Getting Married in School?

[teletech111]

Hey guys so I was just wanting some opinions on getting married while in school, I have read a couple of threads and wanted a little more specificity with my situation. My gf and I have been together for a while now and we are both planning on going to nursing school, actually we have decided recently that we will attend together (regardless of marital status) so that we don't have to be separated for 2 years. I work full time so one question I have is whether or not that is going to have to change once we get to school. Another question I have is just the general atmosphere of being in school together while also being newly married. I hear a lot of people say that the biggest mistake you can make is to add the stress of school (any type of education) onto a new marriage but everyone is different. So just wanting some opinions from some people who maybe have been in or through this situation! Thanks! We are both young and don't want to have kids until after school and a couple of years of work (just more bg info)

[chrisrn24]

I always thought it was dumb when people in my class left one Friday and came back married on Monday. Happened more than you would think. I would rather have a wedding when I actually have some time to sit and breathe.

But it's your life!!

[teletech111]

I couldn't agree more! I definitely want a real wedding so I think if we end up getting married pre NS then it'll be enough time to honeymoon etc.. Thank you btw for the reply

[Fin1216]

I got married last summer, and wedding planning was like a second full-time job, ha! I wasnt in school, but my husband was working on his masters degree and he decided not to take any classes over the summer semester. I thought it was a good idea so he wouldnt be stressing over papers or assignments close to the wedding date and on our honeymoon. Whatever you decide, I recommend having the wedding over a school break (Spring Break, Christmas, summer) that way you two can have some time to relax and enjoy being newlyweds!

As far as the added stress, I dont think that would be an issue. Our first year has been blissful, despite hardships (he is working full time and still working on his masters, a close family death, and I was unexpectedly laid off for 5 months before finding a new job which has been a financial strain) I am starting nursing school next week (2nd career for me) and starting my new job, and hubby has 2 semesters left....Im sure school will bring added stress, but we get through tough times by leaning on each other rather than taking out frustrations on each other. That is my little bit of marriage advice. :)

Congratulations on your upcoming marriage, and good luck in school!

[teletech111]

Thank you! Hopefully things will continue to pan out as foreseen! congrats on your marriage and going back to school! and thank you for the advice :)

[ruralnurse84]

My hubby and I got married before either one of us went back to school but we have now spent our 2 year marriage mostly apart because of his schooling and now mine, with still one more year left to go. I don't know about planning a wedding while in nursing school but in my opinion being married has only made things better for us so I say go for it. Living apart and dealing with school makes it so we communicate really well. Good luck!

[Alicat1451]

I'm actually getting married next weekend (just after the summer semester has ended), and I'm in an accelerated bachelors (finish in December!). It really hasn't been that bad trying to plan everything right in the middle of the program, it's a nice distraction when you're stressed from all of the work. Would I do it differently if I could? Probably :) I would have loved to have a couple of weeks of nothing to do before the wedding but it's also been a really fun year just incredibly busy. My fiance is in medical school and goes back to clinicals in the spring so we wanted to fit the wedding in this year before all of that started again. Good luck to you!

[havehope]

I have decided to wait to get married until I get out of nursing school. One of the main reasons is that I wouldn't receive any financial aid based on his income. I feel that isn't fair, because I am paying for it not him...if that makes any sense. Do what you feel is right and good luck!

[zoe92]

I got engaged this past winter, right before my last semester of pre reqs. Now I am starting my year and a half of nursing school. Personally, I decided to wait to get married until after I graduate. I am planning an actual wedding and like being able to have time to do. My plan is focus on school during the semester and use the breaks to plan.

Honestly, being in a program together and being married is a lot of time together for newly weds. I love my fiancée but I enjoy school being my time.

[havehope]

I got engaged this past winter, right before my last semester of pre reqs. Now I am starting my year and a half of nursing school. Personally, I decided to wait to get married until after I graduate. I am planning an actual wedding and like being able to have time to do. My plan is focus on school during the semester and use the breaks to plan.

Honestly, being in a program together and being married is a lot of time together for newly weds. I love my fiancée but I enjoy school being my time.

I agree! I got engaged and will not be getting married for two years (until school it over). Like you said, it is nice to be able to plan a wedding and not be in a time crunch while in school on top of that.

[nurseprnRN, BSN, RN]

We got married in the August between my junior and senior years (he graduated a year ahead of me). But we had a very simple wedding (no big drama, college campus chapel, about 40 people, party at our house afterwards, no wedding planner, no big show) and had been living together for two years already anyway. :) So my worst problem was getting the name change done through the registrar's office.

[AZMama86]

I am getting married in 9 weeks and will be starting nursing school August of 2014. We are not having a wedding though. :)