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Am I crazy?

I really don't mean for whoever that reads this to answer that but, I am a bit worried about nursing school.

I am 20 and I start nursing school this Fall. I have a 20 month old son so by then he will be 2yo. I am just so overwhelmed with what everyone says about nursing school that I have started to second guess myself on if I can REALLY do this?!?

I must say I am pretty slack on studying. I HATE IT! I'd rather be doing other things and enjoying my sons entertainment.

Is nursing really doable with a 2 year old? I feel crazy for it. Not to mention I am a attachment parent...meaning I still breastfeed, I still wear him, I cloth diaper and blah blah.

I guess I just need some words of encouragement and advice to be able to succeed

(quotes would be great)! I KNOW I CAN do this, if I truthfully put my mind to it.

TIA!

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It'll be hard, but it CAN be done. Yes, nursing school requires A LOT of time, but it's for a limited amount of time. You will have to study, as it's hard to pass without it, so you will have to set a schedule. Maybe do the majority of your studying during naps or his bed time. I am in my second semester, and I don't spend hours upon hours of studying, but I do spend some time doing it, usually at night after my kids go to bed (they go to bed at 8). If I have a test coming up then of course I spend more time studying, and usually away from home. Does it suck? Sometimes, but you gotta do what you gotta do to make the grades to pass! Are you planning on having more kids? If so then I would finish school before baby #2 because it is more difficult with 2, IMO.

An adult can put off immediate gratification. If you can buckle down for a couple of years and instead of "doing other things" get a great education that will allow you to be a role model for your child and provide a stable environment then the best thing you can do for yourself and your baby is to "truthfully put your mind to it". You CAN do it. Thousands in your situation do it every year. It is possible and you will NOT regret it.

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Thanks y'all. I will enjoy looking back on this in the future!

I just always looked at the women who had 2-3 kids, and worked, comparing my plight to theirs, I never had the :redbeathe to complain.

You CAN do it, but it won't be easy (just being honest). I also practice attachment parenting and was still breastfeeding my then-13 month-old when I went to LVN school a few years back. It was very hard to leave my baby for 8 hours a day, but thankfully it was always with family, so I could call and check in on my breaks. I remember having to pump the first few weeks during my lunch break to prevent engorgement (because I was still nursing multiple times a day at that point), but my supply decreased on it's own pretty quickly. I would nurse my baby in the morning before leaving, and on-demand whenever I was at home. I didn't want my baby to feel forced into weaning before he was ready, and he didn't -- I was still nursing him at the age of 4 when he finally decided he was done.

The hard thing is finding time to study without being tired. What worked for me was taking a nap with my baby when I got home in the afternoons and putting him to bed super early (6 pm or so). That would give me quiet time to study until about midnight or so. I did everything I could to make his routine as normal as possible, which meant a lot of sacrificed sleep for me. You get used to the sleep deprivation after a while, though (I do, anyways).

You really just have to find the right balance between school and family time and figure out what works for you. You might have to let a few things that are important to you now (e.g., cloth diapering) slide once you're in school and pressed for time (I don't know if you're anything like me, but I let laundry pile up when I'm stressed). You will also need lots of help from your husband and family, so prepare them ahead of time for what to expect.

It will be hard, but you definitely CAN do it. I'm now in an LVN-RN program and close to half of my female classmates are wives and mothers, and many of us work on top of that. We complain all the time to each other about how hard it is, of course, but we're making it through! :)

i think you can do it, others in my class did it. the key is figuring out when and how to study. the first semeter will be the hardest! it's all about pacing yourself. i found out that studying a week before the test worked out best for me. and index cards for drugs ect. i tried a lot of things, after a bit of time i discovered notes, index cards and power points weren't very helpful. reading the material once, even twice was way more effective. you will stress out and perhaps even cry at some point during your first semeter. after that you will learn with every test what works for you. finding balance in your life will be the same.

unquestionably, if i did it as single father of 3, and working, i have no doubt that you can do it as well. undoubtedly, there will be times that you will question your capabilities, however, that's when you need to make it happen not only for your child but for yourself. wishing you the very best always...aloha~

Nursing school is do-able with kids. One of my girls was an infant and the other just started kindergarten when I was just beginning and it was rough!! But in the end will pay off... I work 3 12's and love the fact I have 4 days off a week to spend with my kids!

One of my nursing school instructors once told us, "You will get out of it what you put into it" so studying is very important- not only in school but for your NCLEX exam as well!! As you get farther into your program, you develop your own methods that work for you and eliminate the ones that don't.

Lots of luck to you!

So, if you want, you have about 4-5 months to wean and toilet-train your child. If you had more children, this one would have already been weaned, and you would be desperate to get him trained. Wean directly to a cup, not a bottle. It is possible.

Or don't.

It's all up to you.

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Well, you won't be able to "wear him" to school and breast feed on demand as you will be away from him for 8 hours or so a day. You may want to start to potty train him for it will be one less task to accomplish and less laundry. You may also want to start wearing him a little less and leaving for short periods of time so it isn't such a shock to him that suddenly......You're gone. :eek: That is a perfect set up for a meltdown, screaming hysteria on a 2 year old. When they aren't happy aint NOBODY happy!!:bugeyes:

Nursing school is VERY difficult and demanding as is being a nurse. You are going to need a lot of help from your husband/significant other and family. Nursing IS hard and you will have to study......a lot. Start getting your son familiar with books, studying, computers and your attention being divided. I worked nights throughout my children's infancy and childhood (girl and a boy.....11 months apart).

They knew their Momma was a nurse and I kissed BooBoo's, But I was home every morning, afternoon and night. I was there when they woke up and when they went to sleep, when they napped I napped. Was it hard? YES. Was I exhausted? YES Was it worth it? ABSOLUTELY. They turn 15 and 16 in April.

They laugh that they didn't think I left the house when they were little that I went to work in the garage or something because they never saw me leave....I just seemed to always be there. They have never spend not one second in daycare and have always been cared for by my husband or I. I am very close to my teenagers and we love each other....ask them they'll tell you.

Being a nurse did that for me. :loveya:

You wanted quotes.....

1 Corinthians 13:11 "When I was a child, I spake as a child, I felt as a child, I thought as a child: now that I am become a man, I have put away childish things".

“What is worth having is worth working for.”

― Philip Pullman

"Nothing will work unless you do"

Maya Angelou

"I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life's a b!^ch. You have to go out and kick a$$".

Maya Angelou

"For when we know better we do better".

Maya Angelou

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i saw you liked a post by our rubyvee. what she said is really true........here are parts of that post

"do you want to be a nurse?

there's more to it than a calling. here are some questions to consider.

i've been a nurse for a long time -- probably longer than most of you reading this have been alive. had i known what i was getting into, i probably would not have gotten into it. fortunately, i had no idea. i say fortunately, because nursing has been an interesting and flexible career that has afforded me a nice lifestyle and kept me from being bored. i wouldn't go back and change my mind about going into nursing if i could..

oh, and i met my husband at work. another bonus!

if you're considering a career in nursing, make sure you're clear on why you're considering it. i'm not here to cast aspersions on anyone's motives for wanting to be a nurse. after all, mine weren't all that altruistic. i wanted a degree that would enable me to be a sought-after employee rather than me having to face rejection after rejection while hunting for a job. i know that doesn't apply now, but it did then. and my mother, who had always wanted to be an lpn, told me that i should go to school to become an rn because “all they do is sit at the desk and drink coffee and flirt with the doctors while someone else does all the work.” it should be noted that my mother’s closest proximity to hospital nursing were her two stays in the maternity ward, as they called it then. the fact that she didn't know what she was talking about has never stopped her from having a strong opinion, however.

some people go into nursing as a "calling." they figure that all they need is a compassion or a desire to help people or a willingness to put the patient first at all times and pour heart and soul into their care. those things are nice, but a calling alone is not enough. you need to be a good enough student to graduate from a very difficult course of study and then a good enough test taker to pass the licensing exam. you need to be able to memorize drugs and their standard doses, uses and side effects, read and understand written english and be able to make yourself understood both orally and in writing. you need to be able to prioritize, to multitask and to run your buns off for twelve hours straight with only the briefest of breaks. compassion is nice, but i'll take the nurse who has mastered critical thinking . . . i've worked with both and been under the care of both. in the best of all worlds, a nurse has both compassion and critical thinking skills, but compassion can be faked. critical thinking cannot."

she went on to say......

"still interested in a career in nursing? understand that hospitals are open for business 24 hours a day and 365 days a year. working nights, weekends and holidays is a given. i don't understand how so many people manage to make it all the way through nursing school without it dawning on them that they, too, will really have to work an overnight shift, but there are some every year. and there are those who are convinced that they are so special they shouldn't ever have to work those undesirable shifts. honey, if you're that special, don't take a job in the hospital. (but that's where the money is, you say? make up your mind. if you want to work in the hospital setting, you take the bad with the good)

if you live in the snow belt, you will be expected to work when it snows. even if it snows a lot. every year, there are posts from new nurses who don't feel they should have to drive to work in a blizzard. they have small children or their car isn't good in snow or they've never learned how to drive in the winter. none of those are good excuses, and you will be expected to work. if there's a hurricane, bring four days worth of clean underwear and prescription medication, because you'll be at work for the duration. or you won't have a job. have a plan for your dog, your children and your elderly parents because part of working in a hospital is coming to work when everyone else stays home. and while i’m touching on that topic, you will be coming to work when the neighbors are hosting the neighborhood block party, when your husband is out of town on business and when your kids are sick. have a plan in place for those times.

if you've read all this and you still think you'd like to be a nurse, good for you. in the 34 years i've been a nurse, i've been spit at, slapped, kicked, punched, cursed and threatened. i've also been the recipient of grateful smiles, wonderful thank you notes and boxes of chocolate. i've had horrible days where i couldn't do anything right and felt behind the whole day, and i've had wonderful days when i know i really made a difference to someone. i've worked night shifts, days and evenings and i've worked all of them in the same week. i've worked christmases and thanksgivings and mothers days and easter. but i've had my birthday and my wedding anniversary off every year, and not many office workers can say that! when my car's engine needed to be replaced and i had no money, i worked overtime. lots of it. can't do that in the office. when i needed to be home with an elderly parent, i arranged my schedule so that either dh or i would be home at all times. can't do that in an office, either. i worked every weekend when i was in graduate school, going to school full time and working full time. when my then-boyfriend moved out on christmas eve, i traded shifts with a nurse whose boyfriend unexpectedly flew back from the gulf war for christmas, and when my father knew he wasn't going to make it through the winter, someone traded shifts with me so i could drive 1000 miles to cook him thanksgiving dinner. not only would that not be an option in office work, office workers probably would not even think about it as valuable.

i've learned to laugh at things that would make me cry if i didn't, and i've learned to appreciate what i have because plenty of people have less. i cannot imagine what my life would have been if i hadn't been a nurse, and if i had to do it all over again, i would.

https://allnurses.com/nursing-articles/those-considering-career-653061.html

nursing will be hard, you will have to study, you will have to make sacrifices......but every bit of it is worth it.

now go out there and kick some butt!

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