Tragedy during program

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My 20 year old nephew passed away suddenly two weeks ago. They while family is devastated.

My bother and sister in law are so distraught they I had to make all arguments and thank you and such. My husband and I have no children and consider my brothers children like our own.

I am just so sad, and feel like why bother, I just need some encouragement from others.

I have been a LPN since 2009, I just finished my first semester of a four semester RN program, I have a 4.0 as of now.

I am now behind I feel, we had ATI fundamental practice tests to do as we'll as practice math, I never fall behind, now I have not touched ATI.

I'm just looking for encouragement to continue on.

I'm sorry if this is all over, I haven't slept much.

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Specializes in Nephrology, Cardiology, ER, ICU.

Am so very sorry for your loss. Can you explain this to your instructors?

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Specializes in Hospice, Palliative Care.

Good day, nuse2b:

I'm sorry for your loss; I cannot imagine what you and your husband feel like. I just prayed to Jesus for you and your husband.

You've already made it to be an LPN (which is a large accomplishment). You are maintaining a 4.0 which is beyond outstanding.

May I encourage you to consider the conquering of your R.N. program as a tribute to what your nephew meant to you and your husband? While you also want to do it for you, do it for him as well.

Thank you.

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Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.

I am so sorry for your loss. ((HUGS))

Our family lost my BIL last November to bone cancer. Diagnosis to losing him was only a few short months. Amongst other family heartbreak........ My beautiful niece was in the middle of a rigorous ABSN program.......we were all devastated.

For her father she pulled her bootstraps up and put on a brave face....planned her wedding for this October, graduated with honors, passed boards, and just got hired as a New grad at a top medical center in the pediatric OR.....all in the span of the last 10 months. She does her Daddy proud. She makes all of so proud.

Do it for his memory.....do it for him.

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Specializes in Pain, critical care, administration, med.

I am sorry for your loss. There are no words that can help with the pain you feel. Your nephew I am sure knew about you returning to school and he was probably very proud of you. In his honor you should finish. What a honor in his memory.

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Thank you all

I won't quit, but just heavy hearted

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I am so sorry for the loss of your nephew...it is never easy to lose someone you love and it seems to hurt so much more when the person is young.

I wanted to share with you my story from this past year. Nearly one year ago, my father was diagnosed with stage IV pancreatic cancer (this is one you do NOT want to get). I had just started what was considered the "hardest" course of my ADN program and this diagnosis last September knocked the wind out of me. I knew that this cancer was essentially a death sentence (a positive attitude helps, but it alone will not save someone). Since I lived at home with both parents, I had the opportunity to spend time with and care for him for many months, which was a blessing.

My father died this past March, exactly 50 days before my pinning ceremony. I was there to hold his hand and tell him I loved him and I would NOT quit nursing school no matter what.

That being said, your loss was so sudden....and I don't wish to compare experiences because loss and grieving is so individual. Being in the program this past year probably saved me from having a breakdown of sorts. ASK for HELP if you need it, both from nursing school friends and instructor. They are the ones who are going to be your family away from home and there's no better group of caring individuals than those in a nursing program :) But if you do feel as if you need time off to grieve now, there's no shame in doing so.

(((hugs))) My story ended decently. I graduated with honors in May and passed the NCLEX June 18th. I took the summer off to decompress and will hopefully start job-hunting soon.

Please message me if you need anything...

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I'm sorry for everyone's losses, my mom was sick during LPN school and passed 4 days after I passed my boards.

It just feels different

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I will not quit, but I don't feel the sad as I did about anything.

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Specializes in adult psych, LTC/SNF, child psych.

I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and raped by a stranger near my off-campus apartment all within the span of a couple weeks. I was in my 3rd semester of nursing school (1st semester senior year). I ended up taking a week off from classes at the urging of my therapist and he sent a letter to my instructors explaining my circumstances (not in detail, of course). They were understanding and I got extensions for a few assignments. I kept my head held high, asked for help when I needed it, and stuck with therapy. I would look into your school's counseling center if you aren't already seeing a therapist.

Talk to your instructors about your situation. I'm not suggesting that you ask them to throw you a pity party, but nursing instructors are human and do usually understand traumatic experiences and undesirable, unpredictable situations. I'm sure there are accommodations that can be made.

Stick with it. Just keep swimming!

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I am so sorry, there are no words. The pain that you and your family must feel is immeasurable. When you finally do get some sleep, only to wake, and for a brief moment, either it seems like it must have been a dream, or you forget for a second, and then it hits you all over again. When everyday starts this way, it is so hard to see how anything could be worth it, how anything has any meaning at all. Sending lots of love and peace to you and your family, praying you find the strength to make it through. My heart breaks for you all, losing such a young person weighs so heavy on the heart and soul ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥

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