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I am lost for words. This is my first posting on this site . Ok straight to my point. I have been waiting and praying for so long to get into the nursing program and finally God has answered my prayer. I got my acceptance letter for fall 2014. Oh wow! I am so grateful but the twist here is I found out am also pregnant . Hold on ...... I am married with a 9 year old and we have been trying for another for about 4 years . We tried a lot of options but nothing was working for us. My marriage was a strain already. I prayed to God everyday and nursing school and another child was top on my list.

now I see myself with the two most important things coming full circle . I don't know what to do . I am happy but afraid coz I have heard how hard nursing school is. How am I gonna cope? please HELP!!!!

i am due right about couple weeks into the program. How am I gonna do this? The only way I encourage myself is I say to myself" God this is your will and I know you will make a way" . Did anyone of you out there have a similar story? Please share.

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Specializes in L&D, infusion, urology.

Oh goodness! Well, congratulations and congratulations!

Consider talking to the department about postponing until next semester/next year. Both a newborn and nursing school are huge adjustments and require a lot of time, energy and focus, and I think you would do yourself a disservice trying to go through nursing school when your baby is due. Only you can decide what's right for you, of course, but that's my two cents.

Good luck, whatever you decide!

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Specializes in Trauma, Teaching.

CONGRAT'S! I've had several pregnant students go through, it all depends on the individual.

If your pregnancy is "easy", then you'll be fine. However, you won't know until later... the time to withdraw is when you have to, not because you are afraid something MIGHT happen. As long as you and your doctor are in agreement, keep going! Start thinking about who can help with child care, if you can pump while at clinicals, etc.

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Thanks for your comments JBudd and Runbabyrun . Am hoping it's an "easy" pregnancy . Coz I have been in school so long ,waiting another semester is like waiting a year again. I waited two years to get into this school . I hope I get enough help when baby is here . It's gonna be tough but am praying.

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Specializes in Hospitalist Medicine.

Personally, I don't think I could handle a newborn, no sleep and nursing school all at the same time.

Having said that, a woman in our cohort went through this in the fall. 3 weeks into the semester, she had the baby. Lecture was on Wed., she had the baby the next day and was right back in class on Monday. I don't know how she did it, but she did. And with good grades, too.

So, it's not impossible. Only YOU know what your strengths & weaknesses are, so you'll have to come to your own conclusion about what will work for your particular situation.

Congrats on getting accepted into nursing school and on the upcoming arrival of your little one :D

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Re-double blessing

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hi guys, I have my beautiful baby girl in October and I thank God my nursing program admission was deferred till spring,. I am really grateful , so am looking forward to start in January...heyyyyyy.

ready for the challenge coz I have heard so many stories about clinicals and how challenging it is . My daughter will be 3 months old when I start clinicals next month. I already have child care for her and I hope and pray everything works out well for me.

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Specializes in Trauma, Teaching.

Thanks for the update! Congrats on the little one

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Hope is good and all, but hope is not a plan. Have one. Good luck!

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i was at my last orientation yesterday before classes start in about 2 weeks. It's a lot to take in . The instructors let us know how challenging it's gonna be. It's nerve recking.

I bought the books already and gonna start reading today. I am looking at the challenge ahead and at the same time I am soooo nervous with family to take care of, job(part time) , school. I know a lot of my family and friends will not understand but I started telling them already "I will not be calling or visit as I used to because my life is gonna be busy this year and next. i have couple of demanding friends but they have to suck it and know that I am trying to pursue my career and make a better life for my family .

i am excited and nervous . If you are out there and wanna be a positive influence or even to share our experiences as we go through this time ,please reach out . I really need positive people in my life .

( [email protected])

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Specializes in ICU.

I am in my second semester of an ASN program. In August of 2013, I signed up for school and filed for divorce in the same week. So I am a single mom now. It was tough. I took 5 classes that first semester. But I am doing just fine. I still get my son to his extra-curricular activities, I find time to study, and I even manage to squeeze some dates in from time to time. I've made lots of good, new friends and have kept my old. I make time to work out also. I really think if you can get organized, you will do great. I print out calenders for people who help with my son a month in advance so they know when to get him. I have a dry erase board in my kitchen I write out once a week so my son knows what is up, and I keep a planner in my school bag to write stuff down.

I also make sure my son does not get lost in the mix. Even if it is just 10 minutes sitting down to talk, I make sure he gets that time with me. Sometimes we play a game or watch a movie. I don't want him to feel like he has lost his mom to nursing school.

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Thanks for your inspiration. You are strong ,going through a divorce and school. I know I have to be very organize and manage my time well. I don't want my family to loose me to nursing school either. I am now planning ahead , cooking and stacking up for at least the first semester. I have a son also and he loves when I do home cooked dinners ,so I don't want him to not have that. I will continue helping him with his homework and stuff I have couple more days to get myself organized ,putting everything in order as best as I can

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Specializes in Vascular Access.
Update

i was at my last orientation yesterday before classes start in about 2 weeks. It's a lot to take in . The instructors let us know how challenging it's gonna be. It's nerve recking.

I bought the books already and gonna start reading today. I am looking at the challenge ahead and at the same time I am soooo nervous with family to take care of, job(part time) , school. I know a lot of my family and friends will not understand but I started telling them already "I will not be calling or visit as I used to because my life is gonna be busy this year and next. i have couple of demanding friends but they have to suck it and know that I am trying to pursue my career and make a better life for my family .

i am excited and nervous . If you are out there and wanna be a positive influence or even to share our experiences as we go through this time ,please reach out . I really need positive people in my life .

( [email protected])

I know your feelings, as I too was in your spot once. But the key, imo, is planning ahead and don't forget to tap into your family's help and resources. Sometimes it will take the entire family to help in one way or the other to get you through this struggle. Now, in actuality, you have one up on me, as you are in a commited relationship. YAY. I was seperated and taking care of two boys, ages 4 and 6 when my nursing experience started. I was working 4 days a week, and taking 14-16 credit hours each semester so as to complete my ASN in two years. Yes, it was hard, but boy the rejoicing you'll do when it is over, is incomprehensible now. One day, before you know it, you too will be a new grad, and the world will be at peace again! Feel free to PM me anytime, I'm always willing to help.

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