why do people do this?

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I have posted a similar post here before, but now that I am getting closer to the program, I am hearing it again and I just need to vent !! so bear w me, please :devil:

I KNOW for the most part what I am getting into w going to nursing school. I KNOW it will require a lot of hard work and perseverance. WHY must people --who have not even gone to nursing school--add their two cents and tell me: oh we're never going to see you, nursing school takes all of your time, its soooo hard. ....I really don't understand why people do this?--people w no direct knowledge are saying this to me and it's driving me crazy. :uhoh3: While it is mostly just getting under my skin, it is beginning to sink into my psyche a little and I'm starting worry about it.

do any of you hear that from people? I think it is flat out rude to try and squash someone's dreams!!

thanks for listening.

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hey there those people are plain scared that they might not see you or hang out with you but it will be okay just stay positive... by the way where are you attending school I am still looking for school myself it seems like everything is too costly and hard to get in because california rn school has been adding more requirements and higher fees... thanks

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Specializes in Utilization Management.

I don't think it sounds as if they are trying to "squash someone's dreams"...for the most part those comments are completely true! :clown:

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Specializes in Operating Room.
I don't think it sounds as if they are trying to "squash someone's dreams"...for the most part those comments are completely true! :clown:

Totally agree. If you think you can have a "normal" life doing nursing school, you'll be in for a surprise.

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Specializes in Infusion.

My husband is always kind enough to tell me that engineering school was tough and that nursing school is probably much easier. Would you rather hear that? Neither statement squashes my dreams. I am hoping the nursing program is tough and turns me into a nurse when I am done.

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Specializes in Trauma Surgical ICU.

What they are saying is true.. Don't let it get under your skin, let it prepare you for what is to come.. Just say "thanks for the tip" or "I know" and move on.

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Acknowledge their comment, thank them for their concern, and go about your business. They make these comments because this is how they see their future relationship with you and because they have nothing else they can say. Don't belittle their attempts to connect with you. It is like going to a funeral, what are you going to say? Not much difference. There is very little that can be said about the situation.

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OMG you're not in nursing school for the rest of your life.....it comes and goes.... If it were that bad no one would do it....what would happen if you were in Med/Law school???

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When people say things like that, I agree with them because they are right. I also say to them or atleast to myself that I was chosen to be one of the 64 students accepted out of the 1000 applicants for a reason...because I AM GOOD enough to handle this "as my advisor calls it" going to war. Any one accepted to nursing school faught like hell to get thier and will fight like hell to get through it, thats what nurses are made of!! Its too bad if friends and family dont think we have what it takes to go to nursing school, but in the long run it doesnt matter, because the schools addmisions panel did...you better believe that they looked at us on paper and wanted yus, other wise we wouldnt be here! GOOD LUCK!

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I think that is terrible thing to say to someone. Weather it is true or not, it is not something I would like to hear either. It is comments like that, that are discouraging (not that I am). Sure it is going to be hard, sure it is going to take up more time than anyone could imagine. That doesn't mean you would want to hear about it all the time. I see where you are coming from and I completely agree. When I hear things like this, my response is, "some of the best things in life are the ones that took a lot of hard work to get to."

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thanks...hmmmm, I think my problem is that maybe I am taking what they are saying all wrong.

I think I am hearing them as though they are trying to talk me out of nursing school, or in some way telling me that I can't handle it...not simply stating the facts. yeah, that's what I'm hearing and that's why its bugging me.

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Specializes in Infusion.

When someone says that stuff to me, I think, "hey, I must be pretty smart, hardworking and diligent to get into nursing school". I would never take that as someone talking me out of going to nursing school. If you have friends that are resentful of the time you spend on your studies, you might need to drop those people, not your studies.

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