Need advice PLEASE

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Good afternoon,

I recently relocate to another states and had my license transfered. I've been looking for job as an Lpn for a while and finally found a nursing home literally around the corner from where I live. They in the process of doing background check and references check, which will not be an issue for me. As for the position it may either be prn or part time. My delimma is that I'm 21 weeks pregnant and due in March 2012, I m not really showing depends on the clothes I wear. I don't mind working till the last two weeks before the baby come, as long I don't go into early labor. So far this pregnancy has been excellent. My concern is in a months or weeks from now I maybe showing more, and don't want them to think that I m not stable or that I kept the pregnancy a secret.

My question to you guys is should I tell them when I start working that I just found out I'm pregnant, or should I wait when I m showing more. I want to be able to come back to the same facility after my maternity leave.

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Specializes in ED/ICU/TELEMETRY/LTC.

They can neither ask nor discriminate against you because you are pregnant.

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If you can work ,you can work. We've had this discussion on here before.

Keep it to yourself until YOU are ready to tell them, especially in this economy. Honestly the only time an employer needs to know about your pregnancy is when it starts interfering with work, and you may need time off or accommodations. So you are good for now.

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Specializes in LTC.

Honesty has always been the best policy for living life. If you do not tell them the truth, what else are they going to think that you are hiding from them.

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They can neither ask nor discriminate against you because you are pregnant.

That is true, but when employer want to get rid of someone they'll always find a way.

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If you can work ,you can work. We've had this discussion on here before.

Keep it to yourself until YOU are ready to tell them, especially in this economy. Honestly the only time an employer needs to know about your pregnancy is when it starts interfering with work, and you may need time off or accommodations. So you are good for now.

thanks for the advice, I feel a little better now.

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Honesty has always been the best policy for living life. If you do not tell them the truth, what else are they going to think that you are hiding from them.

I agree with you, but I don't want to run and tell them right away. I m going to wait.

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Specializes in Occupational Health; Adult ICU.

I'd suggest that when someone eventually says: "are you pregnant," then you can answer, matter-of-factly, "of course silly..."

If they then say: "why didn't you tell us?" Answer just as matter-of-factly: "you didn't ask" and smile innocently.

As an experienced Occ Health RN who has worked at at least ten businesses I must say: yes, they cannot legally discriminate, but I must agree with Ha_LPN's words:

"That is true, but when employer want to get rid of someone they'll always find a way."

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I personally would tell them, but you could always not tell them and go in & show them what a hard worker you are, and then when they find out they will think you are even more of a hard worker. Good luck and Congrats!

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Specializes in Acute Mental Health.

I would not tell them. It's not really they're business at this point in time. If you tell them, you know you may not get the position. I wouldn't tell anyone I work with until they ask and it'd better be after my 90 days! :D

Good luck and congratulations :redpinkhe:redpinkhe:redpinkhe:redpinkhe

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I'd suggest that when someone eventually says: "are you pregnant," then you can answer, matter-of-factly, "of course silly..."

If they then say: "why didn't you tell us?" Answer just as matter-of-factly: "you didn't ask" and smile innocently.

That is really not professional, I would never recommend that approach. Is saying "Of course silly" or playing games like "you didn't ask" ever acceptable when discussing employment or pregnancy??

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Hello, just wanted to give an update since you all was nice enough to give me your opinion. I did tell the person that hires me about being pregnant since it was going to be hard to hide. I made sure I work really hard and show them I m not a lazy person, I work more hrs than I was hired for, never complaint and never called out. I had my baby 3 mths ago and still work at the same place....

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