Stars are not lining up!!

LifelongDream · Aug 7, 2009

My grandma died two days into my last semester of school. I had two options:

1. Fall to pieces and say forget it, I can't deal with school right now.

2. Pull myself together and fight tooth and nail to make it through.

I chose 2. I graduate tomorrow. Today, I picked up the phone to call her and tell her how well I did on my final practicum and then I quickly realized that my phone won't reach where she is now.

I guess the thing you have to realize is that horrible things happen to most of us during nursing school. It's your response to those events that makes the difference. I would say put your puppy down this weekend, take your kiddos to pick out a puppy from the pound, and reschedule your test for next week. You can do it. Have faith in yourself.

Rylee2008, ASN, RN · Aug 7, 2009

My grandma died two days into my last semester of school. I had two options:
1. Fall to pieces and say forget it, I can't deal with school right now.
2. Pull myself together and fight tooth and nail to make it through.
I chose 2. I graduate tomorrow. Today, I picked up the phone to call her and tell her how well I did on my final practicum and then I quickly realized that my phone won't reach where she is now.
I guess the thing you have to realize is that horrible things happen to most of us during nursing school. It's your response to those events that makes the difference. I would say put your puppy down this weekend, take your kiddos to pick out a puppy from the pound, and reschedule your test for next week. You can do it. Have faith in yourself.

Thanks so much for the response. We had our dog put down this morning and I rescheduled my test for later. I feel bad about complaining when it was just a dog, when you had to deal with the loss of a loved one. Thanks for the motivation.

Music in My Heart · Aug 7, 2009

Heavens, no, you're not the only one.

In our class we've had marriages, breakups, separations, deaths of pets, deaths of very close friends, incarceration of family members, and serious illnesses for children.

Life happens... to everyone.

I'm sorry things are rough on you right now.

May your seas calm and the wind fill your sails.

DolceVita, ADN, BSN, RN · Aug 7, 2009

So sorry about your doggie. I had to put one of mine to sleep a few months ago because he got dementia -- it was awful. My other dog is 14 and having liver trouble. So I have had to gird my loins about some upcoming decisions.

I have had such an eventful several years that I have friends who seriously wonder about my luck.

So, how I deal with this stuff is to get as far ahead academically as possible. I learned the hard way by failing one class and getting a D in another. Never again. I have met other people who have learned the same thing.

Again so sorry about your dog. I truly feel for you and your kids. Big hugs.....

nursejoy23 · Aug 8, 2009

I think you made a responsible decision to reschedule your test. Even though it was just a dog, it probably felt like family. Life will happen. My second to last semester my father died 2 weeks before finals. I took my diagnostic exit exam the same day as his viewing. I had about 3 quizes and exams even before finals. My teachers didnt want me to take them but I had to keep moving. Then the begining of my last semester I got pregnant. I had to find a way to study for my exit exam and sleep (that darn 1st trimester). You just gotta find a way to manage and adjust. Good luck when you finally do take it and God bless you and your family in this timeof bereavement. Keep your head up.