Venus1

I'm almost through my first clinical rotation; killing me to feel i have to be perfect. I know perfection is not attainable. I'm doing great in my program with a A. I need to find time to destress and detox to breathe ......any suggestions? Hard to sleep....let go of my thoughts.... Thanks!

A-MEN...I've been on a med-surg floor for 2 months, am counting it down until 6 months so I can transfer. The treatment by the staff has been backstabbing (I'm doing excellent, great, then all of a sudden...WHAM, you now suck). I'm in a second career and cannot feel anything but pity for new grads who are in their first position out of school and are treated like this...my self-esteem is being rocked, can't imagine having youth on my side too. I know I'm going to be a great nurse, I just need time to be able to grow into the profession with confidence. I do not trust management or any of the charge nurses and will stick to myself from now on. I need to gain the experience to be able to go anywhere else; they all know this and are going to "eat their young". I always thought it was just a scary saying and "wivestale"...didn't realize IT WAS THE TRUTH. Hang in there...I'm going to!! This too...shall pass and better things are on the horizon for positive people, don't become jaded in the profession; it can't be like this everywhere!

OH yeah...I have 3, yes, 3 college degrees. And I still can't get hired on ANYWHERE! I've filled out so many applications online, gone on several interviews, and nothing. I'm a new grad with no experience, and no one will give me a shot. Not to mention, I've run my own business... this is a second career for me, I can do this if someone would have a heart and hire me. I've hit the Jack tonite (someone needs to set me straight on this new grad thing), I'm very depressed that I bought into the whole "higher education" thing and NOTHING has come about. I don't even want to think about how many applications I've filled out. I tried to get on as a student extern my last semester on school, and no avail either. I need some really good advice now, my fellow nurses...inspire me, please! Thanks.

Of course u can! Just because u didn't make it the first time doesn't mean you never will....we all have obstacles to overcome, sometimes the timing just isn't right for nursing school and the rest that life throws at u. If you never try anything new and all you do is stagnate/exist in life....then you'll never fail at anything, but you'll never go anywhere or experience anything in life either

Hello: I am a ASN student of the class of 09! WOO-HOO...it's been an interesting haul (Ifeel like a lifer now...have two other degrees) and can't wait to be done. I am terrifed of failing N-CLEX too...but I know this is not the end of the world. How do you stay out of the gossip pools at school...so much talking and rumors...HELP! It seems that since this is so competitive that everyone wants to discuss everything and comment on all that is happening. I don't want to seem detached and ******...since we're all working together...how do you walk the fine line of too much sharing?

Hello: I am a ASN student of the class of 09! WOO-HOO...it's been an interesting haul (Ifeel like a lifer now...have tow other degrees) and can't wait to be done. I am terrifed of failing N-CLEX too...but I know this is not the end of the world. How do you stay out of the gossip pools at school...so much talking and rumors...HELP!

Hello All: Well...I haven't failed out of the ASN program...but my nerves (and feeding into the school gossip fish bowl) just might get me there :) My grades are good (85%), but when I have to do a skills practical checkoff, my nerves definitely get the best of me. The last checkoff I did I failed. I get a chance to do it again, but if I don't pass this time, I'm out of the program. Please instruct me how to stay out of the gossip mills, talikng about grades and performances. I feel like I get sucked into this...everyone who has been through nursing school informed me that I need my classmates for studying and practice times in the labs. I feel like studying with others hinders me (only went to one study session) and the instructors pair us up to practice in lab times. That's when the communication lines are open. The instructors told us that we would become a family and learn to depend on each other for support through this process. I recently appealed my practicum (I was failed due to not keeping within the time constraint, everything else was correct on the skill). Classmates were informing me of their plights (why they did/didn't pass) I felt that the instructors were not being subjective on grading and some students were given breaks/freebies, while other were penalized when instructors had to leave the testing area to get questions clarisfied for grading. With us being on a time schedule and the time not being recorded by a stopwatch, I felt that breaking my flow gave me a disadvantage on testing...I know I repeated skills and cost myself extra time jsut to be sure that I covered all of the skills required. Everyone wants to talk grades (I try to stay out of it, yet we can grade our papers after a test with the answers by guides posted outside the classroom)...so many people look over your shoulder and say they're there to give everyone "moral support"....HELP! I feel that I've stigmatized myself by appealing the process...my appeal was denied and I feel like the pink elephant in the room now. Our school is very small and I feel like everyone knows that happened and why. Please advise me as to how to stay out of the social pitfalls of nursing school. I have two degrees, ahve owned a business in the customer service industry, am in my late 30's and have one child (9 years). Thought this schooling would be an easy one to handle socially.... THANKS fro reading all of this and giving me a neutral forum to discuss my nursing school plights :) Venus1