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I agree. I would not suck it up and ignore the behavior. The text was childish and mean and whoever sent it needs to have his or her behavior checked or it will continue. I would research the number to possibly find the perpetrator and forward it to your manager. I would keep records. I would not approach the person myself. Otherwise keep your cool, as others said nurture friendships with good colleagues and continue being the good nurse that I'm sure you are. I've never in over 40 years of nursing met one who had never made a mistake. I've been in a couple of jobs where one or two people have made my life miserable. One position I eventually had to leave but waited until I had a near mental breakdown because the place had become so toxic. If you don't get the support you need, don't hesitate to move on. Don't stay in a job in which you dread going in for your shifts. There are better people and places out there. Life is short. Don't put up with abuse.

Wow Ruby, thats a lot to go through! Im glad you have come through it and have found success on the other side. Take care!

I'm so sorry to hear that Fran!

Thank you for the comments. I think for me the level of stress won't be bad. I'm on Medicare and supplemental insurance now, so I don't need that benefit. Medicare with all the trimmings is not cheap either!

I just retired. After a month of not working, I've been offered the opportunity to work wage, which means as few or as many hours as I want, but no benefits. I will probably do it for a few reasons: I miss my work family and being part of the group. It is gratifying to be an expert in a field and to contribute. I can help many people. Extra $ never hurts. Why I might not: I like not working, being tied to a schedule, not having to fight for vacation time, not dealing with politics and less than conscientious colleagues. Also not having to drive in bad weather. Im getting settled into a new routine, gym, walking with a friend, meet ups with friends and more time with family. I think financially ill be OK not making extra $. I've got some thinking to do.

Absolutely take it up the chain to your manager. A good manager would counsel her & if necessary show her the door. I've worked with my fair share of bullies and they continue until there are consequences. I would not confront her directly or alone. At the minimum you can ask for Employee Assistance to attend the meeting.

Parking at my hospital cost almost $1000/year if you were lucky enough to get a spot in a garage. Otherwise you had to park at a stadium and be bussed in. Feeling sorry for a single mom I started giving her rides to her car. But she didn't manage her time well and would be later and later leaving. I already worked 12 hours and adding another 1-2 was unreasonable, so it didn't last. She was also late Every. Single.Day.!

I fired a nurse when he said to another nurse, in the hallway, I'd like to **** you. I mean seriously?! Why would anyone think that was OK? He acted like she should take it as a compliment.

Thank you DebNurse, right you are!

I would do FMLA, while deciding your next steps. I did that once, after being traumatized at a job and spent two months looking for something better. I found it and spent the next 20 years in the new job, which I have loved. It doesn't matter if your employer doesn't want you to do FMLA, it's between you and your doctor. Thank you for your hard work and I hope your next chapter is amazing!

Thank you SmilingBluEyes, and same to you! Transitioning to part time is something I did too and is definitely helpful. Enjoy your retirement!

JulieBoolie, Congratulations on your upcoming retirement! Both you and your husband have put in countless hours of hard, but important work. You deserve a restful, satisfying, low stress retirement. It sounds like you have a good plan in place. I am interested in that mucous story! Love to hear more. Wishing you both the best.

Thanks CommunityRNBSN, I think that's great advice!

Thanks Subee, great suggestion!

Thanks GrumpyOldBastard! I appreciate the advice & encouragement. I have to say that since joining this group, .my anxiety has gone way down. Thanks Everybody! I like that trick, "one adult-ing thing a day!