help! relationship. have no time.

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Im in the 3rd semester of my program and its gotten really challenging and i feel i have no time for my boyfriend. i have a part time job also. i see him maybe once or twice a week but there is no good time to see him. I feel guilty because I should be studying when I see him. He understands and knows I have school work but we already dont see each other very much and its still an issue to my studying. How do people work through this?

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Specializes in Adult Nurse Practitioner.

Consider not studying Friday night and all day Saturday...make a "date night" on Friday. It's not only good for your relationship, but it helps clear your head for studying!

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yeah we already do that. but all day sat i cant do i need to be studying and working on my careplan. its just not realistic and i work sometimes on the weekend. and during the week i have classes everyday. and more studying.

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Keep your eye on the prize. Passing your educational program will be something you'll have to do to do a lot of the things you want in your life. Whether he is in your life or not, you still need to pass school.

At this point, you and your BF either understand that and are willing to make it the priority...or you aren't. I know delayed gratification is hard. This too shall pass. Eyes on the prize, dear.

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Specializes in CMSRN, hospice.

All day one day might be a little unrealistic, but you need a sabbath from all that work! So definitely take an evening where you get some guilt-free quality time with your boyfriend. That might help make your study time more effective too because you'll be rested and refreshed.

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Specializes in LTC/SNF.

I am married and I barely see my husband or get to spend any quality time with him :( One of the many sacrifices we are both making to get me through nursing school. We try to eat dinner together nightly and watch an episode of one of our favorite TV shows 3-4 times per week. On the weekend we usually have a date or run errands together. I have to pencil him into my planner...

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Keep your eye on the prize. Passing your educational program will be something you'll have to do to do a lot of the things you want in your life. Whether he is in your life or not, you still need to pass school.

At this point, you and your BF either understand that and are willing to make it the priority...or you aren't. I know delayed gratification is hard. This too shall pass. Eyes on the prize, dear.

I love the above advice!! This is for your future and it's very demanding!! It's a really tough "job" to be in a relationship with a nursing student. So, i do understand how lonely your man might feel. Nobody understands this type of intense schooling we (as nurses) go through (unless they went through nursing school). A man who will stand by your side, be your cheerleader, take what free time you have, and doesn't complain is a keeper! Then, you can kindly remind that wonderful man that your education is for YOUR future together. :)

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When I was in nursing school, I was married and living with my husband so I got to at least see him every day. It was difficult because much of my time was at work or studying. One of our favorite things to do together is watch our favorite shows and pause and talk about the show, sharing with each other our beliefs or just sharing a laugh. (yeah, we're real exciting people lol )While my husband was supportive of my schooling, he missed me not doing our favorite thing together much of the time because I was always studying or working on endless papers for clinical. It was hard, and I got to live with him so my point is simply that I can only imagine what it would be like to be in your shoes and not see my man every day. I have no advice, just saying I'm sorry that its so difficult for you. I myself didn't get to see my family (mom, dad, siblings, and all other relatives barely at all. So I'm just lending an ear. Good luck with everything. Both school and your relationship.

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My now husband and I had a year long season where I worked or had school all day, six days a week. Sunday was our only day and errands and what have you had to happen then too. It was a rough year for us and in general but we made it out stronger and when it was done we both said if we can make it through that we can make it through anything.

Even just a dinner during the week, or quick coffee date help! It's the little things ;)

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Specializes in Psych.

I feel your pain. I have an amazing boyfriend who is very supportive & knows that he can't dominate all my time...or even 1/3 of it! But even if we can't spend "good" time together (you know, the difference between cuddling/talking or wasting time on our phones when we're sitting on the same couch), I try to at least make sure we sleep next to each other several nights a week.

I also try to get my homework done so I can spend one weekend night with him (if I am not working).

It can be managed, it's just all about time management. Your schooling is your future, but (hopefully) so is your partner :inlove:

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