17 week gestation

Nothing really more to add, just really want to express how sorry I am for your friends. It is such a loss, as a mom who has sufferred two, it is so sad, and the hard part is when friends/family avoid you. Out of awkardness, I'm sure. Just be willing to listen and talk about it...down the road, you know....

I'm so sorry about your friends' loss. Losing a child at any age is devastating.

I don't have much more to add. I do know that in Alabama, the parents have the right to bury their baby, no matter how far along he/she is and they may also transport their baby to the funeral home if they wish (I didn't know this at the time of my son's death-don't think I could have done it anyway).

I am going to copy and paste the list of books I have read that I found helpful since my son died. I have several more I haven't had a chance to read yet. It may be awhile before your friends feel like reading, but anything to let them know what they are feeling is normal is what they will need, along with support.

*Dear Cheyenne by Joanne Cacciatore-Garard

*Empty Cradle, Broken Heart: Surviving the Death of Your Baby by Deborah L. Davis, Ph.D.

*Losing Malcolm A Mother's Journey Through Grief by Carol Henderson

*This Little While by Joy and Dr. S.M. Johnson

*Honored Babies Learning to Live With a Broken Heart by Paula Long

*Mommy, Please Don't Cry There are No Tears in Heaven by Linda DeYmaz: Artwork by Laurie Snow Hein

*The Angel with the Golden Glow A family's journey through loss and healing by Elissa Al-Chokhachy: Illustrated by Ulrike Graf

*A Rose in Heaven by Dawn Siegrist Waltman

*When Hello Means Goodbye A Guide For Parents Whose Child Dies Before Birth, At Birth Or Shortly After Birth by Pat Schwiebert, RN and Paul Kirk, MD

*Chicken Soup for the Grieving Soul Stories About Life, Death and Overcoming the Loss of a Loved One by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hanson

*Remembering with Love

Messages of Hope for the First Year of Grieving and Beyond by Elizabeth Levang, Ph.D. and Sherokee Ilse

*Healing Your Grieving Heart 100 Practical Ideas-Compassionate advice and simple activities to help you through your loss by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.

Grieving a Pregnancy/Infant Loss-Spiritual/Religious

*When Your Baby Dies Through Miscarriage or Stillbirth by Louis A. Gamino and Ann Taylor Cooney

*Silent Grief Miscarriage-Child Loss, Finding your way through the darkness by Clara Hinton

*An Empty Cradle, A Full Heart Reflections for mothers and fathers after miscarriage, stillbirth or infant death by Christine O'Keeffe Lafser: Foreword by Phyllis Tickle

*Losing You Too Soon Finding Hope after Miscarriage or the Loss of a Baby by Bernadette Keagy

Pregnancy After a Miscarriage, Stillbirth or Infant Loss

*Trying Again A Guide to Pregnancy After Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant Loss by Ann Douglas and John R. Sussman, M.D. with foreword by Deborah Davis, Ph.D.

*Pregnancy after a Loss A Guide to Pregnancy after a Miscarriage, Stillbirth or Infant Death by Carol Cirulli Lanham with foreword by Vel D. Crosby, M.D.