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(Pardon my rant:) Ugh. I see so many people calling OP's hubby controlling, in need of therapy, etc, just because he expressed his preference, which is different from hers (and out of concern for her safety and continued anonymity). If the situation were reverse, and a wife had expressed her preference to her husband's posting, the majority of you would never call her controlling or assume she's in need of therapy. And you ladies who say, "You're an adult; do what you want!" Is that what you tell your husband-- do whatever he wants, without your input or opinion, or any consideration for how it will affect you? Doubtful. Rather selfish advice, imo. Marriages are unions, or should be. Single people do whatever they want. Married people love each other, so they consider one another. Sometimes I think "Happy wife = happy life" is one of the saddest truths there is. We can really make our men miserable if our every whim isn't catered to and every desire fulfilled. Anyway, I prefer to honor and respect my spouse enough to consider his opinions and preferences. Even if we disagree, my marriage is much more important than any of you or an online forum. But to each his/her own. Perhaps a good heartfelt discussion between the two is in order for OP and spouse, and I'm sure they'll come to an agreement of some sort without the input of hundreds of online strangers. As another so perfectly put... Peace. Blessings to each of you.

Omg I love that show!!! Binge watch it when I should be sleeping. I'm definitely Zoey. I wish I were more like Jackie, but I'm a Zoey through and through. But there's a place for me too in nursing. :)

One more thing I've relearned... Some nurses just inspire you to be better. I floated to a different floor and worked alongside one of those type nurses. I'm thankful for those types. They work hard and work well. They're just doing their job taking care of people and never even realize they're inspiring others in the process.

Maybe try being a hospital sitter or CNA first. If you hate doing both of those, don't go into nursing.

One of the biggest and most life changing lessons I've learned is that death can be more merciful than life. Sometimes people die of their disease and that's okay because, for them, to live would mean ongoing suffering. Being in curative care, it's easy to consider death the worst case scenario, but I've come to realize that sometimes it's not. Death can even be beautiful at times. It really is the "final stage of growth" in life- accepting when death to the body is occurring, making their peace with it, and just making the most of their last months, weeks, or days. Sometimes the only time a person has really lived is after they're given the news that they're dying.

Problems with co-workers will always be a leading cause of leaving your job, whatever job that may be. In my experience, there is so much drama in female-dominated workplaces. In jobs I worked that were male-dominated, if they had a problem they'd have it out and then it would be over... No passive aggressive tactics, gossiping, backbiting, and grudge holding that we females often tend to do. Men and women just handle coworker problems very differently. I don't have patience for idiocy among co-workers. The job is hard enough as it is. I come to work to work, I try to be nice to everyone, and I stay away from the gossips and drama queens/kings. It really can be that simple.

I'm from the South. Please know that many people fly Confederate flags because they equate it with Southern heritage and culture, not necessarily racism. One of my good friends who flies that flag also is married to an African American woman. He simply loves Southern culture, the history, hospitality, food, etc. His wife allows it because she knows what he's all about. I agree with another poster that slave driver is a common term used in reference to having a tough boss. I hate that you feel unsafe. That's a terrible feeling to have. You have enough stuff going on as a new RN without having to feel anxious and unsafe too. Definitely relocate! Maybe move to a larger city where the culture won't be so homogenous. Good luck to you!

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I've known former nurses going back to school for Occupational Therapist Assistant or Physical Therapist Assistant. 2 yr program here. Pay differs by state but in mine, pay is the same or a little more than nursing. Hours typically M-F, 8am-3 pm or so. Off holidays, Usually off weekends. Good luck!

Thank you for your input.

I certainly wish I was still with them. They had only 10 positions in the unit, 2 of which were for CNAs. I was incredibly fortunate to get one, although I worked there only 4 months. Unfortunately, we had to relocate with my husband's job. A recent experience with hospice in the illness and death of a family member has only intensified my desire to go back to school and pursue hospice nursing. But hopefully that will look good to them when the time comes. Thank you for your input!

I admit I was a little annoyed. Your response did seem smarty, but I understand where you're coming from now. I apologize. Thank you so much for your input and advice. I do sincerely appreciate it.

Thank you so much for your response! Very helpful! I currently work as a CNA, which is my second career. I love working in healthcare. After working temporarily at a small hospice inpatient unit, I fell in love with hospice. I have been tinkering with the idea of pursuing nursing for some time, especially after working in hospice. But at my age I would hate not being able to work as a hospice nurse for another decade or more. And I certainly understand the need for solid nursing experience. These are all things to consider. Thank you so much for your input.