How to break the news......

[RN2010LW]

So, me and a friend had plans to rent a vacation home with a classmate to stay in during our week long clinicals in april....well this classmate has lost her mind. She has started to just go off on us for no reason. She's a friend but we don't even feel like we can talk to her about it.. we just don't want to have to be dealing with her attitude while we are trying to work on care plans and such.....how would u break it to her that we don't want to split the house with her.( were thinkin no matter how we put it shes gonna be mad.)

Anything is better than what we have thought of so far... and yea it sounds kinda childish but it is what it is....

Thanks

[caliotter3]

Just tell her.

[sh1901]

I think that if you feel she is going to be mad no matter what, you should just tell her what you told us. Then brace for impact!! :chuckle

[Straydandelion]

Of course she will be angry, if you care then either discuss with her how her actions are concerning you both as far as being able to adaquetely study.. or make different plans entirely not including her (possibly it is some type of stress causing a different behavoir since I assume this is a change for her or you wouldn't have asked her) . If you don't care and absolutely no longer want her along, then tell her.

(sorry just saw in student nurse forum after I posted, hope you don't mind)

[RN2010LW]

Of course she will be angry, if you care then either discuss with her how her actions are concerning you both as far as being able to adaquetely study.. or make different plans entirely not including her (possibly it is some type of stress causing a different behavoir since I assume this is a change for her or you wouldn't have asked her) . If you don't care and absolutely no longer want her along, then tell her.

(sorry just saw in student nurse forum after I posted, hope you don't mind)

Of course we care....shes a person who weve had many of classes, lunches, study groups with. She is a good friend....its just getting so bad. We don't want to hurt her feelings but we can't stay with her if we want to keep our heads strait. The sad thing is that we should be able to tell her....if she was that good of a friend right but she makes it so hard....

[Daytonite, BSN, RN]

I would just make the rental plans with the other friends and not include her with them, especially if everyone else agrees. Let her bring the issue up. When she says, "what are we doing about the spring rental?" say, "we changed our minds". You did, didn't you? Then, you change them again and decide to rent a place without her.

Talking and discussing things with people is so overrated. If you don't want to hurt her feelings just don't say anything, especially since no plans were ever finalized.

[fiveofpeep]

something similar happened between me and my bestfriend actually. It must have been the stress or something, but her personality really changed and I let her know my feelings and we parted ways. My advice is just to be nice about it because now that time has passed, I wish I would have treated the situation differently and that we could spend more time together...but I burned that bridge

[RN2010LW]

I would just make the rental plans with the other friends and not include her with them, especially if everyone else agrees. Let her bring the issue up. When she says, "what are we doing about the spring rental?" say, "we changed our minds". You did, didn't you? Then, you change them again and decide to rent a place without her.

Talking and discussing things with people is so overrated. If you don't want to hurt her feelings just don't say anything, especially since no plans were ever finalized.

I agree with you it is overrated.....thats why I think its so childish...I've always been able to tell people how I feel and whats on my mind....and this I don't think should be a big deal....(but shell make it one)...I agree with how u say to go about it....because it really was never finalized.