Difficulty finding a job

I actually, your comment wasn't as hurtful as some of the others...What got me most is the numerous kudos that comment got...

I didn't do this to myself...I was VERY careful...yet here I am still in this position...

I mean seriously my lil one got throught three forms of birth control....(who does that..cause god really want us to have a baby NOW)

The three forms were:

1. Condom (which we found out was defective immediately following)

2. Contraceptive foam-this was used correctly and used one hour before as directed....also was SAFE for use with condoms.

3. Plan B-(morning after pill) also used as directed first does within 12 hours and second followed exactly 12 hours after intial as directed.

I was employed but had to turn in my two weeks notice for 2 reasons.

1. Was unable to continue..the lifting and bending was nearly impossible

2. Was informed due to my PIH and kidney stones, and swelling I should be off my feet.

I have applied to WIC, and for food stamps, and medicaid...

I have applied for honestly over 100 jobs/positions....ranging from dishwasher to medical transcriptionist...

I was also pretty much forced to move...

1. No apartments...suitable for raising an infant in

(had numerous safety hazards...floor heaters...wall heaters....disgusting carpet with huge gaps from walls exposing tack board...Mold...terrible unsafe structures) this town has 4k people and 6 apartment complexes...

2. Even worse job market...the only jobs available were minimum wage fast food...and more minimum wage jobs in a very limited number of businesses.

The most disgusting part of all that....the apartments rent was the same as in the big city...aside from aweful conditions dishwashers and washer dryer hookups were non exsistant.

Even more disgusting you were stuck with terrible jobs and even worse pay....

My BF thank goodness found a job very quickly doing the exact same thing and makes $4 more an hour!!!

Wow, I really feel for you. Sixteen years ago, I was 22 and in almost the same position. I was fired from my HHA job as soon as I started the third trimester and no one would hire me. I applied for Medicaid and WIC and that helped us to get through. We had been paying $200 a month out-of-pocket for maternity care, so Medicaid was a God-send. We didn't qualify for food stamps or any other aid because my husband made too much money (by like $10 a month or something). I wasn't even sick, no PIH, perfectly healthy--still couldn't get a job six weeks away from maternity leave. That said, there are ways to get by and even get things for your baby.

Babies don't need much. You don't need bottles now, breastfeed. It'll be six weeks at least before you can go back to work. Worry about bottles later when you can pump and save up a freezer stash. You don't need disposable diapers. Cloth diapers are cheaper in the long run and you can resell them later. They're also much kinder to the environment. You don't need most of the equipment that is on the "must have" list for baby--no swing, no stroller, no crib, no fancy diaper bag, no changing table, no bottles, no formula, etc.

The most important thing now is to take care of yourself and don't exacerbate your PIH. Rest, take it easy, lots of fluids, and a careful diet. Go ahead and file for whatever benefits you're entitled to and don't feel bad about it. Social programs are there to help people get over just such a hurdle as you have now. PM me if you need a sympathetic ear.

Thank you KateRN1 and teacher sue...I did and do really need the support. I did the math and my we are in a defficient every month by about $100 we don't qualify for TANF...We should according to all the standards qualify for food stamps...don't know yet still waiting to hear from them!! I know we qualify for medicaid because I did before....yet still just waiting to hear from them!!

I am thankful to say the lady on the other end of the phone and the local WIC office was so very kind and helpful....she is calling the county I just left to get transfer papers...and then is calling me back to set up my appointment in this county....

I am so VERY thankful for people like her and you guys who just offer and ear and kind words...It makes me cry (honestly) ...must be all the hormones!!

I have hopefully (I hoping some will power will make him arrive sooner) but if he comes as soon as I would like.... he should be here in about 9 weeks (if he doesn't come naturally...apparently the Dr. I haven't met yet...my soon to be sister in law is getting me in with will induce me early)

When I say deficiet of $100 thats if we get food stamps which can be up to $408 a month...

I have money left over from grants and my tribe that if spent wisely will keep our heads above water....Also his mother has offered to hire me as her housekeeper....which I gladly and eagerly took...

I am worried about getting the car seat though for release...(cause we all know they won't let us leave the hospital without one)

I do plan on breast feeding and am not to worried about bottles just yet....and WIC will give me a breat pump after one month of breast feeding.

Also we did obtain a crib, dresser/changing table, and swing from a garage sell months and months ago before anyone could have predicted this situation.

I am also still worried about getting diapers cloth or disposable still cost money...

Since I am a new parent I have no clue what to expect with this either...I honestly have no clue about how long a package should last for...

For example if I buy cloth how many will I need apparently over six (also I have NO CLUE how to really use them) I did research a while back though like some say you need cloth diapers as inserts and diaper covers and pins/or bungee/ or velcro fasteners. I also have no clue what sizes to get....

Or if I get disposables is a box of newborns enough for that time in that size or two huge boxes (or is that to many)!! Will they go into a bigger size before the end of the first month....

I also haven't had anyone throw a baby shower and I can only hope I get lots of "birthday presents"!!

I don't know where you are from, but you might see if there is a Healthy Start program in your area. They can help with preparing you for the baby and either handle or put you in touch with resources to help with getting the things you need (diapers, car seats, cribs etc).

You can get used cloth diapers at http://www.diaperswappers.com. I would seriously caution you about insisting on being induced early. While 38 weeks is considered "full term" for babies who come at that time on their own, not all babies are ready at that time and you may find yourself caring for a functionally premature infant. Allow nature to take its course and your baby will be much better for it. If you're paying out-of-pocket for maternity care, you might want to look into midwifery care at a birth center. Lower interventions and lower cost, along with a great deal of help for you. Also ask the people at WIC about other local services available in your area.

I don';t have any advice to offer you but just support and a prayer that God sees you through this trying time.Take care girl

I am also still worried about getting diapers cloth or disposable still cost money...

Since I am a new parent I have no clue what to expect with this either...I honestly have no clue about how long a package should last for...

For example if I buy cloth how many will I need apparently over six (also I have NO CLUE how to really use them) I did research a while back though like some say you need cloth diapers as inserts and diaper covers and pins/or bungee/ or velcro fasteners. I also have no clue what sizes to get....

Or if I get disposables is a box of newborns enough for that time in that size or two huge boxes (or is that to many)!! Will they go into a bigger size before the end of the first month....

I also haven't had anyone throw a baby shower and I can only hope I get lots of "birthday presents"!!

If you want help with cloth diapers, PM me. I've cloth diapered two little ones now on the cheap and would be more than happy to let you know what has worked for us and where to find good deals.

http://www.miraclediapers.org/ is a website that loans cloth diapers to mother's in need.

As far as the corificeat, try WIC, the hospital or your local fire department. Our local WIC will sell a convertable corificeat to anyone who qualifies for WIC for $20 (and often for less if you truely don't have the $20) but in other states you can get free/ reduced price careseats at the hospital or the local firestation too.

If you haven't already, call your county information and refferal line and ask about programs in your area for low income mothers and pregnant women. There may be other programs that you qualify for that could help keep you and your baby stable until you can get back to school/work.

Good luck with everything :)