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I don't have anymore in me to deal with being spoken down to, lied to and yelled at. I'm sure this happens in any unit but does detox carry a bit more of this sort of thing? If you are going to be a nurse you have to toughen up a little bit. Stop feeling sorry for yourself because you aren't getting your needs met from the patient- nurse relationship. Remember- it's not about you. You are the nurse and they are the patient. They are not there to make you feel good about yourself. If they are rude to you and yelling at you- you need to learn how to deal with it in a professional way. You need to be respectful and professional with them and as you grow as a nurse and a person- you will find people will show you more respect. Sometimes when we are young and new, we just don't get the respect that we think we should. It's not fair but it's a fact of life. This could be a huge learning opportunity for you. Is there anyone on the unit that could be a mentor for you and help you learn how to grow as a nurse? I think all new nurses do go experience frustration and I don't think it matter if you work in a clinic or a prison or a detox center. It is frustrating having to deal with illness, disease, people, other nurses and patients. You are going to be going through some growing pains and you are going to be frustrated sometimes because people do yell and they do lie and it doesn't matter where you work. You have to learn how to cope with all of this and it isn't easy but it isn't rocket science either. It just takes time.

All I know is that when most nurses talk about substance abuse and addicts- it just brings out that judgmental, ***y nurse Ratched side of them and it makes me feel judgy and ***y to my fellow nurses- so I am not any better that any of you. I think what we need to understand is addicts are not any more manipulative than anyone else. When you get your car fixed and they tell you that it was a really tough job, they had to work on it all day and it is going to cost you $1200.00- they are lying to you. When your husband tells you that you don't look a day older than 25- he's lying to you. People lie to you all day. Your pastor lies to you. He takes your donation on Sunday and Monday night he is at the casino with the church secretary playing Black Jack with you money. It didn't go for Sunday school camp it went to the casino camp! He lies to you all the time and you believe him. In fact you are a huge liar. You lie to yourself and you lie to your husband. You told him that you have been eating salads everyday for lunch but that was just a lie because you have been going to that Pizza Buffet place 3 days a week and taco pizza is not a salad. You know that. You are a liar. Nurses are no better that addicts -and a lot of nurses are addicts. So please stop telling yourself how bad your patients are and how good you are. Stop saying how they are driving you crazy because they are trying to get Benadryl from you so they can get high. That is just stupid. You think that they are getting high off Benadryl. Really? They can take enough drugs to kill and elephant but you think they are getting high on Benadryl. Stupid. Why don't you just stop all this ***. Stop the lies. Treat others like you would want to be treated. Maybe if you did that you wouldn't be so miserable and hateful. Maybe the reason that you are having so many problems at work is because of you and the negative energy that you give off. You can't help anyone when you are looking down at them and being an asshole. No one wants your help . You can't even help yourself. You are miserable. You hate your job and you can't cope with anything so you have to put everyone else around you down. Stop it. If you cant handle detox than go work somewhere else but don't blame it on your patients. You are just as sick as them.

OK- I have to ask - where do you come from? And did you actually say that you intubate your patients if they become aggressive or physical? Are you sure it's the patients that are aggressive or is it the nurses who are aggressive and intubating their patients?

Well I guess you do, but as far as I am concerned this is still a free country and I am not going to do anything that makes me uncomfortable to keep a job that I really don't want to do anyway.

Did u have to notify the board and then they told you to set up drug testing or did they set that up for you? I am just trying to understand if you need to notify them that you are planning on requesting your license back before you start all that or how does that work exactly?

My god - is that in your work policy and procedure manual? Are you sure you are not getting some sick pleasure off that? I would be more concerned with your behavior than a person who uses drugs.

I have never heard of that and I know that if someone told me to spread my legs so they could see better as the one person said they did to her- I just couldn't do it. I had enough problems just trying to pee someday and this was unsupervised. I really feel for some of the crap some of you have been put through. That is really going to far if you ask me. I don't agree with drug testing- never have and never will. I do believe that supervisors should be there to see how people are performing and if they are doing their job they will know if people are impaired at work and that's when you deal with things - not just drug testing people and then to traumatize people by watching them and having them strip- that is just going way too far. Screw that.

You need to take care of yourself first. A job is a job. You have absolutely no reason to feel guilty. Coworkers come and go and everyone understands this. It may be a good idea to speak with a counselor or psychologist. I can give you some advice but only you can decide what is right for you. The mindset of you “chose to do It so don’t complain” was not what I was trying to communicate. What I was trying to say and what my coworker was presenting to me was”you don’t have to work as a nurse just because you went to nursing school. You are free to do what you choose. You are not trapped. You do not have to feel guilty for leaving. There is a whole big world out there and there are lots of different things you can do. When she said you can be a waitress or a maid it was not in any way a sarcastic statement. Some housekeepers and waitress make more than nurses around here and she used those jobs because I wouldn’t need any further training. Housekeepers can make up to 200 dollars a day and some waitresses make more money than nurses with their tips. In your situation it may not be about leaving nursing but you may want to think about a different nursing job such as working as an office nurse or telehealth or something. I am not sure but that is something you might was to explore. Whatever you do- make sure to take care of you!

OK... I make it a point to never argue with someone who knows everything. I like to keep things simple. I am not the kind of person who is impressed by fancy words. I was not raised to think that being a housekeeper or waitress was a demeaning job that no one wanted to do. Work is work and there is nothing wrong with being a maid. I did not intend for my comments to come off as sarcastic nor do I believe that my coworker was being sarcastic. JKL33- I understand that you feel the need to critique my comments and tell me what is helpful and what is not helpful but you need to understand that no one asked you to do this and just because you think you know everything doesn’t mean that you do. My advice may not be helpful to you but it may be helpful to someone else. So just back off.

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JKL33- I don’t think you exactly understood the point I was trying to make- and that is OK. I never suggested that anyone should enjoy being treated poorly. My coworker did not treat me like I was not human or anyone else like they were not human and I never suggested that “not enjoying poor treatment was a moral failure”. I am confused on how you interpreted my post this way. I did not mean to imply anything like that.

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I would have to politely disagree. I needed to hear that. It was a simple but very true statement. It reminded me that I had choices. I wasn’t stuck. I didn’t have to be there. I was completely miserable at that job and I needed to hear that at that time. It sounds like you misinterpreted what she said in a negative way and I don’t believe that was her intention.