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Nursing school feels like it has officially screwed with my life and who I am. Some background, I was a student at a big state school for 3 years, I had the time of my life. I also met a gorgeous smart and awesome girl and made great friends. Anyway, near the end I decided to try for nursing school which is in a city 1.5hrs away from the state school. I got in and am doing great grade wise (6 months til graduation), however it has messed with me psychologically. My confidence went to krap for some reason and I am always up tight. I put a lot of pressure on myself to succeed. Now as of a month ago my girlfriend of 3.5 years left me, she says I have changed and she no longer has feelings for me. The ****** part is that I know I have changed also. I'm not the same laid back confident guy I used to be and it sucks. It makes me pissed at the world. I am currently getting counseling but I am just frustrated. End rant.

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Nursing school can do that to you. You should take the time on a weekend to try to talk to your girlfriend/ex. Be calm, I mean take the time to relax before hand and talk to her. Tell her that you really want to to be a nurse and that you are sorry that you have changed, but it is because you are totally stressed out giving school your all. Tell you you want to stay friends and ask her to consider working it out after graduation. When you graduate you should be able to be that person again, and relax. hopefully that helps.

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Specializes in Nursing Professional Development.

If your former girlfriend is really the right woman for you, then I hope you stay in touch and work out your problems. If not, then move on. Sometimes, people meet when they are young and "fit" well with each other -- but grow apart as they become full adults. That's one reason divorce rates are so high. Young adulthood is a time of growth and change ... and sometimes the people who "fit" when we are 20 years old, don't "fit" us when we become adults.

I'm happy to read that you are getting counseling for your issues. It sounds like you are taking care of yourself and that's what you need to do.

Good luck.

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Nursing school feels like it has officially screwed with my life and who I am. Some background, I was a student at a big state school for 3 years, I had the time of my life. I also met a gorgeous smart and awesome girl and made great friends. Anyway, near the end I decided to try for nursing school which is in a city 1.5hrs away from the state school. I got in and am doing great grade wise (6 months til graduation), however it has messed with me psychologically. My confidence went to krap for some reason and I am always up tight. I put a lot of pressure on myself to succeed. Now as of a month ago my girlfriend of 3.5 years left me, she says I have changed and she no longer has feelings for me. The ****** part is that I know I have changed also. I'm not the same laid back confident guy I used to be and it sucks. It makes me pissed at the world. I am currently getting counseling but I am just frustrated. End rant.

Don't apologize to her. People get stressed out in life. That's just your current situation and state. She should be able to at least acknowledge that. Would you really want to be with someone who can't be flexible and understanding to changes or stress? You only have 6 months until graduation, hang in there.

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I too feel this way nursing school has changed me and I am only in a 22 month LPN program and me and my fiancee have really hard times and really great times and it sucks. But on the flip side, you have 6 months left and then you start a great new life in my eyes. This is what I am holding out for and unfortunately it is not much but once it is all over you will love the fact that you did it.

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I'm so sorry things are so scrambled for you right now!! It breaks my heart...I am a female recent grad, and hope you don't mind me interloping into your forum, but what you wrote struck a chord with me. Contrary to what most believe, nursing school is completely unlike the traditional college or trade school experience, and I think it is the rare person who is prepared for it, either emotionally, intellectually, or psychologically. Even as a much older, very experienced college grad, my confidence has been completely rattled, I have struggled to carry on a simple conversation, and (worst of all!) I have spent the last two years being forced to focus solely upon my own needs. It is an unexpected atmosphere that stresses to breaking point every part of who you are. The good news is that you begin to rediscover yourself, confidence reasserts its strength, joy starts to ooze into your existence, not too long before you graduate. I will pray for you daily, and like the others, ask you to just hang in there as each day brings you closer to an extraordinary profession where everything you have gone through will make a remarkable difference in the lives of your patients.

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Specializes in Ortho, Neuro, Detox, Tele.

When time is available, people love to spend every minute of it with each other...However, when the tables are reversed, NS becomes the "other woman" in a relationship....

Anyone that loves another should be able to deal with a "temporary" stress in life, especially when it is going to involve both your earning power and your happiness in life....If they can't do that, they're not for you....

I almost wish I had found someone before NS, because the demands of school and work mean you have little/no social life....the thing new women don't understand is that school has funny rules and demands.

I met someone last month. Funny, smart, pretty, etc...Had a nice 3 hr first date and it was Great....However, once the next week had gone by, tried to set up a 2nd and just couldn't until 2.5 weeks after the first date...then it didn't happen...excuse I got was that she was super busy(special ed teacher)...ok, well I'm busy too, but I made an effort....so, shows how serious you are...

Hmmm..sorry about the rant there...but just soldier on, once NS is over, you'll have more time to have that social life!! (OMG, I have a 3 day weekend!!)

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Hey--For one thing--forget the chick--For another--finish school-pass your boards. I am in a 12 month accelerated BSN program--Talk about stress--it sucks but I am doing well and and going to be done in May 08. Now is the time to concentrate on becoming who you want to be--Nursing school is stressful--it is preparing you for a stressful job--sort of. Just start your career--and make that female a distant memory--it sounds like you will be glad you did--:monkeydance:

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Specializes in ED, Cardiac-step down, tele, med surg.

Try not to beat yourself up about it b/c that's the same type of uptight mentality you're trying to avoid. Try to accept yourself as you are and be proud of you accomplishments. It's normal to get stressed out and uptight in nursing school. Now that you're in therapy, you might want to make a gesture to your ex or not. If she's the right one, then she'll understand that you are rightfully stressed and trying to seek help. If she can't accept that, then you'll find someone else with a more forgiving nature. Congratulations on your accomplishments though and having the courage to seek therapy when you needed help. Take care,

J

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Thanks for all the support, it really means a lot. Anyway, found out she got into a relationship with a guy who was our mutual friend about a month after we broke up. I completely cut off all communication with her. Its tough, but hopefully getting better. Mostly just wanted to say I appreciate all of your responses, they really did help.

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