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RadfordSN · Sep 30, 2008

Don't worry about them. Good for you for making great grades, that's really awesome!

I'm always very leery telling others my grades, even when begged, because it feels awful being resented by your classmates just because you scored better.

Hopefully they'll get over it and just work harder to do better.

Again, congratulations on doing so well. :]

polka-dot, RN · Sep 30, 2008

When someone asks me what grade I got, I always say "The grade I wanted." For some people, this could mean a pass, for others it's the highest grade in the class...only you know! Of course, I'll tell my close friends but that's only because I know they would never resent me...or I them.

Good luck to you!

DroogieRN · Sep 30, 2008

I'm always a little nervous discussing my grades as well. But even more incentive not to: we're not allowed. I haven't seen it in action yet but supposedly if we are overheard by our instructors we will be "in trouble," whatever that might mean...

coffeefix · Sep 30, 2008

1st of all - congratulations on your grades!! You should be proud of them. I've gone through something similar. I finally learned my lesson while taking my pre-reqs. It's so childish when people give you attitude for making a better grade than them. Since I started my nursing classes in Aug., when ever someone asks me what I made - I just say "I passed". I've even had a few people give me an attitude for not telling them, but it's not anyone's business. It's MY grade. I'm not concerned with anyone else's grade, so they shouldn't be concerned with mine. I don't intend on sharing my grades again. Good luck!!

missjennmb · Sep 30, 2008

Bluntly? people are going to be negative if they're negative, and if it wasnt grades it would be something else. Eye on the prize and ignore the rest. (I have this tattoo'd to the inside of my eyelids...well not really but mentally for sure)

I would have no problem sharing my grades. Be proud of what you get, and if they aren't happy about it, then its pretty obvious that they just wish they did better, so its not like you did anything wrong, yk? congrats on your good grades.

xjenn · Sep 30, 2008

I guess I'm going to start this out by saying pretty much the same thing everyone else has said..."congratulations on your good grades. You've worked hard for them...and you earn them. Don't worry about what anyone else wants. You're in this for you, and not them." I know that it's a lot easier said than done. I'm in pretty much the same situation. I have people in my class that are there when they want to ask you for help, but then they either take it and go with no appreciation or just act like your advice is not good enough. These are also the same people who are NEVER there to help me if I ever need anything and they get upset if I "do better than them". I know that I'm working for the grades that I'm getting and I'm happy with that. I just wish other people could be more into working for their grades instead of complaining about people doing better than them.

Anyway, congrats again. I hope you continue to do good!!

Critical_Care_RN · Sep 30, 2008

I made the mistake of discussing my grades with fellow students . I feel like they resent that I'm doing well and they aren't doing as well. I mean I worked hard to get here and I agreed to pay back more money then I borrowed (student loans) to be here so I need to make sure I pass everything the first time. I just don't understand why they would have such a negative attitude towards me. I mean I don't offer my grades, they ask and I even offer to help them. They choose not to take the help, that's not my fault. I just wish they wouldn't ask me, i guess they are hoping I do badly on something, but that's not gonna happen. I work my butt off because this is what I really want, and if they really want it too, then maybe they should study more and party less. This is just me venting. Thanks for reading.

Unfortunately, that is how people are. I made straight A's through my entire nursing program but I busted my butt for those A's and yet, people had a tendency to have a negative attitude toward me if I shared my grades. I quickly learned that the best answer I could give when asked how I did on an exam or other assignment was to say " I did ok" or "I passed" and let it go. My classmates always knew that I pretty much always had the highest grade in the class but they respected that I never bragged about it. I think that's part of the problem is that, even if they ask, they don't want to hear that you made a 98 on an exam that they barely passed. They tend to feel like you're bragging if you share your grade even if you weren't bragging at all and were just giving them the answer to the question they asked. And I suppose, to some extent, I can understand.......Think how it would feel if you were the one who didn't do so well and then you found out someone else aced the exam. They didn't do anything wrong. In fact, they did everything right. That wouldn't make YOU feel any better though, now would it? Still, we should all try to be happy for those who do well. And if we're lucky enough to be amongst those who are doing well, we should do our best to be supportive of those who are struggling.

ChicagoRN2010 · Sep 30, 2008

I agree with everyone here. I'm going to take everyone's advice and not be specific with my grades, just give a vague response. Thanks everyone for reading. Helps to know I'm not alone.

Meriwhen, ASN, BSN, MSN, RN · Sep 30, 2008

I quickly learned that the best answer I could give when asked how I did on an exam or other assignment was to say " I did ok" or "I passed" and let it go. My classmates always knew that I pretty much always had the highest grade in the class but they respected that I never bragged about it.

I learned that pretty fast too--I'll say that I did all right and not give any more details unless they specifically ask for them.

OP: good on you for doing so well and keep it up! And don't let the negative people get to you--someone's always going to whine and moan about grades :rolleyes:

JHansen · Sep 30, 2008

Me personally I don't discuss anything I don't feel comfortable discussing. Grades is something I really have no problem discussing, like you I do very well. In my experience people get the grades they earn, if I study 10+ hours for an exam I expect myself to get an A. And like you I have offered to help people on exams and they accepted, but what they dont know is that helping/teaching/tutoring them makes you learn the material better. Because you have to know the material in order to teach it.

But back to the main subject, if they are being negative towards you because you are succeeding and they are not, so what. Smartness is not a fault no matter what some ridiculous societal norms tell us....

Be prideful you are doing well you earned it!

Josh