Getting burned out

No suggestions, just support. I'm sure it won't shock anyone to hear I'm in about the same position as you are right now. Darn it, I don't WANT to get hard, like the nurse who mocked me for going to my primary baby's funeral! But how do we go on, month after month, crying over these kids?

((((WeeBabyRN))))

No suggestions, just support. I'm sure it won't shock anyone to hear I'm in about the same position as you are right now. Darn it, I don't WANT to get hard, like the nurse who mocked me for going to my primary baby's funeral! But how do we go on, month after month, crying over these kids?

((((WeeBabyRN))))

Thank you!

I was talking to another nurse at lunch last week about all of this and she told me that I had to learn to leave it at work. I asked her to tell me how, because after taking care of someone for 5 or 6 months I truly love them and they sometimes come to my mind.

Thank you!

I was talking to another nurse at lunch last week about all of this and she told me that I had to learn to leave it at work. I asked her to tell me how, because after taking care of someone for 5 or 6 months I truly love them and they sometimes come to my mind.

If she gives you any words of wisdom, let us know. I haven't figured out how to leave the little ones at work. We have a pretty good-sized unit and I find obits for my patients every week or two .

In some way, I think that by remembering the babies, we are honoring their presence on earth, for however long their time lasts.

I wish I had some good advice for you, but like Eliza, just support. {{{{{WeeBaby}}}}}.

Maybe you need to call in sick for a week. Your mental wellbeing is as important as your physical health. If we worked together, I'd be happy to pick up your shifts for a few days .

Just wanted to send some support and hugs to you! :icon_hug:

Sometimes when things get bad up by me, it helps me to go through the pictures and cards that families send us. Something about reading the thanks and praise and seeing pictures of happy, healthy babies reminds me why I do this.

As others have stated - mental health days are definitely needed every now and then. After a hard night, a lot of times a bunch of us will go out to breakfast. It always feels good to get some good food, and to just discuss everything that happened during the night ( a really bad code for example...)

Time is also a very good thing...

Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get through this difficult time on my unit?

If you find out, let me know.

(((((HUGS)))))

I have worked in the NICU for 13 years now. You will go through waves of burn out-it is unavoidable. There are a few things you can do though.

1-take a mental health day--spend the whole day at home with a book or comedy, bubble bath, etc

2-I started a little photo album years ago of patients that touched my heart-behind each photo I write some notes and thoughts about the situation and the baby.

3-As soon as I leave work I literally let my hair down, change shoes in the car, and blast music all the way home.I keep a knapsack that is only for work and don't bring anything to work that I will use on my days off.

4-See if you can do a shift once in awhile in the regular nursery--it can help to see that not every baby is born with problems.

Hope it helps

I asked her to tell me how, because after taking care of someone for 5 or 6 months I truly love them and they sometimes come to my mind.

You are a very special person to feel this way. Reading that made me want to cry. I think being a compassionate person can be a curse as much as it is a blessing. I'm not working as an RN right now, but I can tell you, I would feel the same way. The one thing that gets me through is prayer. Since death is a spiritual matter, I seek spiritual help. Take care.

I kind of feel like if I ever get to the point that I don't care, I need a new profession. I have also been to funerals. It is my way of closure. I do try to leave most of it at work, and I have gotten better at it. I called in sick for two weeks last month. It just made me want to stay out longer. I am really looking forward to the time change, maybe it will help us all.

Just wanted to send some support and hugs to you! :icon_hug:

Sometimes when things get bad up by me, it helps me to go through the pictures and cards that families send us. Something about reading the thanks and praise and seeing pictures of happy, healthy babies reminds me why I do this.

Thank you all for your suggestions. I did start writing a blog as an attempt to journal, it really does help to see your thoughts as concrete words. It seems like when you see your thoughts as words you can deal with them more methodically (not sure this is the right word).

In my mailbox Monday was a card from a family who had 24 week twins. The front of the card is a collage of pictures of the surviving baby who went home last month. Inside the card was a genuine and beautiful thank you from the parents, with a promise that their baby would hear all about me one day. On the back, where it would say Hallmark it had a picture of the baby and said "Thank you WeeBabyRN, I love you, Love, L." This card made me realize that what we do really matters, just me doing my job and CARING made a positive impact on this family.

I feel like I am climbing out of my hole. I am looking forward to the time change.

I am glad to hear that things are getting a little better - keep taking care of yourself!