depressed.

labrador4122, RN · Mar 15, 2008

Lately I've been feeling out of focus and losing hope. I don't know but when I took the Nclex and found out that I failed I wasn't feeling so bad, it just hit me now..I bought a new book Saunders..but to be honest I'm not reading it that religiously I'm getting tired of being here in the same situation. This will be the 3rd time that I take the nclex. My brother's not happy with me, my parents are alright but I know they just don't have the same faith in me anymore that I can do this..my sister's moved on with her life as an RN, and here I am..still a failure. It's really hard being the one in the situation of failure and being compared to a sibling that passed on her second take..it just makes me feel miserable and dumb. When you see others talk about it..it's easy to give advice..but when it's you it really is hard..

well, all I can say to you is to hang in there, and keep trying.

I know here in FL, they make the people who fail the nclex-rn after the third try take a remediation course.

perhaps you need something like that, and here in FL, the community college offers the class. That you might find helpful.

keep trying, if you want it you can do it.

gwafuh_rn, BSN, RN · Mar 15, 2008

i took the exam last week and up to now there is no result.its my 2nd time to take the exam.my mom just told me to retake the exam.i know deep inside her she is sad because she also assumed that i failed the exam the 2nd time.now im doing suzannes 1st tip.

CFainy · Mar 15, 2008

I know exactly how you feel and it's sad that this dumb exam makes us feel so low. I'm also studying for the third time. In my case, the parents compare me to all of my friends who have already passed. Its hard, i know and at times I feel like I will never be able to pass so what is the point in picking up a book.

On the other hand, we have worked so hard and its this one exam that is standing in the way of our career...we will succeed, we will. I feel like its my nerves that play a huge role on test day but mabey i'm just dumb, who knows!?! Im using Saunders now also and doing numerous q's. hopefully it helps.

We are just stuck in a rut right now but just think of how amazing we will feel when this is all over and we are officially nurses! Dont loose hope. its so so so so hard but just get back on the horse, one day we will look back and laugh at this ridiculous nclex journey...

obgoddess · Mar 15, 2008

I know the Hurst Review helped me alot. As redneck as it seemed at times, it simplified things and took some of the stress out of it.

kk54321 · Mar 15, 2008

hey!! you should be SO proud of yourself that you have made it this far!! You WILL pass this test you KNOW what you're doing! You have passed very hard nursing classes so there is no doubt in my mind that you can pass this final test! Keep you're head up, dont think about what anyone else in your family is thinking. KNOW that you can do it, get studying and study soo much that you know that you will pass it this time! :yeah:

jenrn2008 · Mar 15, 2008

krmelin,

i know how you feel believe me! my sister is also a nurse and passed on the first try.... my dad calls me every week to find out when i am taking the test (he doesn't know that i already took it and failed :cry: , i haven't told anyone in my family)....

you shouldn't compare yourself to your sister. remember you are doing this for you not for anyone else... don't drown youself in the opinion of others..... breathe.. seriously breathe.... look at yourself and remember that you are the one who got into nursing school, you are the one who took all the nursing exams and clinicals you are the one who completed the program succesfully and now you are the one who will take this exam so that you can work and provide care to your patients....

see how this whole situation is about you and not about your parents, your sisters, your friends....

believe me, i know how you feel.... but when you stop thinking about what everyone else thinks and start focusing on yourself, then you will overcome this acute state of hoplesness...

if you just found out you failed then take a week off!!! do something for yourself that is unrelated to school completley! the come back to the drawing board! i suggest suzannes plan.... go through step 1, then contact her for step 2 (send her a private message). from what i hear, her plan works and i am doing part 2 as we speek!

don't give up hope! you can do it once you realize that you are doing it for you!!!!!!

genny

ps, sorry for the long message, i just know how painful it feels to be compared to your siblings....:paw:

kremlin · Mar 15, 2008

thanks guys, all of you are really nice. I'm glad to feel and be part of this community.

kremlin · Mar 15, 2008

I literally cried reading this posted...thanks genny..

kremlin · Mar 15, 2008

i took the exam last week and up to now there is no result.its my 2nd time to take the exam.my mom just told me to retake the exam.i know deep inside her she is sad because she also assumed that i failed the exam the 2nd time.now im doing suzannes 1st tip.

I wish you luck. and thanks for responding..

kremlin · Mar 15, 2008

I know exactly how you feel and it's sad that this dumb exam makes us feel so low. I'm also studying for the third time. In my case, the parents compare me to all of my friends who have already passed. Its hard, i know and at times I feel like I will never be able to pass so what is the point in picking up a book.
On the other hand, we have worked so hard and its this one exam that is standing in the way of our career...we will succeed, we will. I feel like its my nerves that play a huge role on test day but mabey i'm just dumb, who knows!?! Im using Saunders now also and doing numerous q's. hopefully it helps.
We are just stuck in a rut right now but just think of how amazing we will feel when this is all over and we are officially nurses! Dont loose hope. its so so so so hard but just get back on the horse, one day we will look back and laugh at this ridiculous nclex journey...

yeah I know I get that from my parents too. When they talk about my classmates or people that I know that have already passed the test ages ago, and it just makes me feel more behind and stupid that I'm still here. I dont know if they think it helps to stress that I haven't passed yet so I can step up my game or what...but it makes me feel worse.. I don't think any of us are dumb, I guess all of us just have different ways or learning and understanding things..but if we got through Nursing school I guess we can get through this test too..I give my goodluck to you as well..thank you for inspiring me to try again..I really do mean that.

wishiwereanurse, BSN, RN · Mar 15, 2008

Hi kremlin I know just how you feel. Many times Im tough and thick skinned specially when talking to family and friends, but at nights sometimes I cry and break down too feeling like im such a failure and I dont know what to do with this nclex situation. Sometimes I ask my boyfriend when is it gonna be my turn, I mean its so sad I miss having duty, my friends are talking on and on about how their careers are going and me, I'm still stuck at studying. I keep telling myself and I know to myself that I can do this but sometimes I just get so down...its so hard... :cry: