Special relationships at work

[dedream]

Ok here goes. Recently I started floating to a wonderful unit with wonderful nurses and cnas who rock. I come to work and leave with a feeling of accomplishment. About two days ago we had a nurse go on vaction and a nurse from another unit has taken her position. Apparrently this nurse has a history of having very special relationships with the men in the facility and her most recent realtionship resulted in a knock-down-drag-out-argument with her beau. some of the regular cnas and nurses have begun to take sides. Yesterday this said nurse came to me and asked my opinion about her situation and I was at a loss for words as to what to tell her because aside from witnessing the argument I really dont have a clue about their relationship, so I told her I didnt want to make a comment because its none of my business. This situation has definitely become a distraction for those involved and is now becoming a soap opera of sorts for the residents who have witnessed the argument. There is definetly some tension between the folks who have taken sides and i fear it might start taking a toll on the work relationship between the crew. I am anxiously awaiting the regular nurses return. Do you guys think its okay for these relationships to go on at work or should there be a no fraternizing (sp)between staff policy across the board?

[pca_85]

Don't take sides. Plus, she is totally unprofessional for having a fight in front of residents.

[tokidoki7, ASN, RN]

I think when those types of relationships start to interfere with a person's job then that's when there is a problem. You did the right thing by telling that nurse that her problems were none of your business. Just stay out of it!

[KimberlyRN89, BSN, RN]

Yes, stay clear of that sort of thing. I think you did the right thing & its obvious that your main concern is the residents, not getting involved in drama. Kudos to you :)

[NurseCubanitaRN2b, BSN, RN]

I have to second, just mind your own business. I'm unsure what type of unit you work at, but if it's a nursing home it might be a bit harder to control behavior like that but in the hospital setting it's not tolerated. If you're in the hospital go to the director because a lot of times the directors are unaware of things that go on the unit especially if it's after hours. So if there's a supportive director there then it will be taken care of almost immediately. I've run into something similar and I told this director that I just don't feel comfortable coming back to this particular unit until it's taken care. It was taken care of immediately. Good Luck

[dedream]

Thanks so much for your input guys...nurse cubanita I work on a dementia unit in a nursing home. The good news is she is the float nurse and as of yesterday the regular nurse has returned so it helped tremendously. She wasnt too happy to hear of the drama that ensued, but she didn't seem too surprised by it eighter. Well now another unit will get a taste of the drama and we can go back to normal, still it just seems like a shame.

[NurseCubanitaRN2b, BSN, RN]

i would steer clear of her and any drama, I hate drama.

[NM nurse to be]

Yep, I would avoid taking sides with everything I had! This kind of stuff sucks. I hope it dies down when your regular nurse returns.

We have something similar going on, except it's two aides who were dating. He broke it off because she was getting clingy and nuts and spreading their business all over at work. Unfortunately, she is the lead aide on that floor. He is the med tech and they work most shifts together. If another aide speaks to him for any reason, much less anything personal, she finds a way to write her up. She has run so many aides off that floor, either by writing them up or just making life totally miserable in general. This aide and the nurse take pride in running out aides they don't like. It's crazy. Work drama sucks!!!!!!!!!!

[NurseCubanitaRN2b, BSN, RN]

I've learned never to date someone you work with because in the end it just doesn't work. Find someone else in a totally different field, that's much better, although that can lead to drama too, I found that out LOL. Stay away from drama like that, it's not worth it