teemarie

If u can't answer why bother to respond--hummmmmmmmmmmm

If u can't answer why bother to respond--hummmmmmmmmmmm

u know i am trying to figure out the same thing --u think its bc maybe there is some confusion-- compassion = let yourself be abused ???---on my private duty case there are 2 nurses that allow the pt to abuse them--ex: pt will ask for a neck massage --over and over-- until your hands fall off-- now, i do not play ---i'll give a massage, but i have my limits --but the other 2 nurses will do it over and over and then complain about it-- i ask myself why? do they not know how to set limits? on another issue i have had problems with a HHA that swears he's a nurse in disguise- :rotfl: he is also disrespectful to me-- to the point where i do not even talk to him unless it is absolutely necessary-- now, i dont know if its my fault or he's sick in the head--maybe i didnt set limits with him to begin with and now he thinks he can get away with stuff-- there is definitely many reasons why this occurs-- on my part I think; 1: i didnt set limits with the HHA -- i was too friendly?-talking , laughing --joking--not appropriate for home setting --must be more assertive and professional! wow that hurt 2: I try to avoid confrontations: something i must learn to handle 3; Mom always said be a good little girl---haha if i come up with anything else i'll let u know

Great Advice! where were u when i needed u? i've been thru similar experience and i guess i responded based on what i saw worked in the past. it is good to see things from a different perspective and im learning to trust God -- stumble now and again--i guess we think we can do things our own way and it would work out-- but im learning in the long run u will feel bad about yourself if u r not honest-- i guess its a choice we all have to make

Good one, I like that.

I could have called my boss which is the person that gets me my assignments and get his opinion-- in retrospect i think this would have been the best bet instead of calling the agency directly-- thanks

u know what i hate is a HHA that thinks she/he knows more than the nurse.. its like if u wanted to be a nurse --go to school and get your stripes--if not shut up--

If u figure someone is giving u a bad reference, then u cant use them. sorry to say u r going to have to change ur game plan-- if u know what i mean-- start fresh -- the jobs u r applying for do not know your hx-- so present yourself differently--clean slate--u have to do what u have to do--dont list those jobs -- try a different approach--u r the new girl on the block-- act like it -- remeber as a nurse u have to be a detective and a good actress--it is sad to say, but it is true--learn from ur mistakes and move on-- today there is such a shortage that they will hire u into any position do u think they care that u cant handle it and if something goes wrong its ur head-- u have to be smart--dont take on a manager position if u know u r not qualified-- one of the biggest factors in a nursing is the nurse to patient ratio-- ask---look into school nursing-- with an agency -- they give u a short orientation and it is easy work--pay is not great --but it will lift ur spirits--some agencies even train u to work in facilities--be smart -- think-- u cant let what happened to u be the end all---u didnt go to school for nothing---fight girl dont give up

you r not the only one who has gone thru what u have just described.. when i first started out in nursing i was a big time softy---and i was stepped on quite often--- as the years have gone by my skin has becoming thicker and thicker--but before i let anyone make me into a bitter person --- i would rather find another profession to work in-- i know its not that easy-- plan --plan-- plan-- on the other side --i think no matter where u go u will encounter people who r just down right mean--so i think the best way to deal with it is to have a plan --u know what to expect so be ready--know how to deal with the situation-have a game plan--hang in there...

well, i think anyone who does travel assingments has got a lot of courage--- i would never do it --bc , if i don't like what i see im out of there--i do not want to be stuck with a bad situation-- so local contracts r the best for me thanks for the info

sounds good, but how can i avoid working with him altogether? if i get there and he's there can i just leave or is it considered pt abandonment?

wow, thank you for the words of encouragement. .. this situation has got me so bent out of shape--- i am trying to get over it ... but it seems im not there yet--- in time .....

I thank u for ur input i appreciate it ... thanks for taking the time to reply.. touchy subject for me.. i know i didn't handle things right... i guess n i am searching for answers

I never told the agency he was on drugs ... i only reported what i observed..and ur right too many people did know how i felt i was very upset bc the agency did call the pt , pull the HHA off the case, and was testing him for drugs..-- which they took upon themselves to do... they could have handled it differently...also, i gave the HHA the benefit of the doubt i tried to talk to him .. i asked him was he on medication or was something wrong , but he became very angry .. this was not the only time he replied angrily to me when i asked him something... even when i advised him to do things differently when he made a mistake he became very angry...

well, u obviously do not believe in God and that is ur choice , but who r u to say what God is and is not, r u God... well.. i guess u made that clear