. Don't put up with abuse.

Wow Ruby, thats a lot to go through! Im glad you have come through it and have found success on the other side. Take care!

I'm so sorry to hear that Fran!

Thank you for the comments. I think for me the level of stress won't be bad. I'm on Medicare and supplemental insurance now, so I don't need that benefit. Medicare with all the trimmings is not cheap either!

I just retired. After a month of not working, I've been offered the opportunity to work wage, which means as few or as many hours as I want, but no benefits. I will probably do it for a few reasons: I miss my work family and being part of the group. It is gratifying to be an expert in a field and to contribute. I can help many people. Extra $ never hurts. Why I might not: I like not working, being tied to a schedule, not having to fight for vacation time, not dealing with politics and less than conscientious colleagues. Also not having to drive in bad weather. Im getting settled into a new routine, gym, walking with a friend, meet ups with friends and more time with family. I think financially ill be OK not making extra $. I've got some thinking to do.

Absolutely take it up the chain to your manager. A good manager would counsel her & if necessary show her the door. I've worked with my fair share of bullies and they continue until there are consequences. I would not confront her directly or alone. At the minimum you can ask for Employee Assistance to attend the meeting.

Parking at my hospital cost almost $1000/year if you were lucky enough to get a spot in a garage. Otherwise you had to park at a stadium and be bussed in. Feeling sorry for a single mom I started giving her rides to her car. But she didn't manage her time well and would be later and later leaving. I already worked 12 hours and adding another 1-2 was unreasonable, so it didn't last. She was also late Every. Single.Day.!

I fired a nurse when he said to another nurse, in the hallway, I'd like to **** you. I mean seriously?! Why would anyone think that was OK? He acted like she should take it as a compliment.

Thank you DebNurse, right you are!

I would do FMLA, while deciding your next steps. I did that once, after being traumatized at a job and spent two months looking for something better. I found it and spent the next 20 years in the new job, which I have loved. It doesn't matter if your employer doesn't want you to do FMLA, it's between you and your doctor. Thank you for your hard work and I hope your next chapter is amazing!

Thank you SmilingBluEyes, and same to you! Transitioning to part time is something I did too and is definitely helpful. Enjoy your retirement!

JulieBoolie, Congratulations on your upcoming retirement! Both you and your husband have put in countless hours of hard, but important work. You deserve a restful, satisfying, low stress retirement. It sounds like you have a good plan in place. I am interested in that mucous story! Love to hear more. Wishing you both the best.

Thanks CommunityRNBSN, I think that's great advice!

Thanks Subee, great suggestion!

Thanks GrumpyOldBastard! I appreciate the advice & encouragement. I have to say that since joining this group, .my anxiety has gone way down. Thanks Everybody! I like that trick, "one adult-ing thing a day!

Thanks GrumpyOldBastard! I appreciate the advice & encouragement. I have to say that since joining this group, .my anxiety has gone way down. Thanks Everybody!

Congratulations on your retirement! I met with a planner too & HR at my work. It is reassuring to feel that you will be OK financially. I applaud your decision to make health & family your priorities. Great minds think alike, I joined a gym and have actually not minded going. A friend who is retired manages her time by having a productive day followed by a rest day where she doesn't feel guilty about not producing or achieving something. Something that can be hard for nurses! I'm finding going to bed and getting up at the same time helps. I also dress, brush my hair into a presentable order and put on a little make up after my shower. Thanks for responding Global RN! Im thinking Global means you've traveled? I would love to hear about the different places you've been. Take care!

Thanks Hibiscus & tough cookie, I appreciate your responses! Best to you both. Thank you GrumpyRN! Good advice and a good warning about the chair! I'm looking into runs now, there seems to be a lot in my area, which I won't run, but will walk, one begins & ends at a winery, which sounds fun and supports a good cause. ?

Thank you GrumpyRN! Good advice and a good warning about the chair! I'm looking into runs now, there seems to be a lot in my area, which I won't run, but will walk, one begins & ends at a winery, which sounds fun and supports a good cause. ?

Thank you so much JBM! I understand what you are saying about not really wanting to retire. In many ways I don't want to, though going to half time has been good. I used to work evening/night doubles (16 hours), take care of two daughters during the day and go to school full time! It was hard, but when I graduated and just ? had to work & take care of family & home, it was something of a break. Even with cutting back & slowing down, it still feels like I'm coming to a full stop. I know this is all mental and my new "job" will be creating a new life, incorporating the best & familiar (family) with the new & uncharted. With all of the kind words & encouragement, I am getting excited about the prospects. All of you who have responded have helped me tremendously, you are caregivers, even when you are not at work. You can't help yourselves and I love you for it! Thank you

Smiling Blue Eyes, Thank you for your kind, encouraging words. I do have to make myself get out there, that will be the challenge for me. It was a good reminder too that many nurses wish they were in my shoes. And in the bigger picture this is definitely a first world problem. I hope this year is good to you!

Thank you Davey, that was such thoughtful, encouraging advice. I will take absolutely take your advice about biking and the library. Will you share the name of the senior website please? Again, thank you so much!

Thank you both for your thoughtful responses. I too am a cat herder! I also want to travel, that was a big part of my retirement plan before COVID.

Hi, I'm retiring at the end of January. I was an LPN for 15 years before going to college for my degree in nursing. I've worked in many different fields, med/surg, Angio/interventional, poison control, etc. I've worked in nursing in some capacity since I was 15. I'm 65 now and just running out of steam. But I am terrified of trying to figure out who I am without the structure, support and satisfaction of nursing. I've heard all about hobbies and volunteering, but at the end of the day, my lack of social connections and activities outside of my career are glaringly obvious. I'm afraid I'll be depressed (on meds for that for a long time) and just not do well. Any advice? How have you retired nurses coped? Thanks!