Hafisch12

You need to do what makes you happy. I know from my last relationship that your man probably doesn't understand your stress level. Mine expects me to work full time, plus overtime if its available, and go back to school and keep up on the house work and make sure I am available for all of his work events and to sit and support his life and career. Well Ive done it for a year and it landed me in the hospital....I thought i was seriously have a stroke due to all the stress. My ex man didnt understand what I was going through, and they dont understand the things you see at work. Yea we joke about the gross things and most of us probably really enjoy what we do, but you need a man who can 100% understand what you feel like after a day at work or a day at school. ANd if he can make things easier on you by making dinner or doing the laundry, he should. I remember walking in the door after being at work for 18 hours and feeling like i was going to collapse and my ex wanted to know what i was making him for dinner and i kicked him out. You need to eliminate people or things that make you stressed out. ANd if your man wants to complain about you not having enough time for him, he should realize you are doing this not only to better yourself but to better the future the both of you could have. But honestly you sound like you work hard and your just tired and overwhelmed, go out and do something for you, have a crazy girls night, and elminate the people and things that only make life harder.

I personally have not started anti depressants but I know a lot of nurses especially ones I work with that do take an assortment of antidepressants. Almost everyone I work with has a prn anxiety med they go to except for me. I will not lie, there are a lot of days where I feel I could use something to calm my nerves when things get crazy or people do not pull their fair share of weight. However I deal with my stress differently. I like to workout or run and I eat differently than my co-workers. I will admit that lately my personal life has darken a darker tole on my mental health but it isn't work. In fact I often pick up extra shifts because my I live in an area that I hate and my love life is depressing and none of my friends live anywhere near me. Since I've been a nurse I've been in and out of therapy especially after some situations I was in right out of nursing school that I was not prepared for. But I try other routes before medicating myself

I love 12 hour shifts! We went to 8 hour shifts and working 5 days a week a year ago and I feel burnt out going in 5 days in a row and only having 2 days in between to reboot. I would rather work 12s plus it is easier to hold a part time job if you work 12s.

You are never going to be fully prepared, because there will always be a situation that you have never encountered. Do not be scared to ask questions or ask for help! Not asking is probably the worst or dumbest thing anyone can do. I was a nurse working in a rehab facility, and had only been working as a nurse for maybe 2-3 months when I had woman stoke out on me in the middle of my 0800 med pass, around 1200 a male patient weighing over 400lbs went into cardiac arrest. Regardless to say I completely panicked! But my DON and the other nurses working the floor with me jumped right in and helped me deal with my 2 emergencies, my med pass, my treatments, charting, doctors rounds, and assessments. And honestly I remember standing next to the nurses station in tears because I felt so overwhelmed and saying out loud (I know this because I met my best friend working at this facility and she always reminds me of this) "Nursing school did not prepare me for this! There isn't even a manual!" It will be hard and yes some nurses will not be very kind to you and others will bend over backwards. The nurses who are not very nice at first I like to think are testing you. If you just ignore their snide comments you should be okay. If you don't know something ask or look it up. I am always googling things I am not sure of at work or calling upon a fellow nurse for advice.

I had a similar situation when I first became a nurse. But those women who are mean and try to get you in trouble are just jealous. Ignore their comments, do what you know and take care of your patients. You are at work to make friends, you are there to do a job and make a difference in your patients life. Your co-workers probably think you are going to act differently towards them once you start working as an LPN. They honestly just sound jealous and need to grow up. Being the bigger person is difficult at times but don't stoop their level. If you stoop they will only give them something else to start running their mouths about

I went to a school with a similar schedule. I think the DON of the program gave me the same speech regarding working and school, but sometimes its not possible to only work part time or at all. I didn't have someone to help me pay my bills. Mom and dad said I was on my own and I refuse to rely on anyone else. Anyway I worked for a gym, had to open it at 430am monday-friday, went to class, then worked for an insurance agency after school and on saturdays. Thursday, Friday and Saturday nights I bar-tended and waited tables at a popular bar and grill. About half way through my program I started working as a CNA again and worked second shift. Its all about time management and making the most of the time you have. Many people in my class had kids, went to school and worked. So its 100% doable.