Seriously fed up.

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I work 2nd shift at a nursing home. This one aide I report to on third shift, can go kiss my ass. Seriously. I go through walkthrough tonight with her and she doesn't even listen to my report. I get to a room and I'll say "Patient A is weak on transfers..." And then she will disappear into the room, looking for things I do wrong or she doesn't like, and blasts me for it. For instance, I noticed she was placing patients in all room in the low bed position, regardless of what was said to do in their charting. I politely asked why she was doing that. She snapped at me and told me that "oh you care if they fall today, but I am sure you dont care if they fall tomorrow morning". I had two residents on another hall that I told her I was assigned, and before I could tell her anything she sassily told me "yes I saw you didnt even bother to put heel protectors on so and sos feet, way to go". Then she just walked off.

Now if I make an error, politely tell me, and I will try to fix my error. But don't be so damn rude. I feel like all I am trying to do when I work is impress third shift. And it is really getting on my nerves. Thoughts?

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When I first became an aide, I dealt with some aides who just loved to tear a newbie down in the rudest way possible.

Some of what they said may have been true but the delivery of their message was nasty.

I made, then, a point to make sure my assignments were beyond criticism.

I busted my butt to make sure everything was sooooooo perfect that I left them nothing to fuss over... and I became known as one of the best darn aides they ever had.

Give it time, bust your butt, ignore the rudeness and don't play into it, figure out if their criticisms have any merit, make corrections and rise above it.

Also, there are some people who enjoy finding fault in anything they can.

You cannot control how they act, but you can control how you respond to them.

Remain calm, professional and polite... don't feed the beast... they hate that.

If she doesn't listen to your report and walks off, it's on her if she misses something.

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Talk to this person once, directly, about her behavior and how it affects you. If she does not take what you say to heart, then bring it up to your charge nurse if it bothers you enough that you feel it is compromising patient care. Teamwork is for everyone, it is not supposed to be a one way street.

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I work with someone like that. The thing is, they will always find something to criticize. Do your job the way you've been trained, leave your people in better condition than you found them. It isn't about you; it's them.

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Apparently she does this with several other people too. Like keep up, I'm going to be your boss in a year and a half buddy.

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I work 2nd shift at a nursing home. This one aide I report to on third shift, can go kiss my ass. Seriously. I go through walkthrough tonight with her and she doesn't even listen to my report. I get to a room and I'll say "Patient A is weak on transfers..." And then she will disappear into the room, looking for things I do wrong or she doesn't like, and blasts me for it. For instance, I noticed she was placing patients in all room in the low bed position, regardless of what was said to do in their charting. I politely asked why she was doing that. She snapped at me and told me that "oh you care if they fall today, but I am sure you dont care if they fall tomorrow morning". I had two residents on another hall that I told her I was assigned, and before I could tell her anything she sassily told me "yes I saw you didnt even bother to put heel protectors on so and sos feet, way to go". Then she just walked off.

Now if I make an error, politely tell me, and I will try to fix my error. But don't be so damn rude. I feel like all I am trying to do when I work is impress third shift. And it is really getting on my nerves. Thoughts?

Just do your job right for YOU and the PATIENTS. Everything you do you do for them, at most places their bed should always be in the lowest positions. Heel protectors are hit and miss because some of them kick them off and some just outright refuses to wear them. The next time she acts like that DON'T TALK TO HER, REPORT HER to THE ADON I bet she won't mess with you anymore. She's behaving childish and unprofessional. 9/10 she's miserable, sucks for her huh?? lol

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Talk to this person once, directly, about her behavior and how it affects you. If she does not take what you say to heart, then bring it up to your charge nurse if it bothers you enough that you feel it is compromising patient care. Teamwork is for everyone, it is not supposed to be a one way street.

She's already hostile and looking for trouble, I would have to disagree on her going this route. Clearly she's not the type of person one can "talk to".

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