he thrashej- Just wanted to let you know, I'm sorry your going through this. My mom died of lung cancer last May. Her hospice nurses were great, it was her stupid husband we had problems with.(she was married to him for 5 years, after my dad died). I was an ICU nurse, and I didn't want my mom dying in pain. We kept her comfy with morphine, but her husband didn't want her to have it- since it made her fade in and out. Thankfully, my older sister was POA, so she could override his stupidity. Mom was ready to go, and even the day she died, her husband was harping at her to eat (she hadn't eaten in a week). I wish you peace during this time, it's hard anyway, but throw family dynamics in, and it can really get crazy. I bet your hospice nurse has the same philosophy as me, in not letting people die in pain, if you can help it. Take care!