i need some advise!

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Hey guys!

So how many of ya'll work in women's health of any kind? and how does your wife/GF feel about it?

Only reason I ask is because, I told my wife I would like to work in OB and she made the comment the other day that she couldn't be with me if I was in that field. because I would be seeing and touching other girls private parts. I know it sounds dumb from a medical standpoint, but its not like I'm a perv just doing it to " catch a peek" I have a real interest in women's studies. lets face it they have more stuff going on than us guys! anything I might be able to say to her that might make her feel better about this? I know there is a huge chance that I may not even get to work in that field, but even if I was to work in say the ER I would still see " girl parts" so I don't get it.

so if you can relate to this situation any inputs would be great thanks!

Josh

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dude, she needs to get over it..... She should be accepting of what you want to do and enjoy. I actually really liked OB during clinicals, the only reason I didnt do it was because pts and their families seemed much more comfortable with a female.... I went to the OR where I had worked already for 9 years prior.... My wife was supportive and is supportive of anything that I do, if she wasnt, we would have serious problems for sure.....

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dude, she needs to get over it..... She should be accepting of what you want to do and enjoy. I actually really liked OB during clinicals, the only reason I didnt do it was because pts and their families seemed much more comfortable with a female.... I went to the OR where I had worked already for 9 years prior.... My wife was supportive and is supportive of anything that I do, if she wasnt, we would have serious problems for sure.....

i agree, but she said she would rather be do something like peds. which is fine i guess, but you want to do what you want to do right? I didnt get any support when i said i was going to flight school either. so i put most of that on hold cause it wasnt bringing any food to the table. nursing would be faster and more practical, atleast this way im not gone 15+ days a month flying all over the world. i dont know. i'll prolly just (try) do it anyway lol! im going to have to do it in clinicals anyways so whats the difference!? I keep tellin her its not like im going to be examining supermodels all day, there are some nasty girls out there! didn't help! haha

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to be honest, even if they were supermodels, they all look the same after a while and you(at least I) will forget most of what you saw during the day once you are done and go home.... I did GYN two days a week, all day, usually 5-6 cases per day for a year and a half..... half seen plenty and nothing bothers me much anymore, did have to do a case with a severely infected lady parts/buttocks area the other day that had such an odor to it it made my eyes water on contact, the smell didnt bother me but the chemical vapor of it got my eyes to watering even with eye protection during the prep.... i have pulled cockroaches out of large womens bellybuttons..... seen condylomas the size of coliflower heads..... dead babies hanging half way out.... its all very interesting/fun/disturbing all at the same time...... There was nothing like the emotional energy that I felt delivering babies, I would still get to scrub/circulate csections up until we closed our OB department and took it over with surgery.... I would always get watery eyes when I saw and felt the energy in a delivery room.....

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to be honest, even if they were supermodels, they all look the same after a while and you(at least I) will forget most of what you saw during the day once you are done and go home.... I did GYN two days a week, all day, usually 5-6 cases per day for a year and a half..... half seen plenty and nothing bothers me much anymore, did have to do a case with a severely infected lady parts/buttocks area the other day that had such an odor to it it made my eyes water on contact, the smell didnt bother me but the chemical vapor of it got my eyes to watering even with eye protection during the prep.... i have pulled cockroaches out of large womens bellybuttons..... seen condylomas the size of coliflower heads..... dead babies hanging half way out.... its all very interesting/fun/disturbing all at the same time...... There was nothing like the emotional energy that I felt delivering babies, I would still get to scrub/circulate csections up until we closed our OB department and took it over with surgery.... I would always get watery eyes when I saw and felt the energy in a delivery room.....

OH MY GOSH thats horrible!! after that case im sure you welcomed the "clean ones" who just needed a annual check up!

lol I think i would have lost it with the roach! Thanks for the story! that made my day. that was about as bad as the one i read about the old lady that put a peanut butter & jelly samwhich in her vag. nurses' didnt find it for a few days, you can imagine the smell!

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I may be way off base here but here goes:

your wife needs to get over it! Putting a stop to what your partner wants is a sure fire way to end a relationship.

There are compromises all the time but you still need to feel that you are getting your way 50% of the time - lol!

Hubby and I have been married almost 30 years now. We have been separated for months at a time due to our military committments, we have been poor, we have had very ill children and we have gone thru a lot. We currently live 165 miles apart so we can both have jobs we enjoy.

In the end, compromise is the name of the game with relationships as well as life in general....I know I sound like my mother too! lol

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