When to quit?

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When I took up nursing I knew that I wasn't nursing material but I thought maybe with time and practice I can be good. But today, I had an encounter which made me realize that maybe all of my efforts might be useless.

I know I have the tendency to sound argumentative or whiny when I speak with power. And I'm trying to not sound like one especially since I have pouty lips...they just don't complement each other. But today, it turns out that even with my ordinary plain voice, I sound like an awful person. Maybe my wordings are awful too but it's not like I'm swearing and such to illicit such reaction in my own opinion. My voice it just seems to be in war.

I don't know how to change my voice. I don't want to be in constant misunderstandings. I don't want to make my patients feel disrespected. But I just don't know what to do.... How can I change something which is inherent? My parents didn' t raise me to be fake...I don't know how to act cute and the like...I don't even know what I want to get from this thread...

I'm wondering maybe I should just quit fighting....

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Specializes in Family Nurse Practitioner.

I'm sure others will disagree and urge you to continue to work on this but my opinion is that if you are very unhappy either try to find another specialty that is a good fit for you or quit. My guess is that if you were truly happy you wouldn't sound negative and your "pouty lips" wouldn't be so pouty looking. :confused:

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Specializes in Critical Care, Education.

Have you seen a speech therapist? They can help you change the quality and timber of your voice. Facial expressions are up to you.

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I also suggest you see a speech therapist for help. This could be beneficial no matter what line of work you choose.

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:p Well to be honest I'm a 100% introvert until I became a nurse. I barely talk to people so I've only noticed my speech mannerisms now i.e. pouting my pouty lips more and getting my voice from my head. I guess my body really doesn't know how to speak well much. Therapy sounds like a good idea..and expensive...

I'll try to think of other alternatives. Thank you all.

As for quitting, I realized nursing is the only job I know to do...

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Yeah, it can be a daunting wake-up call to find out the only job you can get is in nursing.

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