AE78

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Hello, I am so sorry to hear your experience of returning has not been a friendly, welcoming one. Nursing is supposed to be a caring profession and yet we are told the quicker you develop a thick skin the better. I worked in various office jobs prior to going into nursing and thought they were very cliquey, until I went into nursing that is. I now work as a community staff nurse after escaping the ward environment and I think it's fab! You prioritise and organise your own workload and have time to think before you act. Always be true to yourself and don't get sucked into the cliques. Why can people not just go to work, get on with their colleagues and support each other and do the best they can? I'm sure you are a lovely, decent person with a good bedside manner when it comes to patient care, maybe your colleagues were a tad jealous? Who knows, don't let it get you down. You can handle anything that comes your way. xx

Huge congrats!! I hope she has a great career in nursing!! xxx

Hello, I read your post and subsequent replies and felt disheartened at the fact that so many of us feel this way when we first start out. I have been qualified for a year and when I worked on the wards I felt exactly the same. It's a big culture shock when you qualify and are out there brand new. The responsibility of the job is overwhelming and the demands made on you physically, mentally and emotionally are exhausting. It does appear to take a long time to settle in, find your feet and actually feel that you can handle it, but you can. Nursing can suck the life out of you if your not enjoying it. It's not like some other jobs whereby you can walk away and switch off. People rely on you so much and it's only natural to feel annoyed with patient's seemingly constant demands. It would appear that part of the problem may be that you are realising just how much you do care. You sound like a very compassionate person who came into nursing because you were looking for purpose and wanted to help people. it's disappointing when you discover it's not that easy to deliver the type of care you would like to. It sounds as though you are a wee bit burnt out. Only you can decide what way to go from here, but please remember that you came into nursing from something else and you can always get out of it again. You have it behind you now and that is a great achievement. Try to keep your thoughts positive and focus on what you want, not what you don't want. Hard as that can be when you feel wiped out. There are better things out there, keep an open heart and a positive attitude and things will change for you, good luck. AE78 xx

Hi NightNurse, I do hope you feel much better for your rant! I felt every word you said. I'm a community staff nurse in Scotland, but worked on the wards prior to doing this and can say it's no different over here. Sometimes nursing is the best thing you have ever done in your life and sometimes you wonder why you do it as it can be a thankless task. I wish you all the very best in whatever you decide to do with your life. Just know that you are a marvellous person who is very much loved by your family and friends. There is life outside of nursing should you decide to escape from it altogether. big hugs, Alayne xx

Hiya, that is a definite no brainer!! Go abroad. Life is too short and when opportunities come along you have to grab it! You don't want to be elderly looking back on your life saying "hhmmm I wonder what would have happened if....", instead you can look back and say "wow, what a life!" Also, why do what everyone else does? It's your life, go make it what you want and if it doesn't work at least you gave it a bash! Best of luck, keep us posted, Alayne xx :cheers:

Hello, thank you for your reply Loriangel I shall have a look at the link. I appreciate your response though. Alayne xx :)

Hello, community nursing is fab! You get to plan your workload, deal with people in their own environment and learn so much! You also get the chance to speak to your patient and wait for the reply. Plus the working hours are good, you feel you have a life and can actually plan things. Unless, of course, you like working shifts. I worked on the nurse bank for 9 months on wards before landing this job and I have never looked back since getting it! Whatever you go onto i wish you the best of luck, but do look after yourself. Pilates is a great thing to get into by the way for back problems. It really strengthens your body. best of luck and take care, Alayne xx

Apologies, I shall look elsewhere for info.

Hi guys, this is my first posting. I have been scouring the site for info as I am planning my escape to Vancouver next year from Scotland. I am a RGN with 1 1/2 years experience, 9 months on the nurse bank, going as and where required to any ward, and the remaining time so far as a community staff nurse. I feel as though my head is bursting with all the info and hope you can all help. First and foremost I have been reading that it's proving quite difficult for people to find jobs in BC, is this true? Also I have all my immigration papers printed but do I apply to register in BC first to find out what additional courses I need to do before posting immigration papers? Also any ideas how much the immigration and nurse registration side of things costs? I know I have more questions but this will do for the time being. Any help or guidance is greatly appreciated as I feel very much at a crossroads with nursing in Canada. I love my job in the UK but don't know the script with community jobs in Vancouver. Huge thanks in advance to anyone that can help, Alayne xxx

Hey chick, I'm a great believer in trying things and at the end of the day if it doesn't work out at least you tried. I'm 31 never wanted to be a nurse but decided to try it as my wife (soon to be ex wife) had just started the course and raved about it so much i thought it sounded good. Prior to doing my training I had had a lot of different jobs in offices which I hated. I was always looking for something more meaningful, where i could help people and make a difference. I can honestly say I have found that in nursing. I have been qualified for a year and a half and planning my escape to Vancouver sometime in the next couple of years. Nursing will be one of the most challenging but best things you will ever do if you can persevere and get through the difficult times. Yes it can be hard and at times you will hate it but what you learn along the way about yourself and others is invaluable. It will change your perspective on many areas of life, but in a good way. I believe anything in life is possible and achievable if you want it enough. You do need to be realistic but have faith in the fact that life has a funny way of helping you out sometimes. It's amazing who comes into your life at just the right time to help you. If this is what you want, go for it. Your divorce is finalised, I don't know the circumstances but can probably guess you are at a bit of a crossroads and ready to start a new chapter in life. This may be just what you need and what an achievement. If you can knuckle down for the next 2 years I'm sure it'll be worth it. As Hopeful3 rightly said, it is about attitude. Keep positive and best of luck. Alayne xx

Hiya, how you doing? I'm sorry to hear you're a bit down on yourself, never a nice thing to feel and even worse when other people highlight things your sensitive about. Remeber it's your life and up to you how it goes, if you're not happy in your job or any area of your life do something positive to change it. Keep your chin up chick, it'll all be fine. hugs, xx