Need some advice...

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Specializes in OB.

So, let me start by saying that I cannot even believe this is happening to me at 42 yrs of age...I thought this would be done and overwith at this stage of my life...anyway, it turns out that I am sensing some underlying cattiness, backlash, attitude, whatever you want to call it, from my coworkers (some of which I considered close friends) all because I am personal friends with our charge nurse. I have always been very careful to prove that I can be trusted, I have always been "the glue that holds us together"...I make coffee for everyone, I am the one that plans the parties, when we order dinner out, I am the one that puts it all together, I am the "welcoming committee" to all the new nurses, techs, etc when they start on our shift...I am suddenly feeling some coldness, and just general uncomfortableness at work...anyone ever go through this? what to do...:confused:

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may be you need to ask them.You probably have hurt their feelings unknowingly or they are having wrong impression about you.:nurse:

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Specializes in Nurse Leader specializing in Labor & Delivery.

Why would being friends with the charge nurse cause them to be catty? In our unit, the charge nurse is a nurse, just like any other. She's one of us.

I guess what I mean is, are you sure *that* is the reason why they're acting that way? It just doesn't seem very likely to me.

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Specializes in Hospital Education Coordinator.

have to meet it head on. Evidently there is gossip at work.

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Ask someone that you're fairly close with what's up. Do you think you could have done something to offend someone? Being friends with the charge nurse doesn't make people not like you unless you're sucking up or talking about them. Just watch what you're doing, if you did anything, it was unintentional. Don't get too hung up on the drama.

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Specializes in Oncology, Med-Surg, Nursery.

I would ask them what is going on. Explain that you are all grown women and you trust this can be worked out in a mature manner.

I am not downing OB at all, I swear it. There is drama everywhere I have worked to some extent. I have found, at my facility, that OB is probably the most drama filled floor in the hospital. I blame all the hormones, lol. I just keep quiet and mind my own business.

Hopefully everything works out fine! :)

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Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.

I have no problem being direct and asking if there is a problem, in private. That usually defuses such situations.

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Specializes in Nurse Leader specializing in Labor & Delivery.
I am not downing OB at all, I swear it. There is drama everywhere I have worked to some extent. I have found, at my facility, that OB is probably the most drama filled floor in the hospital. I blame all the hormones, lol. I just keep quiet and mind my own business.

I think any workplace in which you have it populated almost exclusively with women, it's going to be that way. My husband is an RN for a home hospice company and he's the only male there. He's ALWAYS talking about the drama and cattiness that goes on.

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Specializes in LTC, Memory loss, PDN.

This is just an observation so please don't take offense. Read your post again and look at how most of your sentences start with " I ".

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Specializes in OB.

Thanks for all the great advice...I did talk to one of my coworkers tonight and she really didn't say that she knew anything in particular that could be wrong...As far as why I may think that being friends with the charge nurse might be an issue...although our charge nurses are also just nurses as well, they are in a more supervisory position and therefore are the ones responsible for evaluations, "reprimands", and pretty much not always the positive encounters...as far as my frequent use of "I" in my thread...my intent was to show that I really go out of my way to be friendly to everyone and not be viewed as a "threat" or someone they need to be weary of...maybe I am not explaining myself correctly...if you have any other advice, it is always welcome...

BTW, I have only been a nurse for 4yrs and had never worked with so many women in my previous career...but I do agree, there is constant drama...not sure if it's just OB or what, but holy ?!@*% it is neverending...thx again:nurse:

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