I will miss her...

azcna · Jun 11, 2009

I always get sad when a resident dies No matter who it is, they should be remembered. I have only been working for 6 months, but I remember all my residents who have died. I probably always will, each one is unique.

SuesquatchRN, BSN, RN · Jun 11, 2009

I guess what helps me is knowing that it was their time. Most of my folks are weak and frightened and sad and a bit demented. When they go they're finally at peace.

:)

Girl Scout · Jun 11, 2009

My heart goes out to you, and I mean it sincerely. I'm moved to tears just reading your post, today was my first day of clinicals and already I've felt an attachment forming to some of the people I took care of, and to know they aren't long for this world is a hard thing to go home with. I have never understood how hcw's do this without either turning the emotions off and going through the motions like a robot, or just feeling everything and grieving constantly. Even after just one day of clinicals, I am wrestling with emotions.

I really feel for you. I hope your resident went peacefully, and that she knew she was loved and cared for, and that you can find some peace as she rests.

mncna08 · Jun 12, 2009

Thank you for your kind words.:redpinkhe

I can remember everyone that i have taken care of, and i always will. It does give me a lot of peace to know that they go on to a better life, and be whole again. I guess some people just stick with us more than others. Every one means something to me and has tought me something about life. What more can you ask for? People make a difference in your life and they never know it. Just onother amazing thing about life.:flwrhrts:

tishirajan · Jun 13, 2009

It does hurt when you lose a pt that you've been close to. I've always thought about how much better off they are and I'm thankful and honored to have had to opportunity to be a small part of their lives. I'm comforted in the fact that I know that I was able to provide them with the love, comfort, respect and a listening ear when they needed it most. I've never forgotten anyone that I've cared for, even after 20 years.

If you didn't have these feelings then being a CNA might not be your line of work. It takes so much empathy and compassion to care for these precious people who come into our lives. You're a great CNA and I'm sure you made a difference in her and her husband's life. It's a wonderful gift to receive wisdom from these sweet and amazing people. Bless you for what you do and keep on doing what you do. :icon_hug:

Jolie, BSN · Jun 13, 2009

My heart goes out to you.

Find a way to honor your beloved resident and her husband. Something simple. Vow to plant a flower in her honor, do a good deed in honor of her loving husband, say a kind word, like they would have done. Keep her spirit, and that of their relationship alive.

Best to you. Someday you will remember her with a smile, instead of a heavy heart.

countrygirl1987 · Jun 14, 2009

it is always hard when a resident dies. What I find helps is remembering that these people are older...most in their 80-90s and this is the life cycle. remember all the good stories they told and think of all the good times you had taking care of them. I am all about quality over quantity so as long as the patient is comfortable that is what matters....but it never get easier to sit with someone who is dying.