4 weeks prior to graduation...

Bortaz, MSN, RN · Nov 20, 2008

Since he's leaving anyway, you need to make sure you focus and school, graduate, and get your license. Your success in school will be important to you now...it's much better than being divorced and not having any marketable skills.

Sorry it's happening to you, and hope it works out to your benefit in the end.

caliotter3 · Nov 20, 2008

I found that almost every time I was approaching the end of the semester something horrible would happen to disturb my peace of mind. The final straw was when I lost my job and had to move out of my home. That did it. I never went back to school. Do not let this happen to you. Insulate yourself and keep at your schoolwork until it is over. Your husband might have dropped this bomb on you at this time on purpose. Even if he didn't, don't give him the satisfaction of knowing that he destroyed your life any more than he has already accomplished. You need your nursing license in order to provide for yourself so don't fail at this because of your husband.

celclt · Nov 20, 2008

you got some great advice here! just dig in you heels and finish up- your success will be even sweeter!

peacelovestar · Nov 20, 2008

I agree. Try to focus on how important it is that you do this. You need to finish schoool... you will be SOOO much more upset if you don't pull it together and finish. Just focus focus focus.... school is #1 right now. can you stay with anyone else during this time? Live in the library!!

good luck!

defboy11 · Nov 20, 2008

pray/meditate which ever is of your faith. this is a horrible thing to happen to you and my prayers are up for you tonight, but las it was correctly stated-he wants to do more to you than divorce. don't give him any reason to see you suffer more than need be. good luck. endure to the end of the semester.

SDMamma · Nov 20, 2008

My heart goes out to you and I agree with all the other responses that the best way to stick it to him is to buckle down and study study hard!

I cannot imagine what you are going through or why your husband would choose to spring it on you at a time when you are in most need of support. But don't let it ruin your life and everything you've worked for by throwing in the towel now. You are so close, just do what you gotta do to make it through these last 4 weeks and you will be that much stronger when you come out the other side.

*BIG HUG* You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

blessedx2 · Nov 20, 2008

While I'm not in Nursing School yet, my exhusband did the same thing in my A&P class - which ours was a killer - and right before Christmas. I have no family out here (1200 miles away) and so I was devastated. I couldnt eat, sleep, or concentrate. I was completely blown away.

With that being said - I understand what you are saying. Please listen to me ... it WILL get better. It may not seem like it, but it will. Please try your very best to concentrate on school because it is only 4 weeks left and you've worked very hard to get to where you are at. Use those 4 weeks to seriously focus on school. It will help you take your mind of what's going on. Find someone to talk to and focus in on your faith or meditate. Breathe deep. You CAN do this and you WILL make it. I promise. Best of luck!

olivia28 · Nov 20, 2008

Just wanted to show you some support. I have been where you are. Please put all your frustration, anger, hurt and sadness into your work. 5 years from now you will be an experienced nurse with a new life. Trust me, If I did it you can too. Good Luck!

Natingale, EdD, RN · Nov 20, 2008

Wow hes so selfish. I have no advice, but just dont let him get in the way of your success. In 4 weeks you wont need him, I'm sorry things didnt work out for you but with someone that self centered youre better off.

Take everything one day at a time, again Im really sorry. Hopefully this will motivate you to do well and throw you into overdrive. If you need someone to "type to" I'm here ..Just send me a PM

savedgirl12 · Nov 20, 2008

I am so sorry! However, you don't have to quit! Keep your head up! :nurse:

CaringBella · Nov 20, 2008

I was on here looking for some help on research and I saw your posting and just had to respond because my heart felt for you. That is devastating news to get at a time when you're already at a high level of stress. I'm sure you must be feeling a million different things right now...but don't let them overcome you. This will likely be a defining moment in your life when you look back on it. Find the strength inside of you to focus and do your best in your last weeks of school. This is all about you and your accomplishment...don't let him ruin that. Don't speak to him, text/call or have any contact with him until after school is over. You ARE strong enough and you WILL get through this! Early congrats on your graduation! :yeah: Best of luck!!!