Just a vent!!!

Your skills are far too valuable to worry about cat fighting chocolate covered spiders. Go elsewhere, living well is the best revenge. Good luck.

I just needed to vent. I have not been on this site for a while so I see that some things have changed so if I post this somewhere that I should not, please move it to the appropriate site, please? I have read these posts religiously because I know I can get some insight to any issue I may have. Well, long story short, I am 40 days from graduating and some of my fellow nurses are soooooo mad, unhappy, basically upset that I am going to be an ARNP pretty shortly. I now have leaned that the practice we have all been working for for the last 9 years is no longer a "sure thing" for me because some nurses have taken their concerns to the powers that be that I am not NP material because I get along too good with the ancillary staff. Some members of the nursing staff don't believe I should be hired at that facigu

I've seen posts similar to this one before. I've worked with nurses who are ARNP students, and I know I don't know you or your situation, but here is some food for thought:

I know that you're going to get a lot of responses telling you that your fellow nurses are just jealous; not to let bitter old hags hold you back, or that it's because nursing is a female profession and females are all nasty backstabbers. Perhaps the issue is that those nurses who are unhappy aren't unhappy about your education goals or future status, but because you aren't focusing on the job you have now and they're having to pick up the slack. I work with several ARNP students who break out the school books as soon as management leaves the building and spend most of their night studying. Their patients put on the call light and someone else answers it. They ignore (or don't hear because they've stationed themselves far from the room) patients calling out, IV pumps alarming or the family member standing in the hallway trying to flag someone down. There are some ARNP students I hate working with because I know I not only won't get any help from them, but I'm going to have to take care of anything that happens with their patient between 5 minutes after the hour and 5 minutes before the next.

Maybe they don't think you should be hired into your current unit as an NP because you haven't demonstrated good critical thinking skills, a solid knowledge base or teamwork.

Perhaps "getting along too good with the ancillary staff" is shorthand for "spends the entire shift chatting with the housekeeper rather than helping me with my assignment when I'm clearly drowning" or "is well liked by the CNAs because she doesn't insist upon them doing their jobs and lets them get away with slacking" or, in some inner city hospitals where most of the ancillary staff is Hispanic or Black and the nurses white or Asian, "is racist -- won't chat with white people" or Asians or purple people or whatever.

And perhaps you shouldn't be hired at that facility -- unless you've created good working relationships with the entire team and are respected for your knowledge base, skill set and education, changing roles is going to be very difficult.

I think it is fair to say that whatever you do in life there are people who will resent your success for any number of reasons. While it's good to reflect on what part you might have played in this situation, if you try to make 100% of the people happy 100% of the time, the only thing you can be 100% sure of is that you will fail.

I experienced something similar. I worked night shift at an acute care hospital. Everyone was pretty much friendly with me and very helpful. After 7 months at the hospital, I started an FNP program. I made the mistake of telling one person who decided to tell everyone else. All of a sudden I found myself the recipient of the worse assignments available and more patients than everyone else working. When I asked another nurse a question about work, I often got a comment like "you're the one who wants to be a nurse practitioner. figure it out". I thought I was imagining it until it happened to another coworker who enrolled in the program a semester after I did. I think you'd be better off in a position away from that practice. Your coworkers are obviously jealous. If you were hired there, they'd probably give you a hard time or do their best to get you fired from the position. Besides, you might benefit from a change of scenery in your new role. Good luck in school!

I experienced something similar. I worked night shift at an acute care hospital. Everyone was pretty much friendly with me and very helpful. After 7 months at the hospital, I started an FNP program. I made the mistake of telling one person who decided to tell everyone else. All of a sudden I found myself the recipient of the worse assignments available and more patients than everyone else working. When I asked another nurse a question about work, I often got a comment like "you're the one who wants to be a nurse practitioner. figure it out". I thought I was imagining it until it happened to another coworker who enrolled in the program a semester after I did. I think you'd be better off in a position away from that practice. Your coworkers are obviously jealous. If you were hired there, they'd probably give you a hard time or do their best to get you fired from the position. Besides, you might benefit from a change of scenery in your new role. Good luck in school!

Wow, that is very discouraging. I get nothing but positive feedback and support from my coworkers. Places have cultures, and it's always good to find one with a supportive, family culture.

I just needed to vent. I have not been on this site for a while so I see that some things have changed so if I post this somewhere that I should not, please move it to the appropriate site, please? I have read these posts religiously because I know I can get some insight to any issue I may have. Well, long story short, I am 40 days from graduating and some of my fellow nurses are soooooo mad, unhappy, basically upset that I am going to be an ARNP pretty shortly. I now have leaned that the practice we have all been working for for the last 9 years is no longer a "sure thing" for me because some nurses have taken their concerns to the powers that be that I am not NP material because I get along too good with the ancillary staff. Some members of the nursing staff don't believe I should be hired at that facigu

First things first. You are not a nurse practitioner yet. This is a nurse practitioner forum. There is a section for student nurse practitioners under the "student nurse practitioner" tab.

Second. Thank you for bringing down the quality of a professional forum with your petty complaints. You should do well in a professional role.

Third. It is unlikely anyone at your current facility will like you when you move up to a new role. There are many reasons for this. When I read your post, I can only imagine that your best option is to start somewhere fresh. That way, you will know if it was you or them.

Fourth. You have a long way to go to develop a professional demeanor, Sooooooo...I would work on that if I were you.

Oh boy, here we go with the anonymous, faceless, "Tough guy" response!!! I am NOT the one to be bullied, sweetie!!!

First, did you NOT see the first few lines of my post that specifically stated that I wasn't sure if my post was in the right place?!? Reading is fundamental!!!

Second, I thought this site was for us nurses to come and vent !!!! My concerns are not petty but you obviously are.

Third, maybe this is true but initially they were telling me how happy they were that "one of us" were "moving on up" into a provider position.

Fourth, how can you assess my level of professionalism from one post?!?!

You sir or ma'am are an ignoramus!!! Your ugly, unhelpful response is why sometimes nursing has this undeserved bad reputation.

YOU DO NOT INTIMIDATE ME!!! So please, have several seats and go buy some tact and decorum because you have NONE!!!!

Next!!!!

Ruby Vee,

I was always the go to nurse for EVERYONE at this facility. I was always there to assist and help whenever we were short-staffed and I was even Charge Nurse on numerous occasions. My critical thinking skills were always on point. So much so, that when the facility was thinking about doing same day surgical procedures, it was me that they insisted on receiving input on implementing the policies, procedures, and protocols for I moved to part-time and then PRN status as I moved along in my nursing education. I never brought my books to work, I left them in the car and would study only during my lunch break. I also did not socialize anymore than the charge nurse or doctors did so that point is invalid as well. So no, all those things you stated, I definitely avoided. And since I first submitted my original post, other things have occurred and more of the doctors have actually come to me and told me who and what was being said and basically some of the older non-ambitious nurses who said they are NEVER going back to school just didn't want to work for a nurse that they worked with and supervised for 9 years!!!! I turned in my resignation letter and I am enjoying my time off and studying for my NP boards. I just want a new, fresh start!!!!

Thanks for the responses. This lesson was a great learning experience for me.

This is why I do not share that I am in school. You would be amazed at WHO will turn on you. Even the doc that told you becoming a NP would be a good fit for you . Go figure.

It's such a shame that people would react toward you in this way. I do believe it because I have seen it happen a few times in my workplace. There seems to be an invisible divide between nurses that are going for more education and those that are content with their staff nurse positions. Some (not all) nurses feel threatened by this. I have seen it with the BSN vs. ADN issue. Some of the best nurses I have worked with only have an ADN. They feel insecure at times with the focus of nursing leadership on greater education. I believe it is because they don't feel valued for the skills the possess through years of experience. And this is very true, many facilities are focusing more on education of nurses and certifications, and if you are not for that, they just kind of leave you behind.