dgonzal883

i dont see anything wrong with what you wrote or how you wrote it. i too am a formed cna and i didn't see anything insulting in the post. i think how you handled it was professional and mature. was there a disagreement in the past between the two of you that involved the DON? i don't understand why she would say that but whatever..that's how some people are. i had a similar experience where an aid, pretty new to the facility, made a comment about me in front of another aid and the supervisor, both whom were surprised to even hear that about me. this male aid made a comment along the lines of "she's hot but she's a b*tch", mind you before i had only worked with him maybe once prior, and ran into him at a store not too long ago,mattwer of fact i had said hi first...but here's the thing..i go to work to work, not to socialize. i have no problem talking to fellow co-workers and making friends, but when i'm working i'm working. i don't stop what i'm doing to gossip, if i'm not done with my work i don't just take a break because everyone else is doing it...i concentrate on what i have to do and do it..besides that i'm the shy type where i usually only talk to people if i know them anyway... but regardless, i didn't let it bother me. i treat my co-workers (aids, nurses, DON) with the utmost respect because they, as human beings, deserve it. i just laughed about it and moved on. it was slightly frustrating for someone to msake such a quick judgement but i know how i am and how i treat people, and so do co-workers and residents that know me, so i let it go as poor judgement on his part. this person wasn't a close friend so just go about your business..her loss.

it disappoints me when i hear about nurses valuing popularity in the workplace over a patient's/resident's well being. you absolutely did the right thing. personally i would rather have a few co-workers animosity than harm to the resident on my conscience..i would find a new job though...if the DON seems to be acting differently towards you because of it i dont think i would want to work in a place run by someone like that..

hearing something like this really frustrates me. if i were in the nurse's shoes i don't know what i would do the moment that the aid made the resident cry and laughed about it. i think my reaction would be fueled by emotion and instrong defense of the resident. hearing people defend the aid frustrates me even further. it is one thing to be argumentative and bold with fellow staff members, but to be verbally abusive is unexcusable. the people that defend her are probably people who are too desensitized to the severity of this kind of abuse, possibly because they too participate in such cruelty, or because they witness it occur so often without any action being taken. i can't think of any justifiable excuse for this aid's behavior. i imagine that this wasn't a one time thing and that you are not the only one that heard/hears it. because you took action, she will probably keep quiet in front of you, but i'm sure the abuse is still occurring. she should be fired and have her certification revoked. the way the higher-ups dealt with this disappoints me and makes me feel even more thankful for the people i currently work with...

it's little things like that that make the day go by easier and make it all worth it, no matter how hard of a day i might have had. sometimes i wish i carried a pen and notebook just to keep track of all the stories and quotes...i'm sure we could each write a book..complying with hippa of course .

I can absolutely relate. I work in LTC and the other nurse i was working with was supposed to be trainning this new guy. a little while into the shift he comes up to me and said "[nurse's name] said to follow you around". i couldn't believe it. she had been a nurse for i think 9 years, meanwhile i was officially off orientation for at the most, 1 week (i was a brand new nurse!). i was very unhappy with that, and told him that i probably will not be as helpful as i have only been on my own for about a week. i don't think it was a good decision on her part at all, reguardless of me having worked there for years as an aid..i'm supposed to be trainning him to be a nurse, not an aid. did i mention that he was a brand new LPN as well?? i understand that having to train someone is no picinic, but is that more important than being sure that they're properly trained? not that i am incompetent, but she would have had far more knowledge to offer.