not sure help

[love her much]

Ugh what do I do? I love her so much. She has self reported well due popping on a random test. she has admitted it and going through what she needs to.

But let me start this way.

I fell in love with her many years ago I was in 8th grade her 7th took my breath away love at first sight really. ( No honestly) we had such a connection almost like we've done this before. sorry to sappy

She had bad marriage you know the one you kind of say ok guess we have to but don't really wanna. me as well.

long story short lol, she told me she was an addict. my heart sank what???? well due to medical issues that not many of you medical people understand ( me neither though Ive researched everything about it ugh) and trying to deal with a life she really was tip toeing around, she became addicted to the meds prescribe to her.

she straighten up got her act together became strong got a divorce.

after three years she "****** up" the classic term.

she did something so stupid ugh

ok I think you guys get it. please don't take me as a stupid boyfriend who has on idea. I've dealt with depression, suicide attempts, over doses , plans etc with my ex wife and son I know it all!

I guess my real question is. How do I help my everything? How do I let her know it's ok? how do I tell her what I feel without causing her more pain?

How do I keep her on the right path when everything is so easy for you gals/guys to get? To call out to me at those bad bad times?

[sallyrnrrt, ADN, RN]

ok you can not do anything but take care of yourself, she has to do the same, i suggest you might find some support, understanding, and treatment in alanon or naranon...

we can recover

[Twoyearnurse]

I agree with the above poster. You can not help her. You can, however, do what you need to do to be healthy.

[Twoyearnurse]

Further, you could direct her to this site- I know it became a life saver in my darkest times.

[skinnedknee]

There is nothing you can do to help her. Several of us have said that. Now it's not a mean thing we're saying, but it's the truth. Every addict has to come to a point where they are serious about recovery(or hit rock bottom). That being said, relapse is also part of recovery. She has to be in the frame of mind that she needs help. Not just on her bad days but on her good days as well. NA meeting should become part of her regular routine. She may reject them at first, but will hopefully soon come to find that they are beneficial.

I wish you guys luck!!!