Does anyone else feel this way?

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I feel like school will never end! this is my 3rd year in school, I am behind because I got married, we moved, and then moved again.... I am only 20 but I should be in the program already but life got in the way.... I have always been a full time student and 2 1/2 years out of the 3 years I have worked full time also. I work at a hospital, and everyday I am reminded why I force myself to work all night and then go to class the next day, but here lately I am starting to wear out. I can not wait for spring break and actually get to sleep a little lol. I know they said nursing students do not have a life, but I do not even see my husband most of the time. We both work nights, but then when my job ends it is time for school or manage to finish up assignments and studying. He understands and supports me beyond what most men would, but I feel like he is getting cheated out of the marriage. I sound like I am complaining.. mostly I just need to get it out haha. I love what I do and sometimes I get my pay check and I am like I could live off this.... Why do I need to get my Bachelors... then I look around me and say no you need to get that out of your head! You do not want to be a PCA all your life lol. Anyone else overload themselves with life.... It is more of a necessary thing than a choice on to do both work and school I could probably do part time but we would be struggling majorly. Does any else feel like they barely have their head above water and the water keeps rising?

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To answer your question, yes, there are moments when I feel like you. I am a returning student, age 43, and there are day's I question myself. However, I'm a woman of faith, so when I feel like this, I remind myself that I am exactly where I need to be at this time in my life. You are very fortunate that you have your husband. I am married as well, and my husband is very supportive. I thank him often, and we both continually remind ourselves that hard work will payoff, and that this struggle won't last forever.

Just KEEP GOING! You will look back, and be thankful that you didn't stop!

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Specializes in L&D, infusion, urology.

Absolutely! I'll be 34 when I graduate in May. I'm trying to balance school (clinicals, preceptorship, lecture, reading, papers, etc), being a mom, being a wife, running, keeping my house in order (totally falling through the cracks there), and my sanity. I'm planning to go back for my master's at some point, but we ALL need a break from the mayhem that is being a full time student. I constantly feel like I'm barely keeping my head above water, and I really have to take life one day at a time. I have to write down EVERYTHING in a planner so I don't forget anything, and I really don't get to plan too far out right now, or I get overwhelmed.

I think a lot of us go through this. I am keeping my eye on the prize- this is something I REALLY want, my "DRRRREEEEEAAAAMMMM", as we love to tease about on this site. I'm taking action where I can and rolling with the punches (because boy, does life know how to throw barriers in the way!).

Stay strong! :)

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RunBabyRun, you are almost there!! How exciting! :) I understand the house and mom thing as well. I feel feel like I haven't cooked my family a *real* meal in a long time. They are all so incredibly supportive, even the kiddies, ages 11 & 13. I managed to put a chuck roast in the crock pot this a.m., and we are having french dip tonight. I am sitting at the kitchen table right now doing homework, and it smells great. The crock pot is my friend when I can find it.

Anyway, good luck to you, you are SOOOO close.

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Yea I just needed to vent I know my husband is tired of hearing it lol. I just see other students my age and they are out partying and having fun and I am like YOUR ARE KIDDING ME?! This is your money you are wasting! And I just found out my orientation for work is the same week as midterms and a few of my tests.... YAY! not.... But I have notes and Atleast one of my professors is very understanding! I love him!

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Absolutely! I'll be 34 when I graduate in May. I'm trying to balance school (clinicals, preceptorship, lecture, reading, papers, etc), being a mom, being a wife, running, keeping my house in order (totally falling through the cracks there), and my sanity. I'm planning to go back for my master's at some point, but we ALL need a break from the mayhem that is being a full time student. I constantly feel like I'm barely keeping my head above water, and I really have to take life one day at a time. I have to write down EVERYTHING in a planner so I don't forget anything, and I really don't get to plan too far out right now, or I get overwhelmed.

I think a lot of us go through this. I am keeping my eye on the prize- this is something I REALLY want, my "DRRRREEEEEAAAAMMMM", as we love to tease about on this site. I'm taking action where I can and rolling with the punches (because boy, does life know how to throw barriers in the way!).

Stay strong! :)

Right on the money! I'll graduate at 33 and need a planner too!! lol With Bills to pay, family/date night time, alone time, time with my 4year old. housework, and homework and keeping myself look halfway decent is a handful lol But This awill all pay off. I do feel like it's taking waaay too long but anything worth having is worth working for. We work hard now to play hard later:cheeky:

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Specializes in ICU.

I'm 38 and will be in the program in the fall. I just recently got divorced and now am a single mom. Some days the stress is too much. I am doing 16 credit hours this semester and my son is very involved in competitive judo. We travel all over the country going to different competitions. And I am the mom who organizes everything!!! I just booked our trip to Dallas next month last night while I was working on Physiology lab homework for today. I just finished up my homework at 7 in the morning. It's a constant battle. I know my friends get tired of hearing how overwhelmed I am but they all know it's for the best. I have a very supportive friends and a great boyfriend who thinks its awesome I'm going back to school. I don't know what I'd do without his support right now. We are traveling to Hawaii for a national competition this summer and I will be on the beach with a laptop doing college algebra. :arghh:

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Totally know how you feel. Im 37 and will be entering nursing school in the fall. that will take 2 years then I have to go for my ba.

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I can't help but feel like everyone on this thread should be more self congratulatory.

Holy $h!t think of all of the things you're balancing right now but you're doing it! It's exhausting and draining and there are setbacks and naysayers, and yes, things absolutely fall through the cracks, but you're all working hard. No one could honestly say that you're not doing your very best and that should mean something.

-Q

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Yep.. I'm 31, in school full time, work part time, and have four kids ranging from 12 months to 10 years old. It's worth it though and one day we will look back and know we did it!

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Specializes in Med Surg/Ortho.

I know exactly what you mean. I feel like I am drowning some days. I have two young kids (ages 10 and 7), trying to take prereqs, volunteering and looking for a part time job. Both kids have a couple activities outside of school...and this month is the science fair. Like I need another thing to help with. To top it all off, my husband is an over the road truck driver. Gone for weeks or months at a time. Then he comes home for a few days. So I have to take care of everything myself. It is barely doable at times now. When I am in nursing school, I know it will be 100 times harder. But that is the choice I am making. This is something I WANT to do. More than anything. I also know it won’t always be like this. I will get through school, I will be making better money and have a more stable career. And then it will be my husband’s turn. He will come home and I will support the family while he goes back to school and helps more with the kids. It’s a compromise. Our life, our marriage. We’ll get through it. Just like we got through him being in the military and doing two tours in Iraq. And you’ll get through this too. Just make time for your husband (and yourself!), communicate often, and have set goals that you can focus on achieving. Before long this will be a memory that you can look back at fondly because you didn’t give up.

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