tmulder

I'm sure you don't need help anymore but I'd be happy to. I rarely log in here

I went to Ameritech. I was in the first class that graduated and I had NO problem finding a job!

A full brand new admit? 45 minutes. If they have been here before that leaves off a few history questions so.........30 minutes. It does take time to get used to it but here is my advice: Get familiar with the admission questions and ask them while you are doing other things like placing fetal monitors or doing an SVE. This means you have the answers to your questions already and can whiz through them on the computer. It saves me ALOT of time to do this, and I was once very slow at admits

I apologize if I acted angry/defensive. I am fighting very hard to raise my self worth and self concept. I think what your therapist said rings very true. Because I so dearly want to hang on to how far I've come and how far I plan to go, I would be interested in your insight.

You know what. Cross out some of what i just wrote. I still think that Altered is rude and self-righteous but you know what? I don't care. I know who I am. I know that I am a fantastic nurse, not just at my job at the eating disorder clinic but at the hospital as well. There are many things I doubt about myself, I probably will always have issues with my body, but I am not going to allow some bully come into a forum where people are struggling with eating disorders and addiction and make me feel small. So, I will come here when I feel compelled to. I am honestly wondering, Altered, what bothers you so much about my situation? I think it is inappropriate for you to come to a forum where people struggle so much and belittle people. It isn't okay with me. I came here to offer my 2 cents and a shoulder to those who struggle as I do. It seems to me, you came here to tear people down. This definitely isn't the place. Be kind, be supportive or keep your comments to yourself.

I was not going to come back to this thread because I was pretty sure Altered would say something that would hurt my feelings. I decided to come back to continue my communication with people who shared similar situations to me. I guess I should have stayed away, and i will from now on. People like you Altered are one reason that people end up with an ED or substance abuse. You are heartless, self-righteous and rude. Hope your happy now.

yes i was. my job has employed several people who are struggling with the disease or have been patients there at the facility. it is very easy for me (and others) to help other people, i am able to see very clearly what my patients need to do to recover, and it is very easy for me to care for these women who just can't care for themselves. i know what i need to do for myself, and that seems very simple, i need to love myself, and i need to come to grips with some bad things that happened to me in my childhood. i am tackling my abuse issues slowly as taking too much on at a time tends to bring out the ed. also, please keep in mind that for me, this struggle comes in waves. some periods of time are very easy and i don't have any issues, some periods of time are a struggle to accept myself and to eat appropriately. i have noticed that if nurture myself, the ed is a lot less prevalent. i have been very fortunate to have a body that is very healthy despite some of the things i have done to it. i honestly use my experiences from my life struggles to empathize with my patients. to be honest i am a little offended that this question was even asked, but oh well, not everyone is honest. i figured i would tell them the truth about who i am and about the extensive experience i have had in not only dealing with my disorder but living with my mother who has an ed, my best childhood friend who still abuses her body and is afraid to seek help and so on. i figure if they are uncomfortable with what i have to offer, then they have the right not to offer me a position with their facility. i do not have to work for a living, i choose to, and i would be okay if i didn't work there. on that note, i am so thankful they gave me a chance because this job has made a real difference in my life. i have a much stronger urge to fight so that i never end up in an inpatient unit with my family left behind. sorry that this was so long. and sorry that i got offended. i just try really hard to be blunt with everyone about who and what i am so.......no biggie.

Yup. It is making me crazy! I think it must be all the storms we are having here.

You have a very eloquent way of putting this. It is so much easier to see the worth of others than it is to see the worth in ourselves. I wish that I had an answer for you dear "lovingtheunloved", just know that you are not alone. I have struggled with my ED for 15 years. Some days are good, some days are horrid......just like the rest of my life. I finished nursing school a year ago and now am blessed to work in 2 different jobs that I love. One of these jobs is at an inpatient eating disorder clinic. I am learning coping mechanisms here at my job. I hope that someday, I can love myself as much as I am growing to love the beautiful girls and women that I care for. If nothing else, just remember that you are not alone, you can lean on those of us here who are willing. Sometimes just knowing you have somewhere to turn is what keeps us from going off the deep end.

I am sorry that this happened to you. I just finished my 12 week orientation in May. I honestly used to come home and cry just about every day. Every pt I was assigned always had crazy things like prolapsed cord, preeclamptic seizures....you name it. If it was scary, it happened to me. Now I am just starting to feel a bit more comfortable at work. It has taken in my opinion a long time and a lot of work but I am so happy I stuck it out. I also had people be snippy with me and often felt I was "in the way". I think you need to assert yourself and tell your manager that you are not comfortable w/the load that is being placed on you. I think it is best to be honest and your boss will be glad that you aren't taking on too much. No one wants an unsafe work environment and if you are stressed out and taking on too much pt care this soon something bad could happen. Don't let anyone pressure you into taking too much on. Take your tiime.

I think the idea that a 2 year RN gets all the grunt work is ridiculous. The only hospital that gives a rat's behind if you have your BSN is the V.A. And you can continue on to get your BSN as several of my prior classmates are doing so as we speak. I know that there seems to be an "I'm better than you because I went to such and such school mentality" but I have had no problems finding a fantastic job. In fact I have several employers still trying to get me to come work for their hospital/company. As I mentioned in an earlier post, if you are a good nurse and show prospective employers what you are made of you will have no issue.

I can't vouch for Utah Career College, but I graduated from Ameritech in October and I had my job 2 months before I graduated. My hospital employs about 15 people from Ameritech. I agree with the above poster. Work your tail end of in clinicals, it will get you noticed by the other nurses and will help you get your foot in the door.

I was offered a job during my preceptorship before I had graduated. So for me finding a job was no big deal. I don't think most managers have a problem hiring from tech schools as long as the nurse is good. Work your tail off in clinicals and you will stand out to the nursing staff and they will put in a good word for you. It worked for me and for a few others i know

Thanks so much for your words of advice and wisdom. I am so glad that I am not crazy for feeling this way. I am so sorry for everyone who has had to go through these experiences, but, it makes me feel so much better to know that I am not alone. My husband is trying really hard to be supportive but he just doesn't "get it". Thanks again. I was crying just now because I tried to go workout at the gym for the first time since the miscarriage and the child care section was all full until later today when I cant go. Stupid I know but I feel like a basket case. Coming here and reading these kind words dried my tears and I really can't thank you enough. I go back to work tomorrow morning and I think it will be okay. I may end up on here every chance I get to read your stories that made me feel so much better.

Just wondering how you recover emotionally from a miscarriage when you work in L&D. It just feels like it's being rubbed in my face all day long. Anyone have this experience?