Relational Aggression

what you are referring to, is a cultural event, and not a professional one.

don't get me wrong:

this back-biting indeed, occurs amongst the females...new and experienced.

do not let anyone tell you differently.

recognizing the facetiousness that we are prone to, i have mostly had male friends all my life.

when i had my dtr, i raised her hoping she would grow up to be tolerant, respectful, assertive and open-minded.

(other desirable qualities, cannot be taught, ie, warmth, intelligence, integrity)

same with my boys:

i raised them all the same.

as teenagers, they're up to the normal pranks that come w/adolescence.

but as human beings, i couldn't be prouder.

they will all be aware of workplace b.s. and know how to deal with it, competently.

one step further, i profess they will all instinctively run to the underdog's defense.

this female phenomena is pervasive.

and i maintain, it's mostly about upbringing and what we as parents, can do to turn it around.

leslie

I absolutely agree it's not professional. It's actually unprofessional and is totally a personal thing. The aspects of the negative behavior that come from upbringing as well as environment are very clear. It is cultural indeed.

If you dont enable negative behaviours, then they dont exist

Thank you. I apologize to all for "older" term.

I agree alot of it is cultural. My family drilled into my head respect, honor, dignity, and the code,"love your neighbor as yourself."

As a result of this training, this emersion of accepptance, nonpredjeduceness and love I have always thought of myself as a very easy-going nonviolence prone person. I am even a staunch pacifist! However after working as a nurse in the high stress enviroment I do, I find myself prone to road rage, sleep disturbances, and relationship difficulties. I chalk it off to stress and sleep deprivation, and I pray I will not let it destroy my life as it has some of my coworkers. We nurses are human beings. We can only take so much. Taking time for ourselves in out personal lives is essential. I find working out, sleeping, and spending some quality time with my family helps me get control.

I know there are spelling errors in this posting.

"woman's inhumanity to woman" by phyllis chessler