CocoBug20

'But do you just throw text books away, who wants old ones? And then I find books from the 1800's, a family bible from the late 1700's, coins from the 1870's, I can see my kids tossing these, but there comes a point where I just want to toss too!' You should definitely try to put them up online for sale (or not) if you don't think anyone in your family wants them. I feel like some people would pay a lot for stuff that old and you'd know it was taken by someone who wanted it.

Most people wouldn't think of it like that old men using inappropriate endearments are 'just being friendly' and 'grew up in a different environment'..........old ladies doing the same are considered predatory and embarrassing. I think people need to ask themselves more..if a woman was treating a man like this, would I be comfortable with it?

No, so many things that patients can do disrupts the ideally smooth workings of a unit. Not every request can be accommodated, but do they have the right to make it? I know that special requests make more work and more confusion and aren't always possible, so my question isn't really whether they have to be complied with but if it's a reasonable request.

Because the general topic I was posting about women refusing care from men. If I had made a post about men refusing care from women I would hardly have attempted to deny the obvious fact that men have also suffered from sexual assault. Reading my post again I find it hard to see anywhere in my words 'people can only be victims of male sexual assaulters'?

I'm probably going to regret starting this thread, but this is a question I've been pondering over for a while now- since I saw a thread discussing a nurse who was put in a difficult position by having to assume responsibility for a racist patient who refused her care. Hopefully no one on this forum disagrees that refusing care from a healthcare professional based on skin color is unquestionably wrong. However, it seems a lot of people disagree on whether a woman can refuse healthcare from a man. It seems obvious to me that there are many situations in which a woman would rather have a female take care of her, and in which that would be perfectly okay. Most requests of this kind involve a procedure in which a degree of vulnerability is assumed- I'm pretty sure no one's ever said she won't have a man do her charting or something like that :) Sexual assault victims, for example, could be distressed by a man's touch or even his presence. Is it discrimination to refuse care from a man in that case? What if you were an Orthodox Jewish woman or a practicing Muslim woman who would, for religious reasons and modesty rules, prefer a female healthcare provider if they were to be touched or have to undress? What if you just don't want a strange man to see parts of your body that you keep private, even in a completely professional capacity, and that makes you feel uncomfortable or unsafe? I've seen people on here mention being refused by a patient for whatever reason, and who have gracefully arranged to have a colleague step in instead to avoid problems. I've also seen arguments over whether or not a female patient has the right to refuse a male healthcare provider and seen what seems to be a lot of anger and annoyance that people have that choice and make it- and not just from men. As a woman, if a man under my care said he'd rather have a man perform certain procedures I can't imagine why I would be angry at all, unless perhaps he was denigrating my capability or something like that? I just can't understand why the gender preference matter seems so wrong to some people. If a male wants a male caregiver, or a female wants a female caregiver, who are we to decide that their choice is unworthy or assume that it is based on some kind of negative gender assumption and not just their personal comfort level with the opposite sex?

No, I didn't realize I had to quote the post I was replying to. I had assumed clicking reply meant 'reply to this post' instead of reply to the entire thread. Beyond that I have no idea what you mean...your post doesn't make very much sense. I did indeed read the comment around five or six times while I tried to figure out what the point of it was, and if it was sarcasm meant to amuse it certainly missed the mark. Am I meant to understand that a conservative Muslim woman refusing care from a man out of discomfort is the same thing as a racist refusing care from a black person out of personal bigotry, and we should all get a laugh out of it?

Uh, there is a big difference between being a racist jerk and trying to follow your religious convictions, I'd say. A Muslim woman wouldn't refuse your care because she considered you inherently a secondary human being, she would do it either because she was uncomfortable with a male caregiver or because her religious convictions required she only show a certain amount of skin in front of men who are strange to her. Not because you as a male human are unfit for the royal office of providing her medical assistance! I'm surprised sixteen people liked this unworthy comment without seeing the difference.

I'm curious now seeing all of the different terms used in both countries- can an American trained nurse move to Canada and get a job or would she have to re-train like in some other countries?

I don't know if this'll help you at all, but in terms of awkwardness and low confidence just remember that nobody remembers things that you do. You might feel like you've completely made a fool out of yourself in a patient's room but chances are (especially in this setting) they have far too much on their mind to even notice and certainly won't recall it. And, they're going to leave :) so maybe reminding yourself that it's your own worries causing you distress about being awkward and probably not anyone else's reaction to it might help. I've said things that make me cringe now to remember, but they were never important to anyone except me.

I don't know how the job market is in your area, but maybe you should look for a new job if you don't want to do the messy thing and confront people. It sounds like more than one person responsible for your safety completely disregarded that in favor of attempting to keep their customers. Bear in mind that it was perfectly within their power to deny him female CNA's and if he didn't like it he could choose another health care provider; but instead they chose to place one of their younger and more vulnerable employees in this situation without a word of warning and no care for your safety. Clearly you're well aware of how bad the situation could have gotten- he could have been a real danger to you. You say you are staying because of one particular patient, but in this case you have to prioritize your own safety and if you think it might happen again, don't stick around. Bear in mind, though, I'm not a nurse yet and have no idea how to go about reporting or complaining about something- just thought I'd comment since no one else has yet.

Hi- I know the lonely feeling when no one responds to your posts so I thought I'd pop in. I haven't even begun nursing school myself yet but I'd be glad to I guess offer emotional support sometimes or whatever. I'm scared myself! I'm sure you can't be doing so badly that it's not worth it to stay in school or you would have been kicked out already :) have hope

Hey- just an answer from someone who fasted as a kid all the time- make sure the parents know the kids are fasting. Sometimes kids can be stubborn enough to do it even when their parents don't want them to or don't know the situation- I can't imagine what parent would want a kid (who isn't even obligated to fast) to go around passing out and showing signs of severe dehydration. That's another thing- Islam doesn't oblige kids to fast at all and adults are exempt if it makes them too ill, so point out to the parents- maybe? Something else you could put in the letter is advice on what to eat for the pre-dawn meal, because a bowl of cereal isn't going to cut it. My sister and I drink Carnation and we eat things like carbs and protein and just things that will carry you through the day. But I'll say it again- kids grades 1-6 don't have to fast anyhow, so you could explain to them that when they feel sick it's okay to break the fast. They usually- at least in my experience- want to participate on their own and it's okay as long as they're healthy, but if they're sick I'd be concerned. Please reply if you have any more questions...I haven't been able to participate much yet and would be glad to help. Edit: just saw that you already have a solution, but hope this helped some anyway.

Hi! I know there have been a dozen boards/questions on this already but I want advice for my particular situation which I'm sure someone will be kind enough to give to me in regards to getting an Associate's. I've been interested in midwifery for a while but have been put off for a long time by the process here as the long training wasn't an option. I finally decided just to pursue nursing and hopefully land a job in L&D so I can be employed more quickly while working in my area of choice. Problem description :) I am very low income and unemployed since I graduated high school two years ago; living in a rural area with very little room for employment or training chances means I am planning to relocate to St. Louis. I have always had trouble with math. When I took my General Equivalency Diploma I passed in math but just barely, with a few points over the passing grade. All of my other grades were quite high (I feel weird saying this, but this is only to illustrate that I'm not a failing student in general) so the fact that my math score is so low is pretty depressing and puts me out of the running for most of the other nursing colleges I looked at. So my choice was community college, which I applied to and was admitted for the Fall Student grants and help from a family friend will be my only source of tuition. Basically, an Associate's is all I can afford and all I can achieve at the moment. My question is- will having an Associate's in St. Louis likely land me a job right out of school? Or is it just a helplessly horrible situation all around with me spending money I don't have and then not being able to make any more? Because I really really can't afford not to be employed after school as my parents won't be supporting me in St. Louis, and while I plan on getting my BSN once I've made money I've heard that hospitals are required now to have a certain amount of Bachelor's trained nurses or something like that? Thank you so much for any help you can give me; I dearly need it. Please ask if you have any questions.