I feel like a failure!

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Specializes in Med/ Surg/ Telemetry, Public Health.

I started my morning off great, I was in a good mood. On my way to work like ten minutes before I walked into work I recieved a phone call from a friend. She was like oh so and so started the practical nursing program this semester, and she is doing great blah blah blah...........at that moment I felt so bad, I felt like a failure. How did this person get in before me? It was as if this so called "friend" only called to rub it in my face. I went Tuesday and turn my app in for the RN program that starts Jan 2012. This so called friend didn't say a word to me (she called me while I was on my to the school).Then today she calls me and tells me this!!!!!!!!!!. I hate so called fake friends who only like to make you feel low as the ground. I was quiet than normal at work, left work and cried all the way home. I have been trying to stay positive and think good things but today I could no longer put on a front. I want to be back in nursing school so bad. I have kept the faith and I know God has a plan for me. I just needed to vent, thanks everyone:crying2:

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I've learned u have to have thick skin. Right now you might be vulnerable but u have to "man up," so to speak. Don't pay attention to what other people say because It really don't matter, only u control how far you go and what you fail at in life. Good Luck!!

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Specializes in CNA/LPN.

I think we always find ourselves with one friend that is along these lines...they get enjoyment out of doing this and it sucks. It seems she called with the intention of only that. With that being said, I'd rub it off and not let it get me down. Your time is coming, and everything happens for a reason. It's a viscous competition to a lot of people, especially the ones that feel they are somehow superior than others. This honestly sounds like something one of my used-to-be close cousins would do. Keep your head up, I agree about needing to develop a tough layer for this program. I understand you being at a vulnerable point right now, because you want this so bad, that you can almost taste it, that alone leaves just about anyone feeling the way you are right now. I'm in the same boat. I'm taking everything so seriously and just biding my time and any little thing that may deter me from a January entrance stresses me out to the max, so I know where you're coming from. I wish you the best of luck...don't let this get you down, after all that's the enjoyment they want to get! :)

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Cute her off! or let her know how you awfule she made you feel by being so insensitive....theeen cute her off. or blow it off 'what goes around comes around'

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Specializes in CNA/LPN.

Plus, correct me if I'm wrong, but she also seems like she'd be the type that once you got into the program, and had a test, you may share your grade or something and she'll always one up it...like say you made a 85, she'd say oh, I made a 90 on that one! ...You will have no time for people like that! :) Do what you gotta do, what's best for you.

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Specializes in Med/ Surg/ Telemetry, Public Health.

Thanks everyone, It's been two day and I feel better. I don't know but I lost focus for a second. I have decided to cut people like that off. If you're my friend then you shouldn't make me feel bad. Anyway you live you learn.

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yes! i live off that ' you live you learn' the older you get the more you get tired of dealing with fake ppl. rather a few good friends then alot of fake/flake ones!

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Just keep your head up. God always has a plan and he never gets you so far and then drops you on your butt! I waited 19 years to get into Nursing School and it was definitely worth the wait. God must've known that I needed to mature 1st before I got where I so desperately wanted to be. I'm a single mama, with 12 kids, 2 part-time jobs, and people used to tell me that I couldn't do it. I'm in my second semester, with good grades, wonderful classmates, and great instructors. Only by the Grace of God. You can and will do this. Just drop the haters and keep the faith!

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Specializes in CNA - Nursing Home/Home Health Exp.

Amen to that yshell12! God is truly in control! Things definately happen on his time only! I've been on this 'nursing trek' for several years and I'm finally seeing things start to fall into place so that I can finish school. No amount of stressing has made it happen any sooner. Be blessed!

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My uncle always told me..once you get something between your ears NO ONE can take that from you.Follow thru with your goal to finish nursing school , your determination with wipe that fake smile right off her lips !!!

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There's always someone out there that needs to show off and rub their success in other people's faces. Those people are insecure of themselves so they need to be validated. Don't let that kind of thing get to you because for 1, that's somebody else's life and their own experiences that have nothing to do with you. If someone were to do that to me, I would think good for you but now I gotta get going and take care of my own plans. It'll happen for you when it happens but there really is no point in letting it get to you that bad. It doesn't further your nursing career or your emotional well being. Gotta let it go and work on your own success.

Plus, I'm sure you know you have to have thick skin for nursing. You will see horrors in a hospital and deal with clashing personalities at the work place. You'll be miserable if you take that kind of thing home. Focus on the good, forget about the bad. And always keep your head up.

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