SonicnurseRN

I've been a nurse for about two years & I love being a nurse ... with that said I HATE my job!!! I feel as if the harder I try & the better job I do the more I am *h*t on by management. I'm a nice person & take a lot of pride in doing a good job. I am having a hard time not taking all these stupid management politics personally. For instance ... my grandmother recently passed away & when I used my 3 day berevement leave I came back to attitude & a trumped up 'coaching' for a charting "error" (lies). Her peers call my boss crazy & said she's mad bc I used my berevement leave & now I'm "in her sights"! So, stupid me reacts & crys to one of the house supervisors who also called my boss crazy & says there must be laws against the way she treats people. Its not just me she is horrible to most everyone & she actually fired a nun!!! Anyway I'm so discouraged working in this hostile enviroment, but I love the actual work I do. My husband thinks I'm nuts & doesn't understand why I don't quit. Maybe I am but something inside me tells me to stay b/c ... the rumor mill is that upper management is trying to get rid of my boss. Who knows when/if that will even happen. Sigh, I'm so discouraged & confused ... feel like there is noone I can talk to that I can trust & will understand.

Thank you guys~ I feel almost obligated to pay the bills since he helped me through Nursing school & I did appreciate that so much. BUT I also feel screwed over b/c I am not getting to enjoy the fruits of my labor =) I really appreciate the advice about going to counseling, even alone. It's so hard to be objective & I really don't want to make an emotional decision ... & want 2 do the right thing for me. When we first started talking about getting married, he was broke, I didn't care b/c we were in love & all the other ingredients for a great marriage were in place. We spent all our time together, were excited to be around each other & wanted the same things out of life. Now ... I feel like we've lost all of that ... sigh

So I'm a new grad RN (Dec 08). I am VERY happy w/ my job, co-workers, car, dog, life in general. BUT there is one thing that drags me down every day it is my spouse. He never has an unkind word to say 2 me, but I consistently feel that he doesn't prioritize me & doesn't have the desire to spend time w/ me. Literally he works 18 hours a day/ 7 days a week. You may be asking why I don't just go shop the pain away, WELL he doesn't make hardly any money b/c he seems constantly immersed in a new "start up business" idea. I have to pay the majority of the bills, can't go on vacation & I live like a pauper & am often left feeling lonely. In a way I would love to get out of this marriage, but I often feel torn b/c he is a kind man & I don't feel like he does any thing "bad enough" to warrant a divorce. What do you all think? Is this normal for a new grad to feel this way? Should I just cut my losses? We've been married 7 years w/ no kids. Help wise nurses! =)

I agree w/ the above posters & I would like to add: You should take some ownership for your education & request that you take a few pt's ... I'm sure your preceptor will be happy 2 assign you a couple of pt's. Just talk it over w/ her/him & explain yourself. They may just be trying 2 prevent you from being overwhelmed ... Good Luck! =)

No excuse for bad manners!! That being said, I'd just hand her the report sheet next time & hit the 'highlights' verbally ... if she would rather read the report sheet, who cares?. I do that w/ some nurses I work w/ ... try not to take it personally.

I'm a new grad in a charge nurse position in a psych hospital ... I have had some issues w/ the company I'm working for, but have decided to stick it out & do the best job I can :uhoh21: Sooooooooo here's the situation I need advice on: How do I effectivly manage the aides/Mental Health workers With my personality I just hate being in charge, but this is where I am right now ... it seems like whatever decision I make someone is mad @ me or badmouthing me after/during the shift. There are no other RN's on the floor who i can talk to & find myself very discourage b/c I'm truly doing my best & it bugs me that some people don't like me or respect that I am giving this job my all. Grant it there are some awesome MHW's on my unit, but for some reason the complainer's r really getting to me. Any advice for a newbie/pushover by nature, on how to effectivly manage staff & being confident in the decision I make???

OMG Patients!! My co-workers save my a*s almost every shift .. but then I work in a psych hospital

I'd find a PRN job of 3 days a month or volunteer your nursing service to a homeless shelter or charity & go back for your RN if it still doesn't 'float ur boat' =)

Just to clarify my orientation was a WHOLE 2 weeks & I've been working there for 2 months ...

I'm a new grad & have been working for two months as a charge nurse @ a psych hospital. We're ALWAYS short staffed, I'm expected to MANAGE all the employees on the unit & do my OWN job & often the job of the LPN. I HATE my job & I'm beginning to question if going into Nursing was the right choice. I loved being a nurse in school, but out here in the real world I find myself depressed/angry every day. Do you all have any suggestions? Are all Nursing jobs like this?

I had the same night last night! I am a new RN (talking 4 days off orientation) & when I walked in last night we had no LPN 2 pass meds & 2 transfers that I had no idea how 2 do! That set the tone for the whole shift & I was ****** all nite! Reflecting on my shift I feel so ashamd of myself that I let circumstances get 2 me. Tonight I'm going 2 do my best despite the circumstances & I'm having a good attitude no matter what

Funnies thing I've read in a long time ... I'm sure we can all relate to these =) http://www.histalkpractice.com/2009/06/02/joel-diamond-6209/

I'm a new RN - first job & charge nurse @ a Psych hospital. During a shift I am the only RN on the unit, there is usually one LPN. The question I have is this ... if I leave the CAMPUS for lunch & leave the LPN 2 cover me is this patient abandonment? Basically, an LPN told me that this is patient abandonment ... yet all the RN's seems to do it. Is this correct? What do you guys think?

I'm so sorry for you! Cry, have a breakdown & then try 2 objectively take his/her advice. Take some classes ... refine your skills. I can't imagine trying 2 do this job, with English being my second language. I have nothing but admiration & respect for all the nurses I know with that skill! Kudos 2 you & don't give up!!

Ya ... I worked a progressive unit & it was for cardiac patients that were being closely monitored, but not @ the ICU level. It ended being more of a med-surg floor b/c of census. The point being, that it is most likely a unit for ppl that are sick, but not really bad. http://www.nursezone.com/Explore-Travel-Nursing/pcu-progressive-care-unit.aspx Should be a good place 2 do your externship! Have fun & relax