Couples in nursing program together?

lunakat · Sep 8, 2005

Hey everyone!
My bf of 3 yrs from high school and I have recently got into the BSN Nursing program together and I was wondering if that will have any effects on our relationship. I am asking this because we will have to be taking all the same classes and seeing each other all the time and I really love him a lot so I wanted to see if there are any tips to help us grow stronger together, instead of losing interest in one other. One of our nursing professors also asked me if I was going to have any problems with him being around a bunch of girls and to honestly admit, at first it didn't matter, but she got me thinking about it. Now, I do feel a little weird about it because I was used to being the only girl who got attention from him so I find myself keeping an eye on him sometimes. I don't want to seem jealous or untrustful of him, its just that now I realize other girls might have their eyes on him as well. Are there any couples out there who have any advice on this or are willing to share their experiences? Thanks!

In my class (ADN), most of the people are already married and there are only a few single people. I wouldn't worry to much about anyone making eyes at your man, I am sure after a day or two it will be apparent to everyone in the class your together. We have several men in our class who are married, and they have kinda of become just like one of the girls (wait till you guys have OB way to much info from other classmates!). Sorry I couldn't suggest anyway to make your relationship any stronger, I'm single don't have too much time for a man. Good luck to ya'll

sailornurse · Sep 8, 2005

Hey there! Congrats on getting accepted. I teach in a BSN program. We have some couples, most have met during the program. So far, 2 couples have married, one right after graduation, one this summer that will graduate May '06, 2 more weddings are scheduled for next summer. All the faculty ask of the couples is that they behave professionally while in uniform, much like the military;NO PDA-public displays of affection. In the military, married couples in uniform do not hold hands in public. So no hugging/rubbing on each other etc during clinicals. I pointed out to the students that at one hospital there are many married couples, some couples where both are nurses, some where one is a nurse, the other works in another department & unless you know the couple, you can not tell that they are married to each other when they are at work. I do not know how old you are, but behave professionally & people will respect that. They will recognize the relationship. Your bf is entering a profession that still has more females then males. How he behaves with female students/nurses is up to him. If he respects you he will abstain from flirting etc.

Fun2, BSN, RN · Sep 8, 2005

Talk out any differences of opinion you may have, or uneasy situations that may arise...flirting doesn't necessarily mean an end to your relationship is near, some people are just flirty...If need be, do not partner up with each other during school hours, so that you are not with each other too much...

As you know, a relationship is built on trust. Your BF is going to be a professional, and that is how you need to see him while in school, in clinicals, or on the job, and the same goes for him when you are concerned. There will be women he will deal with, as well as you will deal with male patients.

If it's meant to be, then no one will come between you two.

Good luck with your relationship, and with your education! :)

Daytonite, BSN, RN · Sep 8, 2005

There was a married couple in my original nursing program. They acted professionally with each other all the time. Everyone knew they were a couple. I heard they divorced sometime after we graduated, but looking back on it, the wife had made several comments about her husband that may have been an indication that they weren't always getting along. There was never anything inappropriate that I noticed between either one of them and any other of my classmates, and 1/3 of my class were males. You'll have your very own partner 24/7 to discuss nursing problems with. My husband was an LVN (he is now a pharmacist) and I was an RN. We worked on two different units in the same hospital for some time. I think it's OK to be in school together, but not to work together on the same unit.

SoulShine75 · Sep 8, 2005

Hey everyone!
My bf of 3 yrs from high school and I have recently got into the BSN Nursing program together and I was wondering if that will have any effects on our relationship. I am asking this because we will have to be taking all the same classes and seeing each other all the time and I really love him a lot so I wanted to see if there are any tips to help us grow stronger together, instead of losing interest in one other. One of our nursing professors also asked me if I was going to have any problems with him being around a bunch of girls and to honestly admit, at first it didn't matter, but she got me thinking about it. Now, I do feel a little weird about it because I was used to being the only girl who got attention from him so I find myself keeping an eye on him sometimes. I don't want to seem jealous or untrustful of him, its just that now I realize other girls might have their eyes on him as well. Are there any couples out there who have any advice on this or are willing to share their experiences? Thanks!

I would talk all these things out with your boyfriend to make sure you're on the same page. I agree with the others's advice. Make sure you are professional.

sugabuga · Sep 9, 2005

Yep. DH and I are in the program together. We've been married for four years. Maybe it doesn't bother us because we spend every moment together anyway. We do act professionally and our instructors love that we're doing this together. I have a permanent lab partner!! When we graduate when hope to work at the same facility but most definitely not the same unit. Don't worry about the other girls. What you'll find out eventually is if he wants to flirt he's going to do it. You can't prevent it, you just have to be the one to kick him to the curb if it happens. Most likely it won't. Everyone in our program is always so dog tired we barely talk to each other!