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liar liar

I recently discovered that a friend of mine (or someone I concidered a friend) lied to me about being a registered nurse. She is actually a STNA on another unit. The thing that really bothers me is that she will call me in the evening and complain about her day at work. She will start a conversation about some resident that didn't know what he/she was doing or some other nurse that is slow with med passes, the STNA that is lazy, etc. I got suspicious when a lot of the things she would tell me didn't sound right. I looked on the board of nursing liscence verification site , and her name isn't registered. I checked married and maiden. I called on the floor and the secretary told me that she was an STNA. I know this may seem petty. Should I confront her with this lie, or should I continue to ignore this? It is getting harder to tolerate these stories knowing she is making them up, or repeating something she may have heard a real "RN" say!

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    I would end my friendship with this person, but don't make a big deal out of it--just make yourself unavailable.

    I've had my run ins with liars and the last two ended up being sociopaths and those are some people you don't want to get tangled up with.

    It is estimated that 1 in 25 people is a sociopath (taken from the book The Sociopath Next Door).

    One of the identifying characteristics of a sociopath (other than lying) are constant pleas for sympathy, in one way or another, and of course they are always the martyr.

    A liar can get you in a lot of trouble. I would just tell her since she lives in a world of make believe we can both have fun. Tell her you can be the MD and she can be the nurse...it likely won't phase her. She will realize she has been caught and it may fluster her for a very short while but then she will focus her attention on another unsuspecting person. Children lie, whether because of jealousy, inferiority complex, to get out of trouble, but and adult has usually grown out of it.

    I'd steer clear of this person.

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    I think it is a self esteem issue for sure. Just act like you have always known she was an aide if you want to continue your friendship. Encourage her to go back to college and then try to limit your contact. What happens if you two ever start to work together- there could be very big problems then.

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    I've met and worked with some well trained and professional NA's - they have nothing to be embarrased about! Maybe she needs to be reassured of this - or she may just be a congenital liar.

    The good NA's are a delight to work with - I consider them my 'peers' - we just have different duties is all.

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    The scary thing about this post is that it is not an isolated incident. A lot of people who are not RN's or LPN's claim to be nurses.

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