Please Help

klone, MSN, RN · Jun 28, 2015

First, can you give us examples of how you feel your license is "under threat"? Second, there are narcissists and workplace politics EVERYWHERE, not just in nursing.

NOADLS · Jun 28, 2015

In my **** disturber days, I would be at the center of politics. I would always raise the philosophical question "wat do?"

Now I sit back and play candycrush. Another way out is to abstain from entering any political debate or screaming "I need an adult" when someone tries to drag you into it.

If you think your license is under fire, you could play the "NETY" card.

macawake, MSN · Jun 28, 2015

I am crap at dealing with internal politics in the workplace, I am crap at dealing with narcassists. I am a rn nurse with a lot of medical knowledge 15 years on differemt specialities. Where can I work where I feel my liscence is not under threat my narcassists colleagues and managers? I am havinh to use my medical knowledge in other industries if possible? B

At first I thought that you were saying that you aren't very good at witnessing med wastes (dealing with narcassists) but when I read the rest of your post/vent it became somewhat more clear. (I'm not trying to be clever here, that's actually how my brain interpreted it).

Still, I'm not sure how you mean that colleagues and managers with narcissistic traits are threatening your license? What's going on at your place of employment? Do you care to elaborate? I think it might be easier for people to offer advice if you do.

Oh and as Klone says, workplace politics (as much as I personally dislike it)

is everywhere, but some places are better run/managed than others.

Norepinephrine · Jun 28, 2015

I don't know much about your experiances, nor do I have experiance working as an RN because I'm still in school, but I do have a decent amount of general work experiance. I don't have the same insight as most AN members, but here are some things I have worked out about handling workplace drama:

- If everyone around you is a problem, you're likely the one with the problem. This is very hard to admit to yourself. I had to do it earlier this year-I realized that I was annoying, overcame my annoying habits, and now things are going a lot better for me for me at work and in life in general.

- Figure out what it is about you that people have trouble with. Do you talk too much? (that was my primary issue) Do you interrupt people? Do you refuse to take advice? Are you judgemental? Again, this is not easy to do. But, if you do it, you'll likely wind up a lot happier. Everyone has stuff to work on.

- Figure out which traits of yours people like and develop them.

- If you're overwhelmed, figure out why and fix it. Do you need more sleep? More experiance? Are your personal problems impacting your preformance?

- When in doubt, step back.

- One of the best pieces of advice I've ever gotten is "Know your road, know your role, and stay in your lane." Sorry if I'm over-explaining, but:

Your road = What you really want, what you're working towards

Your role = What needs you're supposed to meet

Your lane = Your own business, things related to your role or road

- If you have an issue such as anxiety or depression, it may not be as well-hidden as you think. Depression can make you act very insecure or desperate for approval. Seeking help will improve all areas of your life.

Editorial Team / Moderator · Jun 28, 2015

I don't know much about your experiances, nor do I have experiance working as an RN because I'm still in school, but I do have a decent amount of general work experiance. I don't have the same insight as most AN members, but here are some things I have worked out about handling workplace drama:
- If everyone around you is a problem, you're likely the one with the problem. This is very hard to admit to yourself. I had to do it earlier this year-I realized that I was annoying, overcame my annoying habits, and now things are going a lot better for me for me at work and in life in general.

THIS. Yes, it is a tough realization but liberating when you make it. It doesn't mean you are a bad person, but that to be effective in your role, you might have to make some adjustments.

Best of luck!

Ruby Vee, BSN · Jul 7, 2015

If everyone around you is a problem, you're likely the one with the problem. This is very hard to admit to yourself. I had to do it earlier this year-I realized that I was annoying, overcame my annoying habits, and now things are going a lot better for me for me at work and in life in general.

This is excellent advice.