Please help me understand

I do understand. And it is true that the laws and prevention have come a long way since the 70's and 80's. But we still have room to do more.

DV may rise on Super Bowl Sunday but it would not be because of the game! That's silly. If there is an increase in abuse, the cause is far more likely to be that a larger number of people are consuming a larger number of alcoholic beverages. "Booze Rage". The game and the date wouldn't have anything to do with it. I am sure abuse rates rise on the days of any event around which a sizable number of people use alcohol as part of the celebration, like St. Patrick's Day, the evening before Thanksgiving, other holidays, sporting events, etc. I can't imagine there would be any specific relation to abuse and the Super Bowl.

And it is true that the laws and prevention have come a long way since the 70's and 80's. But we still have room to do more.

No doubt. I don't dispute this in any way.

DV may rise on Super Bowl Sunday but it would not be because of the game!

But it doesn't.

http://www.snopes.com/crime/statistics/superbowl.asp

Fascinating! I love Snopes.

Here are more links to academic resources, articles, etc., on OIDM. All of these have great footnote references, including the Department of Justice.

http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/criminal-justice/death-in-st-augustine/how-to-combat-officer-involved-domestic-violence/

http://www.americanbar.org/content/dam/aba/migrated/domviol/priorwinners/Ammons1.authcheckdam.pdf

http://www.theiacp.org/portals/0/pdfs/PoliceDomesticViolencePaper2003.pdf

http://www.policechiefmagazine.org/magazine/index.cfm?fuseaction=display_arch&article_id=2752&issue_id=92012

http://www.jsonline.com/watchdog/watchdogreports/police-department-ignores-national-standards-for-officers-accused-of-domestic-violence-132868198.html

http://www.parc.info/police_and_domestic_violence.chtml

Just like some people are abusers, some like being the victim.

That is unduly harsh.

I didn't jump into my abusive marriage when I was 18, but I was able to leave my parents' home when I was 17 and to support myself. At that age, I was desperate to escape the beatings my mother dealt and probably could have been seduced into an abusive marriage just to get out of there.

If he knocked you flat on the first date, there wouldn't be a second. It happens gradually enough that you're sucked all the way In to the situation before he declares himself as an abuser.

Because Love is blind...and deaf...and dumb...

Actually, REAL love isn't.

Actually, REAL love isn't.

When you're young, or in a bad home situation, love IS blind, deaf and dumb. Especially if you think it's going to get you out of your nasty home situation.

I was 16. I stayed for 7 years because I had zero self esteem. He always said no man would want me. Told me i couldn't make it on my own. I was the one working all the time. Funny enough, i did. And guess who tried to come back? Yep, that pitful leach. My new spouse poured confidence on me, put me through nursing school.But, ittook 7 years to learn that. And what made my mind up was a friend telling me I was going to be in a body bag. Put chills in my bones, cause I knew she was right.

I give up with this auto correct crap on my phone. Sorry about my poor grammar on my last post.

Love is blind. People get in denial.

Great write up that gives perspective on why people stay in abusive relationships: 19 #WhyIStayed Tweets That Everyone Needs to See - Mic

Ripped from the headlines, a sad example of how strong denial can be and just how far a woman can be convinced to act against her own interests: http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/5790770