Question about amnios?

hi. i have a question and it is keeping me awake and i am wanting some professional and/or honest opinions.

a little about what is going on: i have mentioned here before about my 1st child, a son, who died when he was 12 days old. he was born at 32 weeks due to my pih and the placenta starting to fail. blake was born with bilateral cleft lip and palate, hemivertebrae and tetralogy of fallot. we had no idea he was so sick until his birth as all the us in my pregnancy, we never saw any of these things due to his position in the womb.

i am now 10 weeks pregnant again. the dr i am seeing is not the dr i had in my pregnancy with blake, but is fully aware of all the complications we had in our first pregnancy and of blake's death.

in 6 weeks, we will be going to uab hospital for very high level us and a fetal echocardiogram and my ob/gyn has told me that we may be having an amnio depending on what they find on all the scans. i know the amnio has basically around a 1% miscarriage rate. it took almost 2 years to conceive again (and a lot of procedures) so i am very guarded about this baby. my husband and i have talked about the amnio since the day i learned i was pregnant again as my ob/gyn told me we probably would have one and we would not terminate no matter what-i've decided that if this baby is sick too, i will carry him/her for as long as i can. and if there is something wrong when he/she is born, we will deal with it-just as we would have done anything on this earth to take care of blake.

my question is this: honestly, how many times have you seen a patient lose their baby after an amnio-due to infection, pre-term labor, or late term miscarriage?

i know they can not force the amnio, but if there is any chance this baby wouldn't get to come home because of complications from an amnio......well....it would just be devestating.

i am sorry if this is difficult to read, it is 2 am where i live and i just had to get this out of my mind where maybe i can sleep.