That SOB ( Shorness of breath guys.... shortness of breath) of a second husband needs to be welllllllllllllllllllllll I guess I've said enough.:angryfire :angryfire :angryfire How's this: Emma you let us deal with him, let us be mad as he (double toothpicks) at him, let us do the crying and the not eating ( I could use that) and you get on with school.. Finish your LPN sit for your boards and get a job.. Show him up. Get the job you want for a change and let him stay right where he is. Don't give him a darn thing. Have you filed for surviviors insurance from your first husband for your kids. I don't know how much you will get but it just might be enough for you to feed, house and clothe yourselves. Is your second husband at least taking his own two kids with him. I'd hate to see them broken up. Adults make some of the st**pidest mistakes don't they .. NOT you Emma,,,, him. Get right over to the SS office and get your benefits for your own kids. And if you are keeping the other two go to the welfare office and get them after your second husband.. Many states now will take every single license including driver's licenses, electricians, and nurses licenses for non support. And go to the welfare office and apply for food stamps whatever they will give you to keep you afloat. When my ex left that's what I did. And when he died his second wife, even though she didn't have her kids , got SSI for them.. All of sudden she wanted them when they came with money. Again adults..............eeeeeeeee You hold your head up high. Take a deep breath, finish your LPN, get a job and go for your RN part time. Or maybe with SSI you might be able to make it right now onto RN. A couple of good things will come of this. Your kids will see just what a strong woman looks like. If you have daughters what a role model you will be. If you have boys just think about the choices they will make for spouses. Keep us informed BTW definately let your school know what is going on, They may be able to help you. Good luck, you can do this. Remember we are never given more than we can handle. Your God wouldn't do that to you. He loves you too much.